'Aayeshah Radiyallahu 'Anha reports, that:
It was not the nature of Rasulullah Sallallahu 'Alayhi Wasallam to talk indecently, nor did he engage himself in the use of obscene language. Nor did he shout and talk in the bazaars (which is against dignity). He did not avenge a bad deed with a bad one, but forgave it, and thereafter did not even mention it
[Il Tirmidhi. Chapter 47. No. 5][size=3]Also in the commentary of the hadith a story is shared. Please read on, there is a beneficial lesson to be learnt in this story[using large font size is not allowed]
Prophet Muhammad pbuh had taken a loan of money from zaid bin sanah who was then a jew. They made an agreement and a few days later Zaid saw the prophet:
''Rasulullah was sitting near a well while returning from a funeral with the Sahaabah, among whom were Abubakr, 'Umar, and 'Uthmaan. I came and caught the hem of the kurtah and sheet of Sayyidina Rasulullah Sallallahu 'Alayhi Wasallam and cynically said: 'O Muhammad, you do not want to pay my debt. I swear by Allah, that I know all the children of 'Abdul Muttalib very well. You are very poor payers'. 'Umar looked at me in anger and said: 'O enemy of Allah! what are you mumbling? I swear by Allah, that if I did not fear (the presence of Rasulullah) I would have severed your head'. Rasulullah was looking at me very calmly, and said smilingly to 'Umar: ''Umar, This person and I are in need of something more. He should have told me to take care in fulfilling his rights and should have advised in a better manner when putting forward his claim. Go take him and fulfil his rights, and for having scolded him give him in lieu twenty saa' (approximately two mann approx 66,5 kg) dates extra in excess of his right'. Umar took me and fulfilled my rights and gave me the twenty extra saa'. I asked: 'For what are these twenty extra saa'? ''Umar replied: 'This is the command of Rasulullah'. Zayd Radiyallahu 'Anhu said: ''Umar do you know me? 'Umar replied: No' I said: I am Zayd bin Sa'nah. He asked: 'The Allaamah (great learned) of the Jews? 'I replied: 'I am that very person'. He said: 'Being a man of such calibre, why did you behave before Rasulullah in such a manner?'. I replied: 'Two signs from the signs of prophethood were left, which I was not able to test. The first is the hilm (gentleness) of Rasulullah Sallallahu 'Alayhi Wasallam supersedes his anger. The second is that, the more one acts foolishly towards him, the more he will tolerate it. Now I have tested these two also, therefore I make you witness to my acceptance of Islam
.''Things to learn from this:
1. Zaid said to Muhammad he was a poor payer , to which Muhammad did not respond negatively
- now this may have been insulting for another person as we can see from the reaction of Umar.
2. Muhammad actually criticised the behaviour of Umar in front of Zaid which showed that Muhammad was consistent in his teachings
and did not excuse his close friends from being aware of these teachings. (How many times do we ourselves excuse the behaviour of our friends even though we know it is wrong?)
3. Muhammad was aware of his responsibility
and said that Zaid was right to come and remind him. This also shows that Muhammad did not allow pride to overcome him
in matters as he was a humble character. (Imagine how would you react if someone you owed money to came and asked you to pay up in front of your close friends.)
4. Muhammad pointed out that Zaid could have said what he did in a better manner
- like the hadith said Muhammad did not avenge a bad deed with a bad deed. Muhammad probably knew that by engaging in name calling etc would have made the situation worse so he looked for a better way to solve the situation.
5. Muhammad gave Zaid his rights
, ordered Umar to to give Zaid some extra
for having talked in bad way.
The lesson: see how the behaviour of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him had influence on Zaid a Jewish man who then decided made to become a Muslim. That is why as Muslims we should be aware of how we behave towards others because we could be influencing their view of Islam.
Edited by Lost_In_Paradise, 13 January 2012 - 10:13 PM.