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  1. Don’t stress yourself Part 4

    This is an excerpt from one of Tariq Masood’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. We stress over too many things at once, look this is happening wrong in society, why is that group coming, that group is increasing & other group is decreasing. (For example) I have principle that whenever I speak on something. Whenever there is controversial topic I get many messages. You said this why did you say this but I have addressed that issue there itself. So I don’t respond I ask them to listen to speech completely. So they reply they have listened to complete speech. So I respond listen to speech again. Its like you need to constantly reply the same answer to same question repeatedly. Public might have time to waste but your abilities/talents are being wasted. I am not going to waste time answering the same question. Why should anyone create this type of stress for themselves? You know what is stress. I have exhausted myself in explaining something and yet still people are not able to understand me. Oh what am I to do? This is futile stress. I would say “Allah I have tried my best in explaining this, to make people understand is upon you”. People didn’t accept Prophet (saw) message. Yet how many times has Allah consoled Prophet? Allah is saying to Prophet that you are inviting people and they are not accepting your invitation, don’t stress. Why? If Prophet were to constantly stress, then who will do the work (calling people to Allah). There are several verses in Quran which are only there for consolation. “Then perhaps you would kill yourself through grief over them, [O Muḥammad], if they do not believe in this message, [and] out of sorrow.” (18:6) Because Prophet (saw) would be astonished that I have shown miracles, these are idols that cannot listen or see or say anything tried to explain in every way and they have witnessed in my 40 years that I never lied, known to be someone who is trust worthy and they were waiting for Prophet to arrive. All of this happened yet they are not willing to accept me. In that scenario anyone will start worrying? So what is Quran saying? That to keep on taking lot of stress? No! No! Don’t take on stress. “You are not over them a controller.” (88:22) You cannot force them. You are not going to be questioned (for their actions). “Convey everything revealed to you from your Lord.” (5:67) Your job is just to convey. Imagine his own uncle didn’t accept. Okay others were enemies but Abu Talib was someone who raised you. Person will be patient that your enemies are not accepting you but this is your own uncle. He protected you, in 3 years of boycott/ banishment of Prophet (saw) & Banu Hashim without food so they abandon Islam. Abu Talib accompanied Prophet (saw) in that difficult time even though didn’t accept Islam but he joined his nephew, Prophet (saw). Such a nice uncle! Can you imagine Prophet (saw) heart? At time of death, Prophet (saw) asked him to testify so he may intercede for him. Can you imagine Prophet (saw) heart? Abu Talib considered it. Leaders of Quraysh looked at Abu Talib and didn’t want him to accept Islam. Imagine worry of Prophet (saw) that today my uncle who protected & loved me will enter hell. Abu Talib said “if I didn’t fear people would say that all my life I didn’t accept Islam but out of fear of death I ended up accepting Islam and abandoned my forefather’s religion. Today I would have cooled your eyes O Muhammad (saw).” Abu Talib made it as something to do with his honor. That if I die leaders of Quraysh will say “he was not committed to his word.” This is despite Abu Talib acknowledging earlier that religion that my nephew has brought is superior to all other religions. That if I didn’t fear what people would say I would cool eyes of Prophet (saw) (by accepting Islam). Can you imagine Prophet (saw) heart? The one who has certainty in (existence of) hellfire & my uncle will be entering it. How much did Prophet (saw) suffered at the moment when Abu Talib passed away without accepting faith? Prophet (saw) was intensely sad. What did Allah do? Provide consolation that don’t worry. Why am I narrating this incident to you? That in such conditions of immense grief and sorrow Allah asked not to ruminate in worry. So what about our small conditions that individual has flourishing business but mine didn’t pan out as expected, that individual has better career than me, that individual has better car than me what’s the benefit of stressing over these? Our stresses are what these days? I was supposed to get married to this individual and it broke off now I am getting married somewhere else. Real grief is what occurred to Prophet (saw). Can you imagine how Prophet (saw) must have managed himself? He is man of honor, compassion & love. But Allah commanded him not to stress (over what happened with his uncle). Why? It boils down to principle that I had stated earlier “what is not in your control don’t stress over it!” “Indeed, [O Muḥammad], you do not guide whom you like, but Allah guides whom He wills. And He is most knowing of the [rightly] guided.” (28:56) If Prophet (saw) would have stopped and just be constantly worrying who then would have propagated Islam and furthered its cause? There are lot of wrong/unjust things happen in this world, bring all sorts of evidence/arguments people still don’t accept, family problems. If one is to constantly ruminate over them then one is going to fall into depression. That’s why remember two things (1) Have adequate sleep (2) Don’t stress, I am not saying one can eliminate stress completely 100% that’s impossible but there is lot of stress that we create for ourselves. https://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/2021/10/01/dont-stress-yourself-part-4/
  2. No one is Useless

    This is an excerpt from one of Ibrahim Dewla’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. Abdullah bin Masood is famous companion. He is big jurist with great knowledge. He was placed in Kufa to teach and call people to Allah. Once he was passing by there was a singer who was singing (party where alcohol was served). When his ears heard him singing he put cloth over his head, due to it being impermissible & evil thing. “and when they pass near ill speech, they pass by with dignity” (25:72) He passed through. He said “its such beautiful voice if only it was used to read & teach Quran.” This is to indicate how to bring people’s abilities to the benefit of this faith. “Such a beautiful voice!” He didn’t say “this individual is useless, trapped in futility.” Why? Because this would have been an indication of pride/arrogance. To consider someone insignificant is not part of calling people towards Allah. Our call is that abilities and talents that people possess they are applied in service to Allah. That is why everyone should reflect that whatever abilities/talents I possess they are a trust from Allah. Allah has given me these abilities to think, to understand, to act, to spend, to be of service and to worship. All of these abilities/talents where should these be applied? This is what Abdullah bin Masood hinted towards. His name was Jazan “such a beautiful voice”. He would have been able to teach Quran to others in beautiful manner. Prophet (saw) said, “The best among you (Muslims) are those who learn the Qur’an and teach it.” (Bukhari) Someone relayed to Jazan that companion of Prophet passed by & mentioned “such beautiful voice if only it was used to read and teach Quran.” Jazan left singing. He became student of Abdullah bin Masood and took benefit from his knowledge. (Jazan said) “I want to learn what you have invited me towards.” What I am trying to convey is this community’s abilities and talents are vast. Everyone possesses abilities and talents, as in no one is useless. Allah has not created something useless. Allah has not created anyone in vain. Allah has placed something special in every individual. Each fruit has it own taste and flavor. Everyone has something to offer. No one is bereft of virtues. Prophet (saw) said “People are like mines of silver and gold.” (Muslim) https://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/2021/09/18/no-one-is-useless-ibrahim-dewla/
  3. Respect your children

    This is an excerpt from one of Tariq Jameel’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. I ask parents to not to place their children in trial, don’t place such hardship on them that they become rebellious, don’t restrict them on their permissible wants, don’t humiliate, taunt them, disagree with them, hit them, constantly criticize them. These are what make children rebellious. Prophet (saw) said “Give due respect and regard to your children.” (Abu Daud) Lot of parents consider their children as property & and treat them harshly. In consequence there is rebellion on their part. How did my Prophet (saw) give respect? When Fatima would visit and she would come at the door. Our Prophet (saw) would stand out of respect. We usually stand up for our elders. And we should its good etiquette. But what is my Prophet (saw) doing? He (saw) is standing up for his daughter. Are there any parents out there who stand up for their children? Do we give this level of protocol? And he (saw) wouldn’t just stand there he would rush towards Fatima. He would then hold her hand and kiss it. After which he (saw) wouldn’t let go, he would keep holding her hand and have her seated. Only after he (saw) would take a seat. This is ‘respect’ that Prophet (saw) would have for his children. And Fatima would do the same for Prophet (saw). When Prophet (saw) would visit Fatima she is sitting, laying down, she would rush to Prophet (saw) hold his hand, kiss it, never let go of his hand, have her father seated and then sit down. This is due to Prophet (saw) teaching her on how to give respect. If you give this level of respect to your children, then it will come back to you. `A’isha, the Umm al-Mu’minin, said, “I did not see anyone who more resembled the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, in manner of speaking than Fatima. When she came to him, he stood up for her, made her welcome, kissed her and had her sit in his place. When the Prophet came to her, she stood up for him, took his hand, made him welcome, kissed him, and made him sit in her place. She came to him during his final illness and he greeted her and kissed her.” (Al Adab Al-Mufrad) This is something that you probably have never heard of. You must have heard Prophet (saw) miracle that moon was split. We usually speak about Prophet (saw) with regards to miracles. Respect and honor exist for Prophet (saw) but the way/guidance in which to live and what’s relevant to one’s life will come based on these sorts of incidents. This is so that your homes flourish. Remember this! Your homes are not going to flourish being tied to physical appearances, educational pedigree, money, gold or silver. I swear on Allah its only character. https://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/2021/08/28/respect-your-children/
  4. Marrying Outside & Prophet

    This is an excerpt from one of Tariq Jameel’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. Prophet (saw) married within his clan & outside. How many of our daughters remain unmarried? Only few days ago I got a call from girl ‘my father says you have to marry within the clan & not outside’. She says ‘I am getting old, the ones within my clan are not practicing’. Due to this, parents end up destroying daughters’ lives. My Prophet (saw) married within Quraysh: Aisha Khadijah Sawda Hafsa Umm Habiba Within Quraysh, he (saw) married within rival family Banu Ummaya: Umm Habiba (Abu Sufyan’s daughter). He (saw) married outside his clan (Quraysh): Juwayriyya from Banu Mustaliq tribe Maymuna from Hilal tribe He (saw) married outside Arabs: Safiyya from Jewish tribe Banu Qurayza. He (saw) married within his clan, outside his clan and outside his race. He (saw) own daughters Ruqayyah and Umm Kulthum got them married to rival family Banu Ummaya. There was rivalry between Banu Ummaya and Banu Hashim. First daughter Zainab was married to Abu al As from Banu Ummaya. Ruqayyah and Umm Kulthum to Uthman from Banu Ummaya. Only one daughter did he (saw) marry within family that was Fatima to Ali. Within family 1 daughter and outside 3 daughters within clan but rivals. Why did Prophet (saw) do all of this? He (saw) wanted to leave an example for us. https://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/2021/08/18/marrying-outside-prophet/
  5. I'm a revert from Nigeria

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  6. Allah’s giving & wisdom

    To despair from Allah is disbelief. A disbeliever doesn’t have any hope from Allah. Rather his hopes are tied to his possessions, position, business, and wealth. Our hopes should be tied to Allah. Whoever despairs from Allah has nothing else they can rely on. Hence, no one should despair. Allah utilizes both wisdom and power in his doing. Through his power Allah has created heavens and earth. In fostering human being, Allah utilizes both wisdom and power. Wisdom is a secret that is beyond grasp of human being. This is why we become frightened ‘why did this happen?’ Due to which Allah sends messengers so they can explain both Allah’s wisdom & Allah’s power. Allah does through his power yet wisdom precedes it. Once Musa (as) was going somewhere there was poor man stuck in mud. He requested Musa “Allah’s Prophet see I have no clothes, no food, trying to hide myself in mud so body is not revealed, have mercy on me, pray for my condition!” This is common among people even today. Musa (as) then prayed for him and went his way. There came a time Musa (as) came back & saw crowd of people. He asked, “what happened?” Reply came that a man got drunk then ended up killing someone. In consequence he is now being sentenced to death. Musa (as) saw this was the same man that was stuck in mud. Allah wanted to show Musa (as) there was wisdom why that man was in that condition. When opulence came, money came, he went out of control. His being poor was due to wisdom; not because Allah doesn’t have power to make him wealthy rather Allah can make this man wealthy. This was written by Sheikh Saadi in Mauritan. After narrating story of Musa (as) he quoted “And if Allah had extended [excessively] provision for His servants, they would have committed tyranny throughout the earth.” (42:27 Quran) This is why people have conditions, someone is poor, someone is sick etc. There are different wisdom behind it sometimes to nurture/raise stature of human being, sometimes for his wellness. People are unaware & complain. Rather we should have faith in Allah’s wisdom. https://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/2021/08/16/allahs-giving-wisdom-ibrahim-dewla/
  7. This is an excerpt from one of Ibrahim Dewla’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. Whatever undesirable circumstance, it’s not there to degrade a human being. Rather an undesirable circumstance is test from Allah. Allah will place an undesirable circumstance to see how much patience one will exhibit & steadfast one will be. Thus, don’t be frightened that my circumstances have become difficult. Because the devil comes in these circumstances & makes a human hopeless. “Your circumstances never improved despite how long you have been practicing. How long you have been supplicating, praying, (its inconsequential) nothing has happened.” to make human despair from Allah. In our faith hopelessness is disbelief. Not in any circumstance should a human being not be hopeful of Allah. Sometimes Allah delays what you are seeking. Allah’s name/attribute is ‘Jabbar’. Jabbar means almighty. Jabbar also means someone who rehabilitates broken bones. Allah is rehabilitator of broken circumstances. Allah possesses both names and ability. What is unique about Allah is not only does he possesses names/attributes but Allah is also able. False deities/partners (to Allah) have many names/attributes but they are unable/powerless. They are only namesake. Our Allah has name, is able with his greatness. Through work of Prophets Allah reveals his greatness. This is why circumstances of Prophets are trying. Then Allah rectifies those circumstances. So that they know the rectifier is Allah. Reflect on this! Prophet (saw) ‘s parents died. From onset, circumstances were difficult he (saw) never seen his father. Because before his (saw) birth father departed. He (saw) saw his mother only for 6 years. On return trip from Madinah mother passed away. Grandfather was present who loved Prophet (saw) dearly. When he (saw) age was 8 yrs old he passed away. Prophet (saw) said that he was 8 yrs old while he walking underneath funeral procession of his grandfather. Then his uncle raised him. Uncle was not affluent. In terms of wealth the family was modest. So Prophet (saw) said he worked as goatherder for wages. Qirat was currency during that time in Makkah. He (saw) said for goat herding I would be given few qirat from people in Makkah. Since very beginning circumstances were difficult. Upon Prophethood further difficulties came. And in all those circumstances Allah protected Prophet (saw). These are lives of Prophets. Their circumstances were broken but they were steadfast on their mission. Then Allah rectified their circumstances. So the Prophet (saw)’s life is an example for people. https://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/category/ibrahim-dewla/
  8. This is an excerpt from one of Ahmed Laat’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. Allah has given you this profession & service you render. Sometimes I tease. Your position is such if a chief politician comes you can instruct him. “Take long breath!’ ‘Hold it!’ and he has to hold it “Sit down!” “I will take blood pressure only if you are standing.” Allah has given you that authority. You are master of your science. And you can gain in hereafter as well. We had neighbour who was doctor. He had duty twice a day at nursing home morning & evening. One day I asked you go to work what intention do you make? He replied “what is need for intention? Its my job”. I told him these are the joys of Muslim. I told him what is it that you do at the ward. You go the rounds go to the patient stand for couple of minutes. “Are you good?” “Did you sleep well?” “Did you eat?” small talk. “I have seen your report its good.” Asking all of this doesn’t take that long. What is visiting the sick? To be concerned about well being and condition of the patient. Thus, you are visiting the sick. How many patients are there in the ward? In hadith Prophet (saw) said “There is no Muslim who visits a (sick) Muslim early in the morning but 70,000 angels send blessings upon him until evening comes, and if he visits him in the evening, 70,000 angels send blessings upon him until morning comes, and he will have a garden in Paradise.” (Tirmidhi) For each patient, you receive 140,000 prayers. He met me after couple of days. “Sheikh! What advice you gave me! Each time I go to nursing home I begin with the intention of visiting the sick.” https://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/2021/05/20/scholar-counsels-doctor-ahmad-laat/
  9. Life’s Mirage Umar Palanpuri

    This is an excerpt from one of Umar Palanpuri’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. One path is straight which is based on revelation. Exertion is in it because benefits of it are unseen. Other path is crooked. What is cohering in it is the benefits of it can be seen. Path of Authority and possessions one can visually see its benefits. While faith & good actions one cannot see its benefits. One perceives success in authority & possessions but success is not there. While faith & good actions, success is concealed but its there. The perception of ‘success’ in authority and possessions is like an example of a thirsty man who from distance sees water. Overjoyed he exclaims water! When he gets to his destination, there is no water rather it was a shimmering mirage. In arabic its called ‘sarab’. He exclaims “Oh this turned out to be a mirage”. After which again he sees water in further distance, he continues ahead chanting water, water, water encouraging himself to continue walking. So he reaches there and to his dismay its shimmering mirage. Path of authority and possessions is as such. One perceives there to be success but its not there. However much authority and possessions he has, he doesn’t perceive that as success. Rather his perception of success is always to look ahead. Once he has reached that station he no longer perceives success in it rather he looks ahead. Similar to man who possesses million pounds he doesn’t perceive that as success. A billion pounds that are in pockets of others he views that as success, a shimmering mirage! He pursues it whether through permissible or impermissible means and finally possesses billion pounds. After which he no longer views billion pounds as success rather he views trillion pounds as success. But in his pursuit to amass more meets death. All the designs of this world are like mirage. All forms of misguidance of the past were as such. Authority, possessions, wealth, money, gold, silver, trade, position, status its perceived there is success in it but success is not in it. Its similitude is of shimmering mirage. “their deeds are like a mirage in a desert plain, which a thirsty person deems to be water, until when he comes to it, he finds it nothing, and finds (the decree of) Allah with him, so He pays him his account in full. Allah is swift at reckoning.” (24:39) https://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/2021/05/15/lifes-mirage-umar-palanpuri/
  10. Don’t stress yourself Part 3

    This is an excerpt from one of Tariq Masood’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. One man he lost his children. He got divorced and his wife took the children. The event left him grief stricken. He was severely depressed. Off course he longs for his children. I advised him take legal action and go to court. He said going to court is not going to help. I suggested several other alternatives. He said he already tried all of them & wasn’t successful. Then I told him let it go & put it behind you. (5) What is not within your control, to grieve over it is foolish. And get married and have another family. When you will have other children, your focus will shift. He said people will taunt me I forgot my previous children. I told him people have lot of time to waste & will continue to taunt you. Ignore them. What is not in your control what is the benefit to keep examining it! This is great lesson. What is not in your control let go of thinking over it. Throughout his life, Nuh (as) tried to guide his son but he turned out to be disbeliever. In last moment, one can imagine what love & compassion Nuh (as) had while asking his son to board his ship. “O my son, come aboard with us” (11:42) “He said, I shall take shelter on a mountain which will save me from the water.” (11:43) A Prophet has intense love for his children. Similar to how Yaqub (as) had for his son (Yusuf). What pain Nuh (as) must have experienced but his son never changed. “And the waves rose high between the two, and he was among those who were drowned.” (11:43) Nuh (as) supplicated to Allah “My Lord, indeed my son is of my family; and indeed, Your promise is true” (11:45) Allah replied “O NūH, in fact, he is not a part of your family. Indeed, he is (a man of) bad deeds. So do not ask Me something of which you have no knowledge. “(11:46) Its not that Nuh (as) fell in despair “Oh what has happened with me” or start thinking “why did this happen”. Immediately Nuh (as) prayed “My Lord, I seek refuge with You that I should ask You something of which I have no knowledge. (11:47) Its not that he(as) started wailing in pain. What is not in your control relinquish it! We take lot of stress on those things that are not within our control. https://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/2021/05/09/dont-stress-yourself-part-3/
  11. Don’t stress yourself Part 1

    This is an excerpt from one of Tariq Masood’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. When I say don’t stress yourself, that doesn’t mean one will never get stressed. There is no individual in this world with whom all things are going according to how he planned. No one in this world fulfills all that they desire. This is impossible that whatever you desire it happens. Today person in position of authority then tomorrow comes where they are in jail. This happens. So not all of your desires are going to be fulfilled here. What then is the solution? Should you then fulfill everyone of your desires? That is impossible. Wouldn’t it be better if you compromise? What do you think? (#1) Firstly one should prevent themselves to fall into difficult situation. Don’t put yourself into a predicament. Having (unnecessary) friendships with opposite gender this will increase stress not decrease. This is reality. One is doing drugs, his social activities are with other drug users. Doing drugs will not decrease stress rather increase it. When he is not able to have drugs, wouldn’t this individual not get anxious! You are person with modest means but you choose to live in an affluent area. This will increase stress and make person victim of having inferior complex. Look he has a fancy car while I only possess this. Rather you should have lived in an area where everyone is driving similar car as yourself. I witness people living in an affluent area who live with anxiety. They own mansion and earning millions. Why then are they stressed? Because neighbor is making more. These stresses are not from God rather they are self inflicted. https://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/2021/04/19/dont-stress-yourself-part-1/
  12. Don’t Despair Ibrahim Dewla

    This is an excerpt from one of Ibrahim Dewla’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. No one should despair from Allah. No one should complain. People who make effort for this faith should have good opinion of Allah. My Allah is doing good for me. My Allah has provided me in an excellent manner. And Allah will continue to do good for me. Allah will continue to create ease in my circumstances. Allah will continue to facilitate me. Allah will accept me. This is necessary! Its one of the etiquettes. Jabir (rad) said: Three days before he died, I heard Prophet (saw) say: None of you should die except while he is having good thoughts about Allah. (Muslim) My Allah will deal with me with good circumstances. My Allah will assist me. My Allah will make me successful. How your opinion is will dictate how Allah deals with you. It’s in hadith. The Prophet (saw) said, “Allah says: ‘I am just as My slave thinks I am, (i.e. I am able to do for him what he thinks I can do for him). (Bukhari) Allah’s grandeur is great. Allah’s rights cannot be fulfilled by anyone. (Due to which) Allah made way out for us. So based on your opinion decisions will be made. How easy it has become? To have good opinion is this really difficult? To have hope in Allah is this difficult? Because Allah’s grandeur is great and his power is immense. Allah’s rights can never be fulfilled by anyone. Allah’s favors on his creation are many. Allah’s blessings are many. This has been explained to you that do the work of this faith with having good opinion of Allah. Reason for this is that in this world circumstances come to man, undesirable circumstances, pain comes, illness come, restrictions come. So man feels anxious and constricted due to difficulties and devil makes this man hopeless. (This occurs) because man is unmindful of Allah’s greatness. What is Allah’s greatness? This is what man is distracted from. Its blessings of propagation of this faith through which Prophets explain greatness of Allah. The Provider to whom you are going, the Provider to whom you are inviting others to, Provider to whom you worship, what is His greatness! Reflect on His greatness so circumstances are alleviated. Prophets in their message explain greatness of Allah comprehensively. And with people they (Prophets) make them hopeful. Don’t be afraid. Do (good) work. Your sustainer is such & such. “then ask forgiveness of Him and turn to Him in repentance. Certainly, my Lord is Near (to all by His Knowledge), Responsive.” (11:61) https://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/2021/04/18/dont-despair-ibrahim-dewla/
  13. Lover’s Prayer

    This is an excerpt from one of Tariq Masood’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. Questioner asks to obtain girl I made lots of prayer in latter parts of night. I didn’t have an unlawful relationship. Despite my sincere efforts I wasn’t able to obtain her. But I believe that Allah will provide me someone better. Sheikh replies this happens quite a bit. Truly difficult situation. You prayed all this time despite your efforts in the end you are not able to obtain her. In the Quran Allah says “Or shall man have what he wishes?” (53:24) This is rhetorical question. Answer to which is what man wishes doesn’t happen all the time. Truly whatever prayers you have made in night we hope Allah out of his mercy accepts them. If that individual was not meant for you, you will get someone better. Did I not say we should think positive? Firstly we should have positive opinion of Allah. The Prophet (saw) said, “Allah says: ‘I am just as My slave thinks I am, (i.e. I am able to do for him what he thinks I can do for him).” Allah forbid that you think Allah intended bad for me because of your perspective it will be bad. Rather have positive thought that whatever happened is for my best. It could be that you got married to her. Rather than being source of happiness she tortures you. Allah will provide you someone better. And it could be that the one you do get married to, she is not better and is torturing you. So one will ask has Allah truly provided me someone better? We have to believe Allah knowledge is perfect and our intellect is deficient. “it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know.”(2:216) Meaning of having faith is to believe whatever occurring in my life is nothing but good. My other advice or request in late parts of night avail opportunity to pray for forgiveness. Wouldn’t that be better? Focus on obtaining forgiveness of Allah. https://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/2021/04/16/lovers-prayer/
  14. Never Complain

    http://vimeo.com/10277526 In the Hands of God http://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/2012/04/06/never-complain/ (If you have benefited from this, raise your hands and pray for me and send it to others)
  15. My Comforting Email

    I have only removed my name and specific details but generally nothing has been deleted from the email. When things were tough, a person I looked up to wrote to me this comforting email 10 years ago: Assalam-o-alaikum, I feel for you. May Allah help you, and He is the best Helper and Redeemer. Seek His mercy and protection, for He is the best Protector. Our lives in this world are very short. One day we all have to move on from this world to a different world. No matter how bad conditions get, one day they will end. If we keep obeying Allah and exercise patience in face of hardships and afflictions, then Allah's promise is that He will reward us in the Aakhirah (here-after). For a muslim, it is a win-win situation. Wether he is happy or sad, he gains. In happiness, through Shukr (grateful), thankfullness to Allah, and in miseries, through Sabr, patience for the sake of Allah. In face of hardships, Prophets and Saints advice people to do Istighfaar (asking forgiveness), tauba (returning to Allah), keep doing it. Like Younus AS kept making dua to Allah, while inside the fish: LA ILAHA ILLA ANTA SUBHANAKA, INNI KUNTU MINAZ ZAALIMEEN. There is no lord beside you, o' Allah, you are glorified. Verily, I am from the opressors. This dua turned Allah's punishment into mercy. He was saved inside the stomach of the fish, then he was delivered without difficulty. Not only this, but the nation he left hopelessly that they will not bring Imaan (faith), Allah guided them. Do not blame others for your hardships. Imaan teaches us that everything is from Allah. All creation put together cannot hard or benefit us in anyway. Whatever is happenning, is from Allah. So always turn towards Allah and humble yourself in front of Him. Seek His help. Turn your attention away from makhlooq, creation. Let the events take their shape, in whatever direction they take. Just quit resistence and relax. Take a deep breath! Let the forces take you in their flow. But do not leave Salat, for nobody could dare stop you from performing it. Do zikr (remembrance) of Allah, for remembering Allah is an act of heart. No power on the earth could have control over your heart. You got the drift, what I am trying to tell you. Now I have full confidence in you, that you will deal with stuff in a mature manner. You have gained this attitude through tough experiences. Like they put gold in the oven to purify, you are purified through these agonies. Like they put iron in the fire to solidify and harden it, you are hardened by these afflictions. Make use of this purity and hardness. Do not harm anybody. Allah will reward you immensely. You will see in your life ahead, the effects of your patience, InshaAllah (God willing). There are those who take revenge, and satisfy their animal instincts, yet there are those who forgive and turn their attention to the real source, Allah, and He elevate their status to great heights. This is the akhlaaq (character) of our Nabi (Prophet)SAS, and his Mubarak (blessed) saying: Join those that run away from you, forgive those who oppress you, give to those that deprive you, do good to those who do bad to you. You like to fly like birds or soar like eagles. We should try to reach higher goals and our goal is Allah, who is the Highest. Our flight should surpass everybody else's. Right?? Allah teaches us in the Qur'an that good and bad cannot be equal. If you return good with bad, then your arch enemy will become your best friend. This is a proven case. This is the rule of Allah. However, Allah says that not everybody could do this, except those that are gifted by Allah with perseverance and patience. Let us go for it, and prove to the world, how Imaan (faith) revolutionize a person, and strip all the base desires and animal instincts from him. Let us follow the footsteps of our noble prophet SAS, who is indeed best model for us and the rest of humanity, until the day of judgement. Remember me in your duas. For dua in time of distress is acceptable. I will make dua for you too. For dua for a muslim brother is also acceptable. your brother, (If you have benefited from this, raise your hands and pray for me and send it to others) http://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/2012/10/19/my-comforting-email/