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[AlBawasel]

Assalamu Alaikum

I have a dilemma that i would like to get some insight on.

I have been married for the 2 and half years now. I am in the U.S and chose to do an Islamic marriage not a Civil marriage, so it only involved
me, my wife, the Imam, and witnesses of course. It was done in the Masjid according to the Sharea'a.

The imam asked me to stop a week later to pick up the unofficial marriage certificate ( it was NOT a government official certificate and it did
NOT need to be filed with the city nor the government, just an unofficial certificate for our records) ... I went the week after and the
certificate wasn't ready yet. I was told to go the following week, but then i had to leave the country for a few months, and when i returned the
Imam had gone back to his native country for good. I didn't mind because at some point down the road we were going to file an official certificate with the city, but we have not yet.

Problem is this, unfortunately, things are not working out and we are looking to get divorced ( we have been trying for a year now to make things
work, but it's not happening).

Today i went to the Masjid to ask if there's anything to do as far as the unofficial certificate, and they said they don't have it and they can't
contact the Imam that performed the marriage.

My question is, how do i go about doing the divorce at this point ?

jazakom Allah kol el khair.

[Younes]

Wa 'alaikumu as-salamu wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuh

The process is quite simple. You say to your wife that you have divorced her, i.e. "I divorce you", "I give you a divorce". Thus you will become divorced. She will have to observe her 'Iddah period. After that period you can take her back if you think it is a good idea. If not, then you will remain divorced.

[Younes]

If you are asking about whether to divorce her or not or for some advice, which I don't think you are, then we would need a few more details on your situation.

[AlBawasel]

Wa 'alaikumu as-salamu wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuh

The process is quite simple. You say to your wife that you have divorced her, i.e. "I divorce you", "I give you a divorce". Thus you will become divorced. She will have to observe her 'Iddah period. After that period you can take her back if you think it is a good idea. If not, then you will remain divorced.

Thank you brother for the response... no i am not looking for advice as to whether to divorce or not.. that decision has already been reached.

I wanted to know if there's any significance or importance for that unofficial certificate the Imam was supposed to give me.

[Younes]

The certificate has no function when it comes to divorce.