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  1. I Wanna Invite Her To Islam

    Salaam, So I know this girl for a while now, and I wanna invite her to Islam. She follows the religion of Shamanism and says she has a 50/50 view on God. So far I only gave her insight about the existence of God using logic, which she said she found interesting. One brother suggested I tell her what Islam means and if she shows interest, to give her a translation of the Qur'an. But I don't know what the right things are to say to her... Any suggestions dear brothers & sisters?
  2. Suicide

    Salaam, I honestly was looking for a very brief answer..., but Jazak Allahu Khairan for your efforts, sister :sl:
  3. What Do You Like About Islam?

    ONE of the things I like about Islam is it's urge towards mankind to use their brains and reason. It shows that their indeed is God (Allah)... Life is just too perfect to be an accident. The Qur'an mentions wonderful examples how the trees and plants die and comes back to life again, how their is no cracks in the sky (or heavens)... And something in the medical field, when a human Mother consumes alcoholic beverages, the developing fetus is screened from the harmful alcoholic effects by the placenta... My point is, these and other systems of life and nature is just WAY TOO PERFECT and smooth! There is no way a human can create himself/herself, nor these wonderful systems in nature--which points towards an existence of ONE supreme being who is the creator and controls everything including life. And that supreme being is Allah, the All-Mighty, The One, The Most Great, who has provided us with knowledge and the intellect to observe such wonderful systems of life he has created. :sl: SubhanAllah! (How Perfect Allah Is!!!!)
  4. Suicide

    Salaam my brothers and sisters, I hope you're all doing well. There's a person who asked me this and I don't know how to respond... She said: "If suicide is haraam why did Allah even create the option." Could anyone here briefly state an answer? Jazak Allahu Khairan :sl:
  5. Ramadan Is Coming, And I Need Advice

    Assalamu Alaikum my brothers and sisters, I sent her an email last night and I was shocked by her reply.... Please read.... I replied her back after she replied, and I don't know what I must do about her... ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- My email: Salaam, How r u Aisha? I hope ur in good health and state... Idk what it is that u were upset about earlier, but I hope ur feeling much better right now... Whatever there is written after this sentence, PLEASE DO NOT read it if you're receiving this email anytime before u eat iftaar... I know it sounds strange, but please, kindly please do it...I really don't want u to read it before u eat iftaar.... [i said this to her because I feared she would read it before eating iftaar and lose appetite or something..] ------------------------------------------ Again I hope ur in good health, and I need u to be very brave and calm about what I'm about to tell u... Please Ria...I wanted to tell u this while we were on the phone, but I thought it would be better if I said it sometime else, since u were upset. Do not read any further if u still haven't reached evening and haven't eaten iftaar... I know I've said that my love for you won't end if Ramadan arrives, but I've realized the facts behind bf-gf relationships, and being a Muslim, I can't continue this relationship since it isn't allowed in Islam... In Islam, we're not supposed to even mix freely with the the opposite gender who aren't our blood-relatives nor let our eyes wander off staring at them for an extended time--mind touching or taking them as bf or gf. Before Ramadan arrived, I thought carelessly and thought that it would be ok to have a gf... But when I look into it, the idea of bf-gf relationships aren't very stable and very temporary, whereas marriage is definitely lawful, and inshaAllah blessed, and longer-lasting. Both of us don't have any strong intention of marrying anytime soon (in my case, it has to do with multiple reasons), Therefore I think that if we let this pre-marital relationship have its own way for too long without us being able to marry anytime soon, we will keep on longing for each other, or feel frustrated, etc, until we fall into blind love or some blind situation, doing whatever our hearts desire (which includes giving way to lust, extreme desires, etc) na'audhubillah (May Allah protect us from that). PLEASE don't think I'm abandoning u or anything like that... Becuz it's not like this realization and decision came a moment ago or anything like that--I've put much thought into this for more than a week and prayed to Allah for guidance... And so, I arrive with this decision... For the time being, this relationship must end. However, this does not mean that I'm not ur friend anymore. I'm here anytime should u need anything or to talk to someone... So now, I strongly advise you and myself to avoid having bf/gf relationships becuz one cannot enjoy it like the full enjoyment and freedom one can achieve in marriage. Remember that the pre-marital relationships are mostly temporary, and MOST young ppl who seek bf/gf know that it's either to hook up or just have a short-term company with someone--in short, they aren't looking forward to more a more fruitful thing: marriage. We both expected long-term, but with the problematic situation we both are in and our lack of strong desire and lack of readiness to marry soon, it puts us in a position that we should end this relationship. We were created for no other reason but to worship Allah, so let us not fail to do that. Also, let us not make something as temporary as bf-gf relationships take place before the worship and obedience to Allah (which is our priority). Having said this, I wanna hear what u have to say... Fi AmanAllah (may Allah protect you). Her reply: Got nothing to say but I give up on Allah for good since things couldn't get any worse. Take care. My reply: I can't believe you just said that.... You don't sound like the Aisha, the Ria I know.... Faith isn't a game Ria, you can't give up on it anytime you want... PLEASE DO NOT DO THIS... DO NOT LOSE FAITH IN Allah!!! ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Now I don't know what to do about her, I have put my trust in Allah with the decision I made to break off the Boyfriend-girlfriend relationship with her.... Any advice?
  6. Ramadan Is Coming, And I Need Advice

    Salaam, Thank you Bro. Tolerance 101 and Sis. Orthodox, may Allah bless you and reward you all for your replies and advice... I am thinking about ending the 'boyfriend-girlfriend' relationship with her in a few days and sticking to her as being a close and dear friend as you said, Bro. Tolerance 101.... Once again, Jazak Allahu Khairan... :sl:
  7. Ramadan Is Coming, And I Need Advice

    Wa Alaikum Assalaam, [at] twowordsali: I understand your point, but the thing is, I do not wish to marry anytime soon... Perhaps maybe 6 years or so from now, InshaAllah... But definitely Jazak Allahu Khairan for your response, I appreciate it brother :sl: [at] Orthodox and thesadclown: Jazak Allahu Khairan for your responses as well. I think you both are right in that it's probably better to end this boyfriend-girlfriend relationship for at least the time being... I've realized that talking to her so much and then eventually falling for her, has made her be on my mind so much that even in Ramadan, I can't go on properly without giving her an email or a phone call... Just worries about her health and her way of thinking has made me be very concerned about her.... But I've realized that this relationship isn't very meaningful if there's no intention of marriage very soon, and it would be better to end it rather than go on with it years from now being unmarried.... I'll ask her of what say she has on this, and will let you guys know, InshaAllah. Thank you once again my brothers and sister, for your responses :sl:
  8. Ramadan Is Coming, And I Need Advice

    Salaam, The reason I'm not proposing her is that she lives independently, and I do not know to what extent she wishes to be with me in marriage, with her parents finding a new marriage arrangement with a stranger like every few months (which she refuses to). Also, we both are 18, and my family needs me in financial help. If I were to marry her, I wouldn't be able to support her very well financially since I would have my biological family counting on me and my siblings to pay the home rent, etc. Also, she desires that I go to college and so does my mother, but with the financial situation my family is in, I doubt I'll be able to start college anytime this year, let alone complete 4 years of college.
  9. Salaam, my brothers and sisters in Islam, I wish to explain to you my situation which is a bit long, so if you would take a small amount of your time to read this, I'd appreciate it. I'm a moderately religious Muslim male who's 18 years old. And few months ago, I met a Muslim girl online whom I was attracted to since she was Muslim, 6 months younger than me, and of my own race (not that race really matters). We live many miles apart and have never met in person (she was born in UK and I live in USA). She told me she loved me within a few weeks of meeting me, and I fell in love with her a month or more later. Now it has been more than 2 months that I'm with her and Ramadan falls a day later... Please read the following... This girl I'm with, she has had much problems in her life. When she was younger, she was in the country where her parents' were born for about 2 years. There, she was raped by her cousin, and fell ashamed. Her mother often mistreated her, call her bad names, beat her, and tried forcing her into marriage. She soon fell in love with a boy and was with him for a long while, but then she fell in coma when she found out one day that he left her to get married with someone else. She recovered later on, Alhamdulilllah, but her mom kicked her out of home since she refused to marry someone whom she did not know, so she fled to UK. When she arrived in the UK, she was then taken under the care of foster parents for about two years. While being in UK and going to school, she found a boyfriend and was very close to him for almost 2 years. This ex-boyfriend sexually cheated on her with other girls and when she found out, this made her depressed and have anger moments. She still goes to medical therapy and anger management classes. She lives independently now, being 18. She also felt very suicidal at times and attempted to overdose on pills since she believed her life is messed up, but Alhamdulillah, Allah saved her life. When she found me (her third lover), she told me she always feels nice when she talks to me. She appreciates my care for her and she says that I have influenced her with me being religious. She also told me I'm unlike the other guys she had in her life including her father who wasn't very close to her. She used to party, drink alcohol, and smoke weed, but she has given all those things up, Alhamdulillah. She even now has the habit of praying Salaah regularly (keep in mind, I never specifically told her to perform Salaah, and stop drinking (because I didn't want her to give her the sense that I'm lecturing her, I wanted her to develop good habits naturally, and prayed to Allah that she becomes religious--and eventually, she gave up bad habits on her own, MashaAllah)). But her desire for suicide was still present in her sometimes since she wished to escape the hardships of life. I told her that anything 'bad' she experiences in this life, is NOTHING compared to the pains of the hereafter. I also lectured her much with hadiths of Muhammad (SAW) and ayaats of the Qur'an. Now, she doesn't speak much about suicide, but she often complains that her life is hectic and messed up (she has siblings in UK that have bad habits, and only 2 of them care about her, her ex-boyfriend constantly harassed her accusing her of such untrue things and tries to control her life in a way). And she is looking forward to Ramadan (in one day), and so am I. But the thing is.... I don't want to displease Allah by having a girlfriend (although long-distance) and fasting at the same time. We have decided to stop saying "I love you's" and other touchy things when we are fasting... We've thought about meeting each other months from now, and just to be clear, we have no intention of having intercourse outside of marriage. She told me she hopes I'm the one she gets to spend her life with (in marriage). And I hope so too. I told her I wish to marry a religious woman, and she said herself that she isn't one, but she says that Allah is first in her life. Also, she said that she will try her best to improve this Ramadan. She is having much problems now financially and etc, and if I break up with her, I fear that she will return to doing her old bad habits, and might attempt suicide again out of hardships (and me breaking up with her may hit her hard, and might be an additional hardship for her to take). I've asked Allah for guidance, and now I come to you, my brothers and sisters, in consultation. Please advise me, Jazak Allahu Khairan....
  10. Trapped And Suicidal

    May Allah reward you too, sister. And Post# 5 is correct. If he commits suicide, that would be of his own account since you would not be advising him to do so. Also, you choosing to return to Allah, and to seek his forgiveness shows that you aren't stupid, MashaAllah. May Allah keep you firm and keep you away from the harm of that man you were with and from all other troubles. Ameen.
  11. Overly Criticized

    Salaam, Sister, our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "Do good deeds properly, sincerely and MODERATELY. Always adopt a middle, moderate, regular course, whereby you will reach your target (of paradise)." [sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 8, Hadith 470] "Do good deeds properly, sincerely and moderately and know that your deeds will not make you enter Paradise, and that the most beloved deed to Allahs is the most regular and constant even though it were little." - Prophet Muhammad (s) as narrated by Aisha (ra) in Sahih Bukhari, vol. 8, hadith 471 Reported by an-Nasaa'ee (5/268), ibn Maajah (no. 3029), Ahmad (1/215, 347) with a saheeh sanad. The Messenger of Allaah (SAW) said, "I warn you of extremism in the Religion for indeed those that came before you were destroyed due to their extremism in the religion." So you see, extremism should not be practiced in Islam as our Prophet (PBUH) said that one can't continue religion that way (of being an extremist). Be moderate (normal) in your actions and do not over-do things nor overthink things. Allah has made Islam a peaceful religion and easy religion. So do not make Islam hard on yourself as in the Qur'an, Allah says "Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope (capability)...." [2:286] And dutifulness and kindness towards parents is an obligation in Islam, even if the parents are disbelievers. Be kind to your parents and also be dutiful to them. The only case where you're SUPPOSED to disobey them is when they ask you to commit Shirk (which means associating partners with Allah) and/or Kufr (disbelief). Allah says in the Qur'an [31: 14-15] 14. "And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination. 15. But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not, but behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who turns to Me in repentance and in obedience. Then to Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do." May Allah guide you, sister, and may he bring peace between the relationship of you and your mother. Ameen.
  12. Pls Pls Help.. Swear Problem :'(

    Salaam brother, I can see that smoking is troubling you and your family. But brother, remember that Allah is oft-forgiving and most-merciful. I recommend that you wake up in the last third of the night to perform the Tahajjud salaah, and that you make du'a to Allah to help you give up this bad habit and to protect your mother and family from doing bad things to themselves and to you. You've already recieved such good responses MashaAllah, as in to stopping contact with other smokers, chewing nicotine gum, etc... So use them to your advantage. Reported By Abu Hurayrah: The Messenger of Allah(saw) said:"Our LORD descends to the lowest heaven during the Last Third of The Night, inquiring, "Who will call on ME so that I may Respond to Him? Who is asking something of ME so I may Give it to him?,Who is Asking for MY FORGIVENESS so I may FORGIVE HIM.." May Allah keep you strong and steadfast in doing good, and may he also keep your family calm. Ameen.
  13. Trapped And Suicidal

    Salaam, Sister this is serious, but please remain calm, Allah is always listening and seeing. Since it seems your partner is being violent or psycho as you say, I really advice you to stay away from such a person who causes harm to you. It is good to know that you're repenting and asking Allah for forgiveness, but please NEVER consider suicide as a option! Because suicide would lead one straight to Hell. And anything that you consider "bad" or painful on Earth, is NOTHING compared to the pains in Hell, I'm so serious. And also, if one commits suicide, he/she is denying himself/herself many possibilities of good times that could come later on in life. Allah is Oft-Forgiving and Most-Merciful and Allah says in the Qur'an (39:53): "Say: "O 'Ibadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."" So you see, Allah's door of forgiveness is always open to his servants, as long as they are living on Earth and ask him for it. Do not lose hope sister, Allah knows how you feel. I advise you to wake up in the last 3rd of the night and perform Tahajjud salah. Reported By Abu Hurayrah: The Messenger of Allah(saw) said:"Our LORD descends to the lowest heaven during the Last Third of The Night,inquiring, "Who will call on ME so that I may Respond to Him? Who is asking something of ME so I may Give it to him?,Who is Asking for MY FORGIVENESS so I may FORGIVE HIM?.." So you see, Allah is giving you opportunities that you may ask of him, and Allah will respond to your prayer, InshaAllah. Just don't give up on praying to Allah, and remain patient....Soon, it will all become better, InshaAllah. And here are some du'as you may say in the last third part of the night (before and after performing Tahajjud): ---------------------------------------------------- "O Allah to You Belong the PRAISES. YOU are the Light of the heavens and the earth and what is therein. And To YOU Belong the PRAISES. YOU are the TRUTH, YOUR Promise Is TRUE,The Meeting With You Is TRUE, PARADISE is TRUE, The FIRE is TRUE, The Prophets are TRUE, MOHAMMAD (saw) is TRUE, and The HOUR is TRUE. O Allah, to YOU have I submitted, In YOU have I believed, In YOU have I put my TRUST, To YOU have I TURNED, By YOU I argue, and To YOU do I TURN for my DECISIONS. FORGIVE me My Former and Latter sins, those done in private and those done in public. YOU are Allah, Thers is NO GOD BESIDES YOU. --------------------------------- May you find this helpful, sister. Assalamu Alaikum. :sl: And may Allah rectify your affairs. Ameen.
  14. Strange Email?

    WaAlaikum Assalaam, Jazak Allahu Khairan my brothers/sisters for replying and clarifying. :sl: