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  1. I Take Leave

    salaam Sister illuminate – your post bought tears to my eyes, you are such a geniune person….I was wondering for days where you got too, mashalla you have good understanding and knowledge, I always loved to read your words of wisdom…Insa’Allah, Allah (swt) will help to increase your knowledge further.. Sister you have helped many people here, far more than you realise, may Allah (swt) reward you for all your efforts, insa’Allah all your obstacles in your life will be eased and you will be back soon ma sallam
  2. Forgiveness For Someone That Hurt You

    salaam Sister, insa'Allah everything will work out for the better.. Here is an friday sermon by Shaykh Saud Ash-Shuraym 20, Rabee‘ul-Awwal 1426 (29 April 2005) on forgiving others, very good article insa'Allah will benefit sister Lost4eva, sister Noor and everybody else "you can't post links until you reach 50 posts_forums.gawaher(contact admin if its a beneficial link)/index.php?showtopic=13049"]you can't post links until you reach 50 posts_forums.gawaher(contact admin if its a beneficial link)/index.php?showtopic=13049[/url] ma sallam
  3. Forgiveness For Someone That Hurt You

    salaam Agree sister.....I am sure it is not a boyfriend and girl friend issue, Lost4eva, has lots of worries in her life so we should not jump to these kinds of assumptions...Think the best in people not the worse about people ws
  4. Job V's Marriage..

    salaam It is so sad that so many parents put this world before their religion...our life in this world is short and very temporary....I don't what else I can say, except keep telling your parents that it is best that you marry...Once you are married Allah (swt) will give you security and the necessities of this world...Insa'Allah I will remember you in my dua's ma sallam
  5. Forgiveness For Someone That Hurt You

    sister lost4eva Becoz you are suffering form the pain that the person has inflicted on you every day and you are struggling to overcome this, that is why you are finding it very difficult for give them.... But I am sure once you have overcome this pain inflicted on you that is when you will find it easier to forgive them...So sister, continue to recite the verses from the quran and you will insa'Allah be cured..... ma sallam
  6. salaam This could be jinn possession.....jinn do cause various illnesses, to be 100% do see an aamil...like brother Mu'maneen, see someone quickly There are few things you can do in the meantime like recite verse's from the quran, bathing in lotus leaves and giving her black seed oil, honey, dates and olive oil..... If she is possessed, how quickly the jinns leaves depends why the jinn possessed her in the first place Here is a link which tells what one can do and verse's from the quran that one can recite: "you can't post links until you reach 50 posts_www.angelfire(contact admin if its a beneficial link)/al/islamicpsychology/general/fatawa011.html"]you can't post links until you reach 50 posts_www.angelfire(contact admin if its a beneficial link)/al/islamicpsychol.../fatawa011.html[/url] ma sallam
  7. Why Won't Anyone Marry Me?

    salaam Brother, Allah(swt) is the best planner, so as mentioned be patient...Marrriage to some comes early whilst to others it comes later.. So brother keep looking, don't see it as your lost but their lost, insa'Allah everything will work out for the better ma sallam
  8. Close To Home

    salaam brother.. Yeah this whole marriage things can be very stressful, going through the same thing...My advice would be if you plan to see or make a proposal, it is best not to tell any one...only tell people very close to you.. Insa'Allah everything should work out for the better ma sallam
  9. Forgiveness For Someone That Hurt You

    salaam Subhan'Allah, I am so glad that you have found your answer...insa'Allah do post the link it would be beneficial to others as well... ma sallam
  10. Forgiveness For Someone That Hurt You

    salaam sister Most people are hurt by someone in their lifes but we must forgive, carrying bitterness towards other serves little purpose. You should forgive that person whole heartily what he/she did to you and also ask Allah (swt) to forgive your sins as well. Even if the person has not asked you to forgive them, you should still forgive them....memorise are reminders for us off our past, which should be used to strenghten our imam.. The Prophet SAWS said: "The Most Merciful shows mercy to those who have mercy on others. Show mercy to those on earth, and the One above the heaven will show mercy to you." Forgiving people for the wrongs they have done to you, surely the most merciful will forgive you for the wrongs you have done....ameen Hope this helps ma sallama
  11. Please Advise Me

    salaam brother Sorry to hear about your dilema with your wife and inlaws...The advice sister maryam has given is comprehensive I like to add that, some muslim behave like this towards converts becoz off their ignorance, they are committing a great sin, in looking down on people like you, making fun of you as well, I don't know how they can live with themselves.....They are committing the sin of Kibr (pride/arrogance) - this is one hadith on Kibr - Narrated Abdullah ibn Mas'ud: The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) observed: He who has in his heart the weight of a mustard seed of pride shall not enter Paradise (bukhari) Basically, Islamically, you don't need to let your wife to go and see her family on her own.. also Islamically if you refuse to let her go to pakistan on her own, she has to obey you.....A wife first duties are to her husband and then her parents come after that... Also brother, you have probably done this already, but mention this anyway, open your heart to your wife, telling how you feel about the whole situation, and tell her about all your apprehensions.. Brother slave is right, the tactics and the lenght they go to are beyond believe, so don't let her go to pakistan....Also brother, I don't want to be seem as judging anyone, but be extremely careful of them. hope this helps ma sallam
  12. Relationship With A Marrid Man

    salaam what a situation, she is talking to the guy's wife as well...Yeah, you need to encourage her to leave this guy, no friends no nothing....Tell her to put herself in the guy's wife situation, or imagine if that was her brother or father...how will she feel then. You should also tell her to get married, she has already committed zina and shaitan will not leave her and until she does this again and again...That is why she must leave this guy and tell her parent s to find her an appropriate partner.. ma sallam PS: You are more than welcome for the infor. on zina
  13. salaam Caused by satelite broadcasting, a great fitnah of our time...sad indeed..The responsibility lies with the parents
  14. Confused!

    salaam Agree with the above comments, I also think you need to find more about him...It will be unfair on you to marry someone who has not overcome his pass, you don't know where it may lead to in the future...Definitely try istikhaara again... Can I add also when people do istikhaara, they assume they will see a dream telling what to do, this is not correct, you may see a dream...it is more likely after doing salat-l-istikhara, you may feel more inclined towards a decision one way or the other....maybe through changing circumstances...then go ahead with the action, trusting that Allaah will choose what is best for you Hope this helps and makes sense ma sallam
  15. Need A Quick Answer

    salaam See you have got you answer:- Talking about this topic: GUESS WHO PRINTS BNP 'ANTI-MUSLIM NEWSPAPER' - (VOICE OF FREEDOM) you guessed it.... The Voice of Freedom, the BNP's official publication, which regularly describes Islam as a "dangerous" religion, is published at a printing works in Essex owned by a company in ........ and staffed almost entirely by Muslims. An undercover reporter, posing as a potential client, visited the print works of the company, Satellite Graphics Ltd, in Barking, Essex, where staff confirmed that it prints The Voice of Freedom. At a two-storey warehouse on an industrial estate, a man who identified himself as one of the managers led our reporter to a sales meeting room, where a long table was covered in neatly displayed Arabic, Muslim and Asian newspapers. "you can't post links until you reach 50 posts_www.mpacuk(contact admin if its a beneficial link)/content/view/474/"]FULL ARTICLE[/url] Profits before ethics ma sallam
  16. Husband Doesnt Understand

    salaam First off all here is a fatwa, Right of the wife versus the rights of parents "you can't post links until you reach 50 posts_www.daruliftaa(contact admin if its a beneficial link)/question.asp?txt_QuestionID=q-22174168"]you can't post links until you reach 50 posts_www.daruliftaa(contact admin if its a beneficial link)/question.asp?txt...onID=q-22174168[/url] It is all about communicating to your husband what you require and working through what your demands are..It is upto your husband to tell to his parents what is in the interest of both of you... Sister tell you the truth, reading your posts, it is quite clear that you will not be happy with the situation the way they are, you need your own space with your husband (which is within Islam), then maybe your marriage might work...The way things are at the moment there is little chance, it is only going to end up one way.....When you come back form turkey nothing is going to change, infact you and your husband will be under more pressure to bring in an income....sorry to be so blunt, but you need to decide if you are prepared to live like this indefinitely or seperation from your husband: hope this helps and make sense ma sallam
  17. cont... Also if she is heavily influenced by her friend you may need to talk to both of them...watching TV is corrupting us enough why go deeper and choose to watch filth like movies, our time is short in this world we should make the most of it...if I was in your situation I would advise my parents to ban watching useless films and programmes in the house........hope this helps ma sallam
  18. salaam Brother, absolutely right, violence is not the answer, it is likely to inflame the situation rather solve it... I think the the first step is for you to sit with your sister and tell her how you feel about the situation. I know you say that you are not in the situation to counsel her, but you must start somewhere and by talking to her sensibly is a good starting point...Your mum knows about the situation so it may be best that three off you together can discuss this..Also your father may need to be told about the situation (this is for you to decide - it is permissable to tell your father about a situation if one feels he needs to be told for the sake off the family)..as the following hadith proves: Our Prophet (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, ‘That man unto whom a child is born should give it a good name and ensure the beautiful and correct Islamic nurturing of the child. When the child comes of age, he should get the child married. Should the father fail to do so and his offspring indulges in sin, then the weight and punishment of it will come to bear upon the father’ What you need to talk to her about is the evils of her action...shaytan flows in our blood, so she must not think she can control her desires: the one who is ruled by their desires is weak, and whoever walks for a few steps with the Shaytaan will walk with him to the end - the end may take months all years but it will come, that is why Allah (swt) said - Do not even come close to zina. This means not doing any deed that may get close to zina or lead to it, such as being alone with a member of the opposite sex, touching, looking, going to evil places, speaking in a haraam manner to a woman to whom one is not related, thinking about and planning immoral acts, and so on…….zina has a wide meaning, and can be committed with ones eyes, mouth, hears and so on Basically she needs to be told, she needs to end all form of communication with this person, as it is haram and a grave sin cont..
  19. Asthma

    salaam brother As well as black seed, use honey and olive (oil) Here are some useful hadiths: Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "There is no disease that Allah has created, except that He also has created its treatment." (bukhari) Volume 7, Book 71, Number 582 I heard Allah's Apostle saying, "There is healing in black cumin for all diseases except death." (bukhari) Volume 7, Book 71, Number 592: Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: (The Prophet said), "Healing is in three things: A gulp of honey, cupping, and branding with fire (cauterizing)." But I forbid my followers to use (cauterization) branding with fire." (bukhari) Volume 7, Book 71, Number 584: Hazrath Abu Hurairah (t) narrates that the Prophet (Pbuh) stated, “ Eat the olive oil and apply it (locally), since there is cure for seventy diseases in it, one of them is Leprosy.†(Abu Naim) ma sallam
  20. Shivering?

    salaam Yes it could, what kind off sleeping problems do you suffer, example do you suffer from sleep paralysis or restlessness..I think you must be stressed as well, are there any other symptoms you suffer from.....you can send me a PM or email if you don't want too write it all here.....I suffer from something similar so that is how I know about this.. ma sallam
  21. Relationship With A Marrid Man

    I have the above on a word doc, if you want it let me know...there are many others which can be mentioned as well.. I know off people who committ fornication and the above affects I can see it on them ma salllam
  22. Relationship With A Marrid Man

    Another of the effects of zina is lack of respect, as his family, friends and others lose respect for him, and he becomes the most despicable thing in their sight; this is in contrast to the chaste person, who is blessed with dignity and sweetness. Another of the effects of zina is that people will regard him as a traitor and no one will trust him with regard to his wife or child. Another of the effects of zina is the foul odour that will emanate from him and be detected by everyone who has a sound heart; it will emanate from his mouth and body, and were it not for the fact that there are all the people have a similar odour, that smell would spread far and wide. Another of the effects of zina is that he will feel uneasy and distressed, for adulterers are doing the opposite of what they are seeking. Whoever seeks the enjoyment and good things of life by means of that which Allaah has forbidden, Allaah will punish him by letting him get the opposite of that which he is trying to achieve. For that which is with Allaah can only be attained by obeying Him, and Allaah never makes disobedience towards Him the means of attaining anything good. If the immoral person only knew what delight, happiness, ease and good living there is in chastity, he would realize that the delights that he has missed out on are many times greater than those which he may have enjoyed, let alone the consequences in the Hereafter, when the chaste person will attain the reward of Allaah and will be honoured by Him. Another of the effects of zina is that he has exposed himself to missing out on the delights of al-hoor al-‘iyn in the beautiful abodes of the Garden of Eden (Jannaat ‘Adan). Another of the effects of zina is that zina leads to cutting the ties of kinship, disobedience towards parents, haraam earnings, mistreating others, neglect of one's wife and children, and it may even lead a person to shed blood unlawfully. (This is happening to your cousin and the guy in question)
  23. Relationship With A Marrid Man

    Another of the effects of zina is that it takes away the goodness which Allaah described as the attribute of those who are chaste, and replaces it with the evil which Allaah described as the attribute of the adulterers, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning) “Bad statements are for bad people (or bad women for bad men) and bad people for bad statements (or bad men for bad women). Good statements are for good people (or good women for good men) and good people for good statements (or good men for good women)†[al-Noor 24:26] Allaah has forbidden Paradise to every evil person, and He has made Paradise the abode of the good, and no one will enter it but those who are good. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Those whose lives the angels take while they are in a pious state (i.e. pure from all evil, and worshipping none but Allaah Alone) saying (to them): Salaamun ‘Alaykum (peace be on you) enter you Paradise, because of that (the good) which you used to do (in the world)†[al-Nahl 16:32] “and its keepers will say: Salaamun ‘Alaykum (peace be upon you)! You have done well, so enter here to abide therein†[al-Zumar 39:73] So they will deserve the greeting of the angels and admission to Paradise because of their goodness. But the adulterers are among the most evil of creation, and Allaah has made Hell the abode of evil and its people. When the Day of Resurrection comes, the evil will be distinct from the good, and the evil will be piled up together, then it and its people will be thrown into Hell. No one who is good will enter Hell and no one who is evil will enter Paradise. Another of the effects of zina is the sense of alienation which Allaah instills in the heart of the adulterer, and this is like the alienation that shows on his face. For the one who is chaste has sweetness in his face and contentment in his heart, and whoever sits with him feels at ease with him. But the adulterer has signs of alienation in his face and whoever sits with him will feel uneasy.
  24. Relationship With A Marrid Man

    salaam Doesn't your cousin feel worried / scared that see may get pregnant, catch a sexual transmitted disease...I know off muslims girls young as 14 getting pregnant, Allah (swt) have mercy on us.. There are so many, but here are some, sorry about the long post, but insa'Allah it will be beneficial to your cousin.... One of the effects of zina is that it earns the wrath of Allaah because His sacred limits are transgressed. If a man were to do such a thing to any king, he would meet the direct consequences. Another effect of zina is the darkening of the face, and the grimness and misert of face that are apparent to other people. Another effect of zina is darkness of the heart and the extinguishing of its light, which is what causes the extinguishing of light in the face and the darkening thereof. Another effect of zina is the poverty that it leads to. Another effect of zina is the loss of respect towards the one who does it, and the lowering of his status in the eyes of his Lord and in the eyes of His slaves. Another effect of zina is that is causes him to lose the best of attributes, namely chastity, goodness and righteousness, and it earns him their opposites, namely immorality, evildoing, adultery and betrayal. Another effect of zina is that it causes him to lose the title of believer, as it was narrated in al-Saheehayn that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No adulterer is a believer at the moment when he is committing adultery.†Another of the effects of zina is that it exposes one to the possibility of being one of the inhabitants of the oven (tannoor) in which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) saw the adulterers and adulteresses. cont.....
  25. As salamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu Insha Allah you and your family well in all respects and covered by the guidance, protection, and mercy of the Most Merciful. Reading a topic on this forum, I was slightly offended by what some where implying about black people...Being partly from africa, you can understand why I felt necessary to post this topic: FROM QURAN From the Quran: "O Mankind, We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know each other. Verily the most honored of you in the sight of God is he who is the most righteous of you" (49:13). Allah is the One who made human beings into different groups and people. These differences are not wrong, rather a sign from Allah ("And among His Signs is the creation of the heavens and the earth, and the difference of your languages and colors. Verily, in that are indeed signs for those who know" [Quran 30:22]). FROM SUNNAH 1. Prophet's response to racist comments: A man once visited the Prophets Masjid in Madinah. There he saw a group of people sitting and discussing their faith together. Among them were Salman (who came from Persia), Suhayb who grew up in the Eastern Roman empire and was regarded as a Greek, and Bilal who was an African. The man then said: "If the (Madinan) tribes of Aws and Khazraj support Muhammad, they are his people (that is, Arabs like him). But what are these people doing here?" The Prophet became very angry when this was reported to him. Straightaway, he went to the Masjid and summoned people to a Salat. He then addressed them saying: "O people, know that the Lord and Sustainer is One. Your ancestor is one, your faith is one. The Arabism of anyone of you is not from your mother or father. It is no more than a tongue (language). Whoever speaks Arabic is an Arab." (As quoted in Islam The Natural Way by Abdul Wahid Hamid p. 125) cont....