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[tiredseeker]

I am convinced that miracles can happen, but I have little faith in them happening to me. I see so much sickness in pain in so many people and it scares me. I am no different than the young men and women who suddenly are afflicted with cancer or other life threatening diseases. I don't feel special, and I haven't done anything to deserve better. If such bad things happen to good people, then I question my faith and life.
I have read that when a baby is conceived, Allah immediately decrees whether the child will be blessed, or cursed. I have very negative thoughts, such as what if Allah chose me to be cursed? I know this may sound very silly, but these are very real thoughts to me. I suffer from very bad anxiety and a lot of my brain and focus goes towards being afraid of having an incurable disease. What I believe I have varies, but it's always the same fear and feeling of helplessness. It consumes me, and I begin to fear that there is no hereafter and fear dying so young and so on. This kind of negative thoughts can cause a vicious cycle that spirals down.
I ask Allah to cure me, but I don't understand how I am supposed to believe that He will when so many people are suffering, and many of these people might deserve to be cured more than me. I mean, maybe some of these people have saved handful of lives, or will discover something that will end poverty and hunger. If they aren't cured, it's hard for me to believe that I will be.

I'm writing this because I'm hoping someone will be able to console me on my fears and turn my thinking around.

I want to believe.

[WeAreComming]

Assalamualikum, brother first of all, lets take a deep breath and calm down, regarding the issue of disease and sickness, think of it as a cure; that is why when a muslim visits a sick person he says and is suppose to say: ""There is no problem, If Allah wills, He will purge your sins by this illness."
And Allah says in the quran: "

Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity." <--- Lets say you are afflicted with a hardship or disease it won't be bigger than what you can handle.

Secondly regarding the issue of your destiny, yyu are misinterpreting; the humans have a free will they can follow Islam and end up in Jannah , the writing of the child's being blesses or cursed has a wisdom by itself and it is showing Allah knowledge over the unseen(ghaib), not like this one is hellfire, and Jannah and picking and choosing, NO rather the person chooses himself, but Allah is showing his knowledge over his creation. And Allah Knows Best.

These thoughts are from Shaitan, Allah loves you 70 times more than your mother, so do you think your mother will throw you in fire (this is a hadith), rather yu strive to be good, and whenever you make a mistake repent immediatly don't procrastinate, never think Allah won't forgive you, he is ever merciful.

There are hadiths on what you can do to stop these thoughts if yu are interested just message me.

[Younes]

As-salamu 'alaikum wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuh

(155. And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sabirin (the patient).) (156. Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: "Truly, to Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return.'') (157. They are those on whom are the Salawat (i.e., who are blessed and will be forgiven) from their Lord, and (they are those who) receive His mercy, and it is they who are the guided ones.) (From Surah number 2)

You should also know that God forgives believers through sickness.

Read the story of Ayyub/Job (pbuh).

Becoming sick is not a sign of being cursed. You set your priorities straight, brother, which means that you will worship God until the end whether you are perfectly healthy or sick. Keep praying the five daily prayers, give Zakat, fast Ramadan if you can, go to Hajj if you have the financial and physical means and fulfill your obligations. Keep yourself active so you don't think of these thoughts.