The wife is a pearl the needs to be protected in a manner that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala prescribes for us. Her dignity and her honor is given to her by Allah and is sacred.
The woman has to cover not because she is worthless, but because she is more valuable that all the diamonds of the whole universe. Her dignity and honor and her blood is more sacred than the sanctity of Al Kaaba.
The observance of hijaab is a way to show how valuable she is. Just one percent of her honor and dignity is much more valuable than millions of diamonds in the size of the sun.
Adam alayhissalam had the privilege that he was created by Allah's Hands in a manner that suits His Majesty. However, he was created on earth. After he was created, Adam was placed into Jannah.
Hawwa radi Allahu anha had the privilege of being created in Jannah. Women should recognize their sanctity and her role in this life and in the afterlife.
The society depends on how the family works. If the families are bad the society will turn bad and other way around. The wife is the heart of the family/household while the husband is the head of the household.
If the wife/mother goes astray then it has greater effect on the family and society than if the husband/father goes astray. I know of cases where the husband went astray, but because of the strength of the wife/mother and the Will of Allah the children became righteous and because of their patience and obedience toward her husband despite his evil, he made a U-Turn and became righteous.
The woman/wife/mother is the heart of the family and the household. If the heart leaves the family and the society becomes heartless. If the heart becomes like a solid rock the family will be like a solid rock and the society.
The heart cannot function without the brain/head and the brain cannot work without the heart. The brain leads the heart and gives order to the heart to function properly, but the brain receives the blood from the heart. The heart serves the heart by pumping blood into it.
Wife and husband cannot live without each other, even in times of conflict.
Husband and wife are like mouth and tongue. Sometimes, you bite your tongue, but the tongue cannot run away and the mouth cannot separate from the tongue. Most of the time the work together and they are companions to each other. The same thing is true for husband and wife. No conflict should be the reason for abandoning our companionships between wife and husband.
The wife should always be ready to stand for her husband and defend him in his absence. And if there is a conflict the wife or he husband should keep it private. She should always try everything to keep the companionship alive.
The wife should know that women are verbal creatures and men are visual-spacial creatures. They react differently because of this. Women are superior naturally when it comes to speaking and verbal argument.
I like when women are soft and merciful and far away from being harsh.
Husband and wife are not together to compete each other but to complete each other.
Edited by Yusha, 22 December 2010 - 09:52 PM.