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Poll: Partner who cheats on you (79 member(s) have cast votes)

What would you do if you found out that your partner hascheated on you?

  1. I would forgive her/him anyway...i love her/him too much to let her/him go. (7 votes [8.86%])

    Percentage of vote: 8.86%

  2. I don't know. It depends on the situation. i can't say if i would forgive her/him or not. (31 votes [39.24%])

    Percentage of vote: 39.24%

  3. I don't think i would forgive her/him this mistake. Though i love her/him this is un-forgivable whatever the reason would be. (40 votes [50.63%])

    Percentage of vote: 50.63%

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#1 personality

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Posted 11 March 2007 - 11:05 AM

I don't think i would forgive her. If she really loves me than she would never do it.

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Posted 11 March 2007 - 11:15 AM

Option 2 for me. :sl:

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Posted 11 March 2007 - 11:40 AM

I give only one chance; if he screws it he's outa here - no turning back.

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Posted 11 March 2007 - 11:42 AM

Option 2 for me. :sl:

OK

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Posted 11 March 2007 - 11:42 AM

I give only one chance; if he screws it he's outa here - no turning back.

:sl: :sl:

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Posted 11 March 2007 - 11:43 AM

Option 2 for me. :sl:

Hey but why haven't you voted?

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Posted 11 March 2007 - 12:30 PM

i don't think i would forgive...

:sl:

#8 Hira (Devout)

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Posted 11 March 2007 - 02:20 PM

option 2
i am very Kind hearted :sl:

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Posted 11 March 2007 - 02:47 PM

option 2
i am very Kind hearted :sl:

good and bad for you at the same time.

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Posted 12 March 2007 - 05:16 PM

It really depends on the situation. If children are involved, then I probably will forgive.

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Posted 12 March 2007 - 08:34 PM

i would forgive her.

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Posted 12 March 2007 - 09:39 PM

:sl:


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:sl: maybe if it was permitted in Islam, but since it isn't...


I'd boot her!

w/salaam

Edited by noxiouspython, 12 March 2007 - 09:40 PM.


#13 k-meleon

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Posted 12 March 2007 - 10:09 PM

:sl:

What is the definition of 'cheating'?
Some people would consider 'close non-mahram friendship' as cheating.
What's the context of the poll question?

:sl:

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Posted 12 March 2007 - 10:18 PM

wouldn 't forgive him .

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Posted 13 March 2007 - 08:45 AM

What is the definition of 'cheating'?


I understood it as "the whole nine yards".

Attempting to and then decieding not not puts me in option 2. If he went all the way then he is history.

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Posted 13 March 2007 - 12:13 PM

:sl:
Sorry but I don't think I could ever forgive that and I would divorce him. (Even if I did stay with him, I would always have this thing against him and things would never be the same)

Insha'Allah that never happens!

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Posted 13 March 2007 - 12:49 PM

Oh dear!

Whilst I know I should forgive, I know I'd be unable to if it came to the crunch. Number 2 for me then, as context would be important. A drunken fling would be a very different matter from cheating over a long period of time with a woman he'd built a relationship with. The second is far less forgiveable in my eyes.

I hate knowing what I should do yet being unable to do it. :sl:

Peace and Love,

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Posted 13 March 2007 - 04:14 PM

Depends on the situation and the reasoning behing it. In most cases I could imagine I wouldn't be able to continue in a relationship since there would have been a breach of trust.

Also depends on how I came to find out, whether I was told by my 'partner' or found out some other way.

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Posted 13 March 2007 - 04:18 PM

salam

i would chose option 2.

was salam

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Posted 13 March 2007 - 04:38 PM

:sl: / Greetings to All

Hard to say how I would react in such an emotionally trying situation...I guess this goes for everybody else as well...at least for those who have not gone through such a horrible experience...

Everyone, or those who at least aspire to be good to others, would aspire to be like what is said in option 1, or some might even be that forgiving already. But judging from my past experiences with friends, I don't look too kindly towards betrayers, and I think I would react similarly to what is said in option 3...

Really, only Allah knows. Inshallah, as a previous poster said, I hope it does not happen to me...

:sl: / Greetings