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  1. Urgent! I Badly Need To Get Marry!

    selam aleykum Which of the follwing two options give you the highest probability of finding someone. 1. The whole world is lokoing for a partner for you, but Allah (s.w.t)decides it's not time yet. 2. Nobody is looking, but Allah (swt) wants to reward you with a pious husband. Never underestimate the power of Dua. It is a gift we muslims have recieved, Use it. And the more you strive for Allah, the more Allah will strive for you. May Allah help you on the right path Inshallah, and find you a good and pious husband inshallah.
  2. What Should I Do?

    Selam aleykum Good point about not revealing each others secrets, but on the other hand don't we also have a responsability to help each other with our flaws, give guidance and advice where needed?
  3. What Should I Do?

    I agree, this is a perfect opportunity for you to reward him for all the beautiful things he's thought/given you. Make dua like you never gave before. Make it count. Inshallah Allah will help him realise hiw mistake. I don't know wheter or not you think this is discusable with him. I guess that would depend on the relation you have with him. And it's extremely dificult for an outsider to tell wheter or not it would be beneficial to bring this up with him. You know him best, is he going to freak out, get angry, ... when you bring this up. Does he listen or is he very authorotive. Very hard to say. If you do decide to talk about it with him, here's a thought. Bring it up in a way that it's obvious what you're talking about, yet that he has the room to avoid the conversation. By doing this, you can wait and see his reaction. If he starts denying, or if he seems frustrated angry, just drop it there, don't go in to it. Excuse yourself. Chances are he won't go into it either if this is the case. May Allah guide you inshallah.
  4. I Can't Bare It Anylonger........

    Selam aleykum Brother, take control over your life. Stop listening to shaytan. You have the power, all you need to do now is realise it. ALhamdoelillah you already fear Allah, that puts you halfway, now take it home. Surrender to Islam forget your earthly desires. You know the truth, now accept it! People often don't realise this. We have freedom of choice! Shaytan makes us think that we do not, that we simply follow cause and effect. this is wrong. You can change any second. All it takes is willpower. From the moment you realise that. Decide that you won't give in. In fact, don't even give in into the thought of fighting it. Don't even give in into the thought of failing in fighting it. Remember brother, it's never to late, no matter what lies in your past, no point in crying over spilled milk, focus on the future. Make this very second that you're reading this your turning point. May you be guided on the right path and kept safe from the whispers of Shaytan inshallah.
  5. I'm Too Sensitive For This World.

    Selam aleykum Brother don't be sad. Allah has gifted you with a very pure heart. You should be happy. Yes I know, it hurts, its difficult and at some times its easy to get despair. But after you cry during prayer, don't you feel a lot better (besides perhaps headaches)? Be patient my brother. Remember Allah loves you dearly. He has gifted you with a heart full of compasion to keep you on the straight path. Inshallah you shall recieve beautifull compensation in the afterlife. Remember, By Allah, this world in comparison to the hereafter is nothing but as though one of you dipped his finger in the sea. So ponder how much, the finger returns with.
  6. As a revert myself, I know exactly what youmean sister. Especially my father, he died before I reverted, so I didn't even had a chance of introducing the message to him. And everything I try to do seems to work against me. the onlything that works: make dua and set a good example. Really this will help you a lot more then anything else. Make dua, ask for Allah to make your family's heart weak to Islam. Remember, if someone is guided by Allah no person can lead him/her astray, but when someone is misguided, no person can set him straight. So make dua, make their heart weak, don't focus to much on details and theorys and convincing. that's the best advice I can give you. I'm also learning it as I go along. Sad, because I feel I don't have the luxery of slipping once in a while.
  7. Suicide...

    Selam aleykum May Allah help you to overcome these hardships inshallah, be patient brother. In times of despair, try to remind yourself: when commiting suicide, one trades in the small hardships of this world for big hardships in the next. I'm not saying your hardships are futile, but should you commit suicide, then your hardships in the next could be a lot bigger. What's the point of living if you're gonna give in to major sin? My brother open your eyes, you have a choice! All you need to do is "want". That is more then enough to follow the right path. Obviously there will always be errors and mishabs, nobody 's perfect, but the idea is to strive. To keep at it. Wheter you fail or succeed, at least do as you believe is right. May Allah inshallah guide you.
  8. Help Me Prove This Evolution Theory Wrong

    The most important thing when discussing evolution: pick your battles well. There's a lot of stuff that is considered part of evolution but actually isn't. Some parts are proven right, some parts are very doubtfull. It's important to set out your goals (what do you try to disprove) from the beginning. Here's some explenations to avoid confusion. Mutation: When an ofspring, due to a malfunctioning has difrent DNA, which causes it to have difrent charesteristics then it's parents. (this is proven to have happened) Natural selection: The idea that such ofsprings, when their new charesteristic is an advantage, will eventually take over the population trough generations as weaker ones will die faster.(this is very logical) Evolution: The theory that Mutation + natural selection = variety in species. Note that this is not a purpose minded proces according to classical evolution. A mutation is always accedential. And the proces of natural selection only steps in afterwards, when the creature already evolved. The idea that creatures evolve out of adaptation is a misconception. Adaptation is a whoel difrent thing, it's a special part of natural selection, it does not influence the mutations that occur. Common descent: Some peopel claim that this isn't actually a part of the evolution theory, but it's usually asumed as being part of it. This is the theory that since some creatures evolve out of one another, it s likely that all evolved out of a single one. this one I fail to accept, there's a whole lot of holes in this theory that i 'd like to see filled up before accepting this. Abiogenesis: This is the first link. Evolution speculates how animels evolved once they existed. This theory tells us how they came in existence. Wel actually it's hardly a theory. Again, a lot of gaps here. So you should focus on abiogenesis and common descent, keep that in mind. When the discussion leads to mutation, natural selection, don't be afraid to say "you're right". there's no point in debating the bleeding obvious simply because it's correlated with shady theorys. In fact these parts of the theory are certain. So instead of waisting energy on them, stick to where the theory goes wrong.
  9. Hadith

    This one always makes my heart go weak :D Muslim Book 001, Number 0234: It is narrated on the authority of Abu Huraira that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) observed: Allah, the Great and Glorious, said: Whenever my bondsman intends to do good, but does not do it, I write one good act for him, but if he puts it into practice I wrote from ten to seven hundred good deeds in favour of him. When he intends to commit an evil, but does not actually do it, do not record it. But if he does it, I write only one evil.
  10. What ze niet allemaal uitvinden om het lastig te maken, constant rechten afnemen zogezegd om vrijheid aan de onderdrukte vrouw te geven. Wie onderdrukt hier :D
  11. Is het nederland subforum enkel voor nederlanders of voor nederlandstaligen :D Hehe Misschien moet ik wel naar het noorden verhuizen, heb zo de indruk da ze daar iets verder/opener staan dan hier in Belgie. :D
  12. Selam aleykum Dit is idd een van de eerder controversieele topics in de Islam. Dus het is niet zo makkelijk om een eenduidig antwoord te geven, laat staan dat ik er genopeg van weet om te antwoorden :D Misschien dat een van deze links helpvol kunnen zijn? (www.)""][/url] (www.)""][/url] (www.)""][/url] (www.)"http://app.al-islaam/index.php/module/libary/action/book/book/226"]app.al-islaam/index.php/module/...n/book/book/226[/url]
  13. About The Apostates

    Selam aleykum Mashallah yusufar that makes a lot more sense :D
  14. Family And Reversion

    Here's a poem that expresses how I feel regarding the matter :D Prayer of Jihad Once I wanted to fly away to a far off land Where there are no pain and sorrows. I pretend it’s unreal, that it al happens not. Turn around and keep dreaming, cannot see any blood. Let there not be any stains on this most perfect cloth. But being once with the bleeding, I can still feel their pain. Offer help ‘cause they need it, let no life be in vain. Laugh and smile with such great easy yet inside they are rot. Once down that road, what I saw there, how I wish I had forgot. But I do remember this past life and I am thankful to God. So I reach out a hand in this boiling red pool. Let me be a brave hero, not this ordinary fool. Let me not fall over details, let me not choke on a rule Inshallah I shall be forgiven, for not always finding a way. At least I tried as I believe in, on the end of the day. By Steve.
  15. Family And Reversion

    Assalamu alikum thanks for your replies, some quick thoughts. Well everything is possible, blood is thicker then water, but in my opinion it would do a huge amount of damage to the relationship. I don't think so, 30 persons stopping to drink because of the believes of one person. They are pretty western-minded (in other words secular).