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  1. 12 Sex Reasons "why I Am Not A Muslim"

    Salaams I dont know where some of his ideas came from. When there is a divorce there is a waiting period of 3 months, whereas during that time they can get back together. now regarding #8 My husband has two wives and with having two wives comes alot of responsibilities. I will first by saing that my co-wife and i are friends... my husband is not some kind of sex crazed pervert. That is not why he took another wife. He took me ( I am the second wife) because he saw i was divorced and struggling with my 4 kids. He treats both of his wives with honor and respect and looks after each house. He has raised my four children as his own for the last 4 years. Especially since my kids father is what u would say is a dead beat dad. My husband has paid for my kids education for the last four years. He is a good muslim, a good husband and a good father Really it makes me mad when non- muslims that have no idea what polygyny is about start bashing muslim men that have more than one wife. It isnt about sex. Its about duty and commitment. Salaams
  2. Assalam alaykum I am so happy to hear about your family accepting your reversion in to Islam :sl: When i reverted 24 years ago it wasn't so easy for me... but of course that was a time when Islam was really in the negative. There was no internet etc at that time for my parents to investigate. They only had their priest... and of course he gave them a more negative answer about Islam. My mom was fine and so were some of my brothers. My dad was the difficult one... but we did finally come together after two years. Inshallah every thing will work wellfor you. Salaams
  3. Christ Crucified

    Salaams The Holy Quran states in Surah 1:157 That Jesus was not crucified, " And their (jews) boasting we killed Messiah Jesus. son of Mary, The Apostle of Allah, but they (Jews) killed him not, nor crucified him. Christians believe he died and was then Resurrected.... But no one actually saw the moment he was resurrected. They found the sepulchre where Jesus was (supposed) laid down empty and made the conclusion themselves that he was resurrected because the disciples and other witnesses saw him alive after the alleged crucifixion. Could it not be possible as the Quran says, that he did not die on the cross? Jesus' Prayer to not die on the cross was accepted by God according to Luke, Hebrews and James: Then how could he still die on the cross?? Luke 22:43 There appeared an angel unto him from the heavens strengthening him - it means that the angel assured him that God would not leave him helpless Hebrews 5:7 Who in the days of his flesh when he (jesus) had offered up prayers and supplications with strong crying and tears unto him that was able to save him from death, and was heard in that he feared. Jesus' prayers were heard, which means they were answered in a positive way by God. James 5:16 .... The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. Jesus himself said (matthew 7:7-10 Ask and it shall be given to you; seek and ye shall find knock and it shall be opened to you; for everyone that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth and to him who knocketh it shall be opened. Since Jesus' prayers we accepted by God, including not to die on the cross, how could he still die on the cross. His legs were not broken by Roman soldiers (John 19:32-33) Then came the soldiers and broke the legs of the first, and of the other which were crucified with him But when they came to Jesus and saw (or thought) he was dead already the broke not his legs. Can one rely on those soldiers for pronouncing death or did they want to save jesus as they found him innocent? IF Jesus died on the cross, his blood would clot and no blood with gush out of his body when his side was pierced. But the gospel states that the blood and water came out. (John 19:34) But one of the soldiers with a spear pierced his side and forthwith came there out blood and water. This was AFTER the other soldier had already said that Jesus was dead. When the Pharisees asked Jesus for a sign of his true mission he answered (Matthew 12:40) For Jonas was three days and three nights in the belly of the whale, so shall the son of man be three days and three nights in the heart of the earth. Was Jonah alive in the belly of the whale??? Yes he was---- ( also note that Jesus called himself SON OF MAN, not SON OF GOD) As Jonah was alive after the whale swallowed him Jesus too would be alive after the crucifixion, he himself prophesied it. Jesus himself stated he did not die on the cross: Early Sunday morning Mary Magdalene went to the sepulchre which was empty. She saw someone standing who looked like a gardener. She recognized him after the conversation to be Jesus and wanted to touch him. Jesus said (John 20:17) touch me not; for i have not yet ascended to my Father..... "Touch me not" ; perhaps because the fresh wound would hurt him. I am not yet ascended to my father... means that he was alive, not dead yet. Because when someone dies they go back to the creator. This is the strongest proof admitted by Jesus himself. After the alleged crucifixion the disciples thought that he was not the Same Jesus in body but spiritualized, because resurrected bodies are spiritualized. Because Jesus himself said in the Bible that they are equal to angels. Luke 20:34-36 And answered said unto them, the children of the world marry and are given in marriage. But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that world, and then resurrection from the dead neither marry nor or given in marriage: Neither they die anymore for the are equal unto the angels. and they are the Children of God, being the children of the resurrection. Also, Jesus convinced them by letting him touch his hands and feet that he was the same person. As they could not believe him yet. He asked for meat to show them that he still ate like any living person. Luke 24-36-41 And as the (the disciples) thus spoke, Jesus himself stood in the midst of them and saith to them. Peace be unto you. But they were terrified and frightened and supposed that they had seen a spirit. "Why are ye troubled? and why do thoughts arise in your hearts? Behold my hands and feet, that it is I myself: handle me and see; for a spirit hath not flesh and bones as ye see me have" and when he had thus spoken, he showed them his hands and feet. And while they yet believed not for joy, and wondered he said unto them, " have ye here any meat? And they have him a piece of boiled fish and of an honeycomb. And he took it, and did eat before them. These are all proof from the Holy Bible that Jesus did not die on the cross. Salaams.....
  4. The Power Of Dua

    assalam alaykum What a wonderful post. Also, i want to add- when we are making duaa to Allah (SWT) it is important to thank him for all the thing that he has given to us. Sometimes we are only thinking of the problem we are facing at that moment when we are making duaa, and forget to be thankful for what Allah has given to us. I feel that we should always say al-humduliah for all the things Allah has given to us in our lives and that way he will surely give us more of what we need. Salaams
  5. Family Problems, I Am Feeling Hopeless, Suicidal..

    Salaams First of all, you need to take a step back and look at the situation. Firstly, did ur husband convert just to please you? Is he praying? Fasting..... if the answer is no to these you need to look into if he is a Muslim or not? If he is not you have to divorce him. A person that has not prayed for three days is considered as one that has left Islam..... so you need to step back and look at all of this. secondly, Italians are hard... your brother seems as if he has a behavior problem and an attitude problem and needs an attitude adjustment. Maybe he is just trying to help out and is harsh. He should try to get a job at the local Masjid... or Islamic book store if there are any around where you live, if he is really serious about Islam. Lastly, All of you need family therapy... not just u and him but ur entire family since u are all living together. I would check in the community to see if there is a Muslim psychologist practicing there. Do not go to a non Muslim because they would not understand the circumstances. If u can't find one in ur community, go to the local imam.
  6. I Need Help

    Salaams Allah is most forgiving and most merciful. I agree with br. Younes. If marriage is an option then you should get married. If not you can start by reading more Quran everyday and spending more time at the Masjid. If you are in the United States, Most Masjids have segregated activities for the youth. If marrying this girl is not an option you should surely cut of all ties with her. Also who are your friends? Are they Muslims? if they are Muslims, are they practicing Muslims? We come a part of that which we associate with. It seems you have gotten so far into the culture of the west that you are modeling western behavior. You need to remember life in this world is a test. You are actually the same age as my son, Usamah. He is interested in girls of course, and he does go to a co-ed school and there are girls in his class. However, he knows to have relations with them is haram.. He busies himself with going to the Masjid and he even meets his friends at the Masjid. After prayer they hangout at one of his friends house or go walking in the neighborhood. The Masjid is next door to my house so he is there alot. He also goes to classes in the evening at the Masjid to learn more about Islam. We do live in Oman, so things are a bit different. You should try and do some of the activities as my son does. He also is reciting a lot of Duaa... i hear him all the time... You have power over your own life. You have to take it back from this sinful way of living. Ask Allah to guide you. I know being a teenager is hard... i was there....long time ago.... but you have to know right from wrong...halal from haram and you have to find another way to curb your desires... such as going to the Masjid more and reading Quran.... and seeing who your friends are.
  7. Re-marrying In Islam?

    Salaams My husband does have two wives. I am his second. I am an American and my husband is Omani... we live in Oman. In Islam the men have the right to marry up to four wives as long as they are able to be fair. My husband married me after my children's father and I got divorced. He was from the same village as my husband and he saw i was struggling with my four kids. I feel as i have the best husband in the world. He is a wonderful man and a wonderful stepfather to my four children. If men did not have this option then i wouldn't have been able to marry this wonderful and loving man. His first wife, is like my sister and we love each other as sisters. Yes, she had some trouble adjusting in the beginning to her husband marrying another woman... but she did and we have become great friends... not only that if one of us gets jealous of the other... we tell each other... stop being jealous! Its all how someone approaches the situation... my co-wife and myself have approached it in a positive way and decided to support each other. If my husband is here too long i send him to her.... if he is there too long she sends him to me. Its the way it should be. Co-wives shouldnt fight each other. We should understand that this is something ordained by Allah and we should love each other and support each other as sisters. We have to be understanding and patient. I do understand that my husband has 9 children with my co-wife and sometimes he just cant be here. I know he will be eventually because i know she will send him to me. So in marrying , you have to understand that this is something that may or may not happen... and be patient and trust in Allah to see u through anything.... Salaams
  8. Do You Have A Pet?

    Salaams We have three cats.... One named Jessy (my favorite) One named Miguel (my daughters favorite) One Named Spiros (my sons favorite) Spiros had a brother named Li song but he got caught in the engine of my husbands car :sl: He was the sweetest.... and so cuddly....) Owning animals does teach children about life and death.... We have had so many animals i cant count... we had a favorite cat, we had he for 7 years and she was really sweet. Her name was missy. When we went to eat lunch she would sit in her chair at the end of the table and patiently wait till we finished eating. (she would never climb the table or try and snatch food) one we finished eating she would follow us to the kitchen where she knew her lunch would be... One day she just disappeared.... :sl: We loved her so much... she wasnt like a cat.. she was like one of my kids!!
  9. Duaa For Pregnancy

    Salaams Yea he has 9 children mashallah from his other wife.... we only started discussing having a child recently... cuz there are 13 all together (my children all live with us) I told him he'd never notice one more... ha ha ha! :sl: So inshallah Allah will bless us.... And incase u are wondering me and his other wife get along very well.... she is a sweetheart and i love her as my sister.... she doesnt speak english and my arabic is only workable, and my balushi is 0... but we manage to communicate with each other. :sl:
  10. Islam in Oman

    I am sure the sats are right considering the ex-pat community here. There is a huge Hindu community here and is growing. The last census was done about 5 or 6 years ago. According to the ministry of information where my husband works the Muslim population is larger than the non Muslim. it is 59% Muslim and 41% non Muslim. In UAE since 70% of people there are expats i think the non Muslim stats would be much higher than Oman. I have not heard that the UAE has done a proper census... It is done in Oman every 10 years. Of course course many middle eastern governments do not want it to be known actually how many non-Muslims are in their countries... I think Oman is different since His Majesty introduced the census around 93 or 94
  11. Duaa For Pregnancy

    Salaams Sam I actually do have 4 wonderful children. But they are all from my first husband which I am divorced from. My current husband and I have been married now for four years and we would like one child together. :sl:
  12. Duaa For Pregnancy

    Salaams You are talking about surat al waqia the 56th chapter of the Holy Quran?
  13. Duaa For Pregnancy

    Salaams Thanks.... i will try this
  14. Islam in Oman

    Salaams Oman is not 100% muslim country... i wish it was!! There are many Hindus and Christians here as well. These have come from other countries and have settled in Oman and made it their home. Many have now taken Omani Citizenship. According to the last Census study: Religions Islam 59.0% Ibadi 31.0% Sunnis 24.0% Shite 4.5% Hinduism 25.0% Christianity 16.0% Baha'i 0.3% Salaams......
  15. Duaa For Debts

    assalamu alaykum..... Are there are duaas for large debts? My husband and I have large business debts... as we try and clear them up we something seems to come in between in us clearing them.... such as we need the money for something else or the debtor not agreeing to what we are able to pay etc. We need alot of supplications for this. We do pray extra prayers such as sulatu duha (surat mid morning) and the late night prayer... but we need more duaas for this.....