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About Abubakar

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  1. Teen Relationship

    Brother If you love someone you will do the best for them and will not count the cost so if you really love her you will stay away from her. You will work hard to be the man who is best for her, who can look after her, love her and be the best husband you can be. You have arrived here at this site for a reason, you have asked advice for a reason and it is a test of you as a Muslim and as a young Man what you will do with this advice. Look forward to the day that you can stand as a Man in front of her father, with your own father and ask to marry his daughter. My daughter is very precious to me and I will be looking for a Man who has strength and compassion when it is time for her to marry, I will not be looking for a Man who just scrapes by the standards I set but someone who passes the mark and still wants to better himself. Do you know of a father who doesn't want this? So does this girl's father, you have it in you, so do it.
  2. I Have A Strange Problem

    Assalamalaykum Sister Have you had any luck with the allergy testing? The reason I suggested 7 or 8 servings of fruit or vegetables, is in case you are lacking something in your diet, I had missed out on lack of Iron but that might well be worth a try. If you increase your intake of fruit and veg slowly your stomach will start (in fact re-start) to get used to them. Of course it may not be a failure in your diet or lack of exercise but these are good 'bases' to start your investigation of the problem from. What is your blood pressure like? Is it OK? And do you sleep well? ps Have you thought of a (board) name change?
  3. Muslim (men) Going To A Mixed Gym?

    I work out at home and the gym I go to is officially a mixed gym but I have only ever seen one girl there in six months, so its not really an issue.
  4. Loan For Wedding

    You say " The only options now left are now is to runaway or get a bank loan. " Well I am sorry but there are other choices. It will involve confronting your parents and brother but you are a man, a Muslim man and sometimes we have to stand up and do the unpopular thing. The facts are simple, your family cannot afford a $25,000 wedding so they can't have a $25,000 wedding. Quite what your brother is doing in getting married when he can't to look after his wife is another point. Is his wife going to support him when they are married and does she know this? You should calculate how much you can afford, and are prepared to give towards this wedding, and then tell the family that this will be your contribution and they have to budget accordingly. The wrongness of the loan has already been explained here.
  5. Heartache

    Asallaamaleykum Brother You love her yet lead into committing zina, is that a good way to conduct yourself ? Perhaps you should stop feeling sorry for yourself and examine the reasons that her father did not see you as a suitable husband for his daughter. It takes a lot for a man to break his daughters engagement. Perhaps if you can work on how and why you have let her down then there maybe some hope for you and whoever will be your future wife. I realise this is harsh but I if you do not face the reality of your situation and your part in bringing it about then you will not grow from this experience.
  6. Cheating

    I voted "I don't know. It depends on the situation. i can't say if i would forgive her/him or not." Of course it is possible to forgive someone but not be able to remain married to them.
  7. I Have A Strange Problem

    Assalamalaykum Sister I am no specialist but these are my immediate thoughts, ignore or explore them as you wish or cross question me (of course) if you want. Do you take exercise? A good 40minute walk a day or a bit of sport is good for the body and helps the mind settle, remember if you do exercise then 5 a day fruit and veg should increase to 7 or 8 a day depending on the exercise. Also try taking your vitamin C as fruit and not as a tablet for a few weeks and see if this affects you. You seem to have a positive outlook but do you feel you are missing something in your life? You said your not allergic to anything but have you tried cutting out certain food items for a couple of weeks to a month to see if this has any effect. Sometimes allergies are very 'low level' and symptoms only occur when the body gets totally overloaded, so removing something that just irritates the body a little has been known to work. As I said just a few thoughts for your consideration.
  8. Need Help, Girl Problem?, Attention To Sisters

    Brother If the girl doesn't answer your texts just leave it. I could speculate over a hundred reasons as to why she doesn't respond, but just maybe she has decided to stop mingling with the opposite gender, which I suspect is the correct form of behaviour for her, so support her and don't text/E-mail her again.
  9. The level of propaganda ? I doubt that they were shown the records of hundreds of innocent Muslims arrested under the Terrorism Laws, interrogated only to be released without charge. Were they shown the freedom of speech exercised by the EDL or the BNP?
  10. Will Jews And Christians Be In Paradise?

    Try these for on-line translations: (you are not allowed to post links yet)"you can't post links until you reach 50 posts_you are not allowed to post links yetusc.edu/schools/college/crcc/engagement/resources/texts/muslim/quran/"]you can't post links until you reach 50 posts_you are not allowed to post links yetusc.edu/schools/college/crcc/en...s/muslim/quran/[/url] (you are not allowed to post links yet)"you can't post links until you reach 50 posts_transliteration(contact admin if its a beneficial link)/quran/"]you can't post links until you reach 50 posts_transliteration(contact admin if its a beneficial link)/quran/[/url] Surah 2:62 " 002.062 YUSUFALI: Those who believe (in the Qur'an), and those who follow the Jewish (scriptures), and the Christians and the Sabians,- any who believe in Allah and the Last Day, and work righteousness, shall have their reward with their Lord; on them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve. PICKTHAL: Lo! Those who believe (in that which is revealed unto thee, Muhammad), and those who are Jews, and Christians, and Sabaeans - whoever believeth in Allah and the Last Day and doeth right - surely their reward is with their Lord, and there shall no fear come upon them neither shall they grieve. SHAKIR: Surely those who believe, and those who are Jews, and the f Christians, and the Sabians, whoever believes in Allah and the Last day and does good, they shall have their reward from their Lord, and there is no fear for them, nor shall they grieve. "
  11. Broken Britain

    To pretend that there are no problems with UK society is false. There are some pretty big issues around youth crime and areas that are no-go after dark. There is also the fear factor, where the perception of the threat is magnified by by fear of crime. There are areas of this Country that a stranger would have to be very wary of visiting. Having been to Countries where youths are never abusive to strangers in the street, there is little crime and it is safe to walk after dark, there is an acceptance of the (relatively) high crime rate in this Country. There are good things here and there are bad things here.
  12. ~ The Strategy Of Disintegration ~

    :j: I just get this: (you are not allowed to post links yet)"https://mail.zmag(contact admin if its a beneficial link)/exchweb/bin/auth/owalogon.asp?url=https://mail.zmag(contact admin if its a beneficial link)/exchweb/bin/redir.asp%3FURL=you can't post links until you reach 50 posts_onlinejournal(contact admin if its a beneficial link)/artman/publish/printer_1341.shtml&reason=0"]https://mail.zmag(contact admin if its a beneficial link)/exchweb/bin/auth/owal...ml&reason=0[/url] the anti-war link is no problem though. Good stuff as well, the Margret Hassan kidnap and murder has always puzzled me, if it was done for money then why no ransom and release, if it was done for political purposes then why no anouncement and justification for their evil actions. :sl:
  13. ~ The Strategy Of Disintegration ~

    :sl: Just to add more to the inpenatraitable soup of information coming out of Iraq, try this for size: (you are not allowed to post links yet)"you can't post links until you reach 50 posts_news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/middle_east/6209249.stm"]you can't post links until you reach 50 posts_news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/middle_east/6209249.stm[/url] This is after the British Governments recent everything is going to plan for a handover to the Iraqi Forces and we can leave soon line that has been peddled to death. Now this Police Squad that is dangerously out of control has been recruited and trainned by the Allies and the Iraqi Government within the last few years. Sort of gives everyone confidence that the Uk and USA know what they are doing! :sl:
  14. ~ The Strategy Of Disintegration ~

    Asallaam aleykum Brother theZman, I am having trouble linking to the Zmag site, my computer claims it may not be an authentic site and is not properly certificated. Are you sure of the links and do you have knowledge as to why I am having these problems? :sl:
  15. Secret U.s. Plan To Overthrow Syrian Gov’t

    :D Brother This is NOT news! This is consistant with US foreign policy since World War II. The US is sponsoring anti-Government movements(both violent and political) in such countrys as Iran and Syria. It has frequently sponsored terrorist and anti-Government groups in states it regards as its enemy. :D