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Poll: Partner who cheats on you (79 member(s) have cast votes)

What would you do if you found out that your partner hascheated on you?

  1. I would forgive her/him anyway...i love her/him too much to let her/him go. (7 votes [8.86%])

    Percentage of vote: 8.86%

  2. I don't know. It depends on the situation. i can't say if i would forgive her/him or not. (31 votes [39.24%])

    Percentage of vote: 39.24%

  3. I don't think i would forgive her/him this mistake. Though i love her/him this is un-forgivable whatever the reason would be. (40 votes [50.63%])

    Percentage of vote: 50.63%

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personality's Photo personality 11 Mar 2007

I don't think i would forgive her. If she really loves me than she would never do it.
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strider's Photo strider 11 Mar 2007

Option 2 for me. :sl:
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Mahawi's Photo Mahawi 11 Mar 2007

I give only one chance; if he screws it he's outa here - no turning back.
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personality's Photo personality 11 Mar 2007

Option 2 for me. :sl:

OK
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personality's Photo personality 11 Mar 2007

I give only one chance; if he screws it he's outa here - no turning back.

:sl: :sl:
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personality's Photo personality 11 Mar 2007

Option 2 for me. :sl:

Hey but why haven't you voted?
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Ajmal's Photo Ajmal 11 Mar 2007

i don't think i would forgive...

:sl:
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Hira (Devout)'s Photo Hira (Devout) 11 Mar 2007

option 2
i am very Kind hearted :sl:
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personality's Photo personality 11 Mar 2007

option 2
i am very Kind hearted :sl:

good and bad for you at the same time.
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Weirdo's Photo Weirdo 12 Mar 2007

It really depends on the situation. If children are involved, then I probably will forgive.
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nasy's Photo nasy 12 Mar 2007

i would forgive her.
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noxiouspython's Photo noxiouspython 12 Mar 2007

:sl:


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:sl: maybe if it was permitted in Islam, but since it isn't...


I'd boot her!

w/salaam
Edited by noxiouspython, 12 March 2007 - 09:40 PM.
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k-meleon's Photo k-meleon 12 Mar 2007

:sl:

What is the definition of 'cheating'?
Some people would consider 'close non-mahram friendship' as cheating.
What's the context of the poll question?

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reborn in Christ's Photo reborn in Christ 12 Mar 2007

wouldn 't forgive him .
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Mahawi's Photo Mahawi 13 Mar 2007

What is the definition of 'cheating'?


I understood it as "the whole nine yards".

Attempting to and then decieding not not puts me in option 2. If he went all the way then he is history.
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Princess Mujahada's Photo Princess Mujahada 13 Mar 2007

:sl:
Sorry but I don't think I could ever forgive that and I would divorce him. (Even if I did stay with him, I would always have this thing against him and things would never be the same)

Insha'Allah that never happens!
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darla_1753's Photo darla_1753 13 Mar 2007

Oh dear!

Whilst I know I should forgive, I know I'd be unable to if it came to the crunch. Number 2 for me then, as context would be important. A drunken fling would be a very different matter from cheating over a long period of time with a woman he'd built a relationship with. The second is far less forgiveable in my eyes.

I hate knowing what I should do yet being unable to do it. :sl:

Peace and Love,

DARLA
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Ecko_Blue's Photo Ecko_Blue 13 Mar 2007

Depends on the situation and the reasoning behing it. In most cases I could imagine I wouldn't be able to continue in a relationship since there would have been a breach of trust.

Also depends on how I came to find out, whether I was told by my 'partner' or found out some other way.
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ejurrasic's Photo ejurrasic 13 Mar 2007

salam

i would chose option 2.

was salam
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freedslave's Photo freedslave 13 Mar 2007

:sl: / Greetings to All

Hard to say how I would react in such an emotionally trying situation...I guess this goes for everybody else as well...at least for those who have not gone through such a horrible experience...

Everyone, or those who at least aspire to be good to others, would aspire to be like what is said in option 1, or some might even be that forgiving already. But judging from my past experiences with friends, I don't look too kindly towards betrayers, and I think I would react similarly to what is said in option 3...

Really, only Allah knows. Inshallah, as a previous poster said, I hope it does not happen to me...

:sl: / Greetings
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