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[muzur]

Salams,
i can understand ###### with what he is trying to say. And he is absolutely right. But it doesnt happen like that all the time. I met with 2 people in real life that i knew from internet. Mashallah they are both very nice. But we should be of course careful, cuz it may be dangerous.

[Umm e Sarwat]

Assalam alaikum


well yes I would marry the person if my shaikh (Spiritual guide) agrees to teh marriage and i am ensured about the goodness of the person .

Jazak Allah khair ...

was saalam

[River]

Never again..

There is too much that is hidden from you. You don't get the REAL sense of the person thru words written online. It is nothing like dating, and getting to know how the person reacts in every situation. How the person really lives, who the friends are, and you certainly do NOT see the OTHER side of the individual online, like you do live and in person.

I do NOT recommend this for ANYONE...

[Elidicious]

Never again..

There is too much that is hidden from you. You don't get the REAL sense of the person thru words written online. It is nothing like dating, and getting to know how the person reacts in every situation. How the person really lives, who the friends are, and you certainly do NOT see the OTHER side of the individual online, like you do live and in person.

I do NOT recommend this for ANYONE...

well...when you MEET this person online...and you think about marriage...
you don't have to get married immediately.
you can meet the person in the REAL LIFE ...and then decide..

the question is "marry someone you meet online" ...and NOT "getting married through the knowledges of that person you got to see online
so there's a difference.

[Nic the Muslim]

I figure that the internet is a nice place to start, but much can be concealed over the net. Such concealment, as I've heard from my relatives, could turn out to be something as tame as them giving out a fake name, to something much, much more serious, like them giving out their wrong gender. Not to dissuade you from acting on this, but in my opinion I feel that it's too big of a risk.

[Zinc15]

You can find some really good people online.
But I think it would be too risky to marry someone you met online.
Its all based on trust, i guess

Safety and peace be upon all muslims.Ameen.

[River]

well...when you MEET this person online...and you think about marriage...
you don't have to get married immediately.
you can meet the person in the REAL LIFE ...and then decide..

the question is "marry someone you meet online" ...and NOT "getting married through the knowledges of that person you got to see online
so there's a difference.

I still do not recommend it at all.........

[Aylin]

what ever Allah has written will happen...

Totally agree .

[Nile_Salafy]

Yes I would

[AsadullahHamza]

No soul has authority over another. Guidance and straying is a matter between God and you.




aakwrAllahwbHu



I met a Shia girl some seven years back, but it didn't work out.

I met another girl some twenty months back, and both of us do intend to marry. And what Allah AWJ Wills.

Alhamdu lillahi Rabbil aalameen.



la ilaaha illaa Allaahu Al-‘Atheemu Al-Haleemu, la ilaaha illaa Allaahu Rabbul ‘arshil-‘atheemi, la ilaaha illaa Allaahu Rabbus-samaawaati wa Rabbul-ardhi wa Rabbul-‘arshil-kareemi
there is no god except Allah, the All-Mighty, the Forbearing; there is no god except Allah, the Lord of the Mighty Throne;
there is no god except Allah, Lord of the heavens, Lord of the earth and Lord of the noble Throne.

Edited by AsadullahHamza, 27 December 2010 - 04:12 AM.

[Proud Muslima]

Asslamu alikum ,,

I voted " Maybe " because it depends on the person , but I would prefer the traditional way or at least someone I know very well even if it is online because I can't trust whom I meet on the internet , especially when it comes to the deen .

what ever Allah has written will happen.

True

[AsadullahHamza]

No soul has authority over another. Guidance and straying is a matter between God and you.


aakwrAllahwbHu


I know it is an indispensable need to make sure everything is in order, and I am not advocating recklessness, but the fact remains that even a near-perfect past does not guarantee an agreeable future.

There are benefits and drawbacks both the ways. I have known a case or two where extensive spying has been availed of in each of the two methods. I have known cases where minimal inquiries have been made. In the end, it comes down to playing your own part. :-)



la ilaaha illaa Allaahu Al-‘Atheemu Al-Haleemu, la ilaaha illaa Allaahu Rabbul ‘arshil-‘atheemi, la ilaaha illaa Allaahu Rabbus-samaawaati wa Rabbul-ardhi wa Rabbul-‘arshil-kareemi
there is no god except Allah, the All-Mighty, the Forbearing; there is no god except Allah, the Lord of the Mighty Throne;
there is no god except Allah, Lord of the heavens, Lord of the earth and Lord of the noble Throne.

[In War with me]

To marry an online contact,one (usually) needs to chat for extensively long hours before finally deciding.Haram and dangerous.I hope not to commit that.

Though the final act of marriage may be halaal,the process mostly is haram.

Edited by In War with me, 10 June 2011 - 03:20 PM.

[AsadullahHamza]

No soul has authority over another. Guidance and straying is a matter between God and you.



aakwrAllahwbHu



Twice have I have managed to land myself in an online relationship, and, alhamdulillah, I believe it is second time lucky for me. Nor has anything worthy of censure transpired, alhamdulillah.



Alhamdu lillahi Rabbil aalameen.



la ilaaha illaa Allaahu Al-‘Atheemu Al-Haleemu, la ilaaha illaa Allaahu Rabbul ‘arshil-‘atheemi,
la ilaaha illaa Allaahu Rabbus-samaawaati wa Rabbul-ardhi wa Rabbul-‘arshil-kareemi
there is no god except Allah, the All-Mighty, the Forbearing; there is no god except Allah, the Lord of the Mighty Throne;
there is no god except Allah, Lord of the heavens, Lord of the earth and Lord of the noble Throne.

[asifsabir]

if it is not allowed in Islam then i guess i will not ...my answer would be maybe ,,,personally i support it rather then traditional marriage happening in Islamic countries all these years.... because over here you get to communicate with the person nd discuss comparability issue ....infact i think this option is more halal then meeting the girl physically but people should be careful over searching a partner the internet as u dont know who is the person really is...

[In War with me]

I know through many ways,how online love can be dangerous and threat to one's morale.Its too glamorous.Even recently, one of close relative became a victim of online love and she did stupid stupid things to marry that guy.The guy ,in fact,is a fraud. But infatuation is blind isn't it. Please pray that her eyes should be opened.

[AsadullahHamza]

No soul has authority over another. Guidance and straying is a matter between God and you.



aakwrAllahwbHu

asifsabir says:

if it is not allowed in Islam then i guess i will not ...my answer would be maybe ,,,personally i support it rather then traditional marriage happening in Islamic countries all these years.... because over here you get to communicate with the person nd discuss comparability issue ....infact i think this option is more halal then meeting the girl physically but people should be careful over searching a partner the internet as u dont know who is the person really is...

In my case, the second time around, both of us got to know each other's ideas and inclinations extremely well before love cast its net on us. She is not a Muslim, and yet she is one of the few girls with whom I share any kind of rapport when it comes to God and religion. Would this have been possible in real life? I doubt, but Allah AWJ Alone knows His Ways. Alhamdulillah.

Sister In War with me says:

I know through many ways,how online love can be dangerous and threat to one's morale.Its too glamorous.Even recently, one of close relative became a victim of online love and she did stupid stupid things to marry that guy.The guy ,in fact,is a fraud. But infatuation is blind isn't it. Please pray that her eyes should be opened.

I do believe that "stupid things," frauds, and infatuation have not been assigned to the domain of the world wide web alone. May Allah AWJ grant your relative that which she seeks and that which is the best. Alhamdulillah.


Alhamdulillahi Rabbil aalameen.



la ilaaha illaa Allaahu Al-‘Atheemu Al-Haleemu, la ilaaha illaa Allaahu Rabbul ‘arshil-‘atheemi,
la ilaaha illaa Allaahu Rabbus-samaawaati wa Rabbul-ardhi wa Rabbul-‘arshil-kareemi
there is no god except Allah, the All-Mighty, the Forbearing; there is no god except Allah, the Lord of the Mighty Throne;
there is no god except Allah, Lord of the heavens, Lord of the earth and Lord of the noble Throne.

[In War with me]

^ My intention was not to criticize your act or anything.I hope you dont misunderstand. But you seem to commend internet relationships.I dont support that (online relationships).But there are cases,isolated cases. But Allah is the judge.I hope our affairs and hearts are kept clean. ameeen

May Allah AWJ grant your relative that which she seeks and that which is the best.

Ameen! I pray her heart in set in pleasing her Rabb,ameen.

[AsadullahHamza]

No soul has authority over another. Guidance and straying is a matter between God and you.



aakwrAllahwbHu

^ My intention was not to criticize your act or anything.I hope you dont misunderstand.

And I do not misunderstand you, my dear sister, alhamdulillah!!

But you seem to commend internet relationships.I dont support that (online relationships).But there are cases,isolated cases. But Allah is the judge.

Let's put it this way: I don't suggest that people should get online and go on a spouse-hunt. In my case, both (my relationships) began unintentionally-- one failed while Allah AWJ blessed the other. Yes, I do consider myself unbelievably lucky to have found the wonderful girl I am with, but I also accept that things are according to Allah's Will and not ours, so it could have been another failed relationship, and it can still be -- Allah Alone knows the future.

As for dangers, I just pointed out that dangers exist in the virtual world as well as the real world -- nowhere is one "safe" from being "tested".

I hope our affairs and hearts are kept clean. ameeen

Ameen! I pray her heart in set in pleasing her Rabb,ameen.

Mashallah..may Allah AWJ also alleviate your suffering on her account!! Aameen!!


Alhamdu lillahi Rabbil aalameen.



la ilaaha illaa Allaahu Al-‘Atheemu Al-Haleemu, la ilaaha illaa Allaahu Rabbul ‘arshil-‘atheemi,
la ilaaha illaa Allaahu Rabbus-samaawaati wa Rabbul-ardhi wa Rabbul-‘arshil-kareemi
there is no god except Allah, the All-Mighty, the Forbearing; there is no god except Allah, the Lord of the Mighty Throne;
there is no god except Allah, Lord of the heavens, Lord of the earth and Lord of the noble Throne.

[In War with me]

QUOTE(salwa @ Mar 2 2007, 02:46 PM) *
alsalamu 'alaikom,

If marrying someone I found out about online is what Allah has for me then I obide with acceptance and gratitude.

But there are many conditions to the "meeting":

1- That we never contact eachother online. This only in the most brings about fitnah. If for some people it worked then those incedents are exceptions, and in the deen you cant build rules on exceptions.

2- That my mahram is aware in the first place that I am looking, and he has the way to check on me when ever he wants.

3- That no photos, or personal contact is exchanged. If the brother wants to see me then he comes for a lawful sighting with my muhram present.

4- That no promises are made until we see eachother.

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but unfortunately very few people follow these conditions.....

Already mentioned. Completely agree.