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  1. Fasting Problem

    Hm... an Arabic recording is of no use to me I'm afraid, I don't know Arabic. I just can't take your word for it without some kind of evidence, I'm sure you'd feel the same way in my position.
  2. Fasting Problem

    Can you please explain what a fatwa is exactly? Does that mean this is correct? Also if so, can you please provide a source so that I can show others?
  3. Hello, My Name Is Bored

    I still have no idea what you're saying because what you're saying is irrelevant to my situation. So it doesn't make any sense to me, I have no experience of what you're talking about. Why should I go to my family? What are they going to say or do about... what? Most of them are uncomfortable with my decision. I'm still trying to re-establish a relationship with my mum. My dad completely disowned me but I never grew up with him or knew him anyway. My grandma is supportive but doesn't want any involvement in anything religious. I know we're not supposed to fear Allah excessively. But you're saying I have my whole life ahead of me to figure things out. Or I could get hit by a bus on my way to work today, or stabbed for my wallet and phone. I could die any moment and I know I should be living each day as if it were my last. However, I'm not. That's what I'm afraid of, that when I die, I'll die in a state of non-faith, and I'll only have myself to blame. But I don't want to go into any more detail than that so let's drop it please. EDIT: Typing errors.
  4. The Worst Jokes

    Are the punchlines the fact that they don't make sense? I don't get these jokes.
  5. Fasting Problem

    Before anyone says, yes I know that ramadhan isn't all about the fast! But I have a legitimate medical concern. Last year I fasted during ramadan as much as I could. I tried to eat healthy food and drink plenty of water. However at the shortest eating hours I only had from around 10:30 PM until 1:30 AM to eat enough food and drink enough water to keep me going the next day. I have a small stomach which doesn't help, I can't eat or drink very much in a single sitting. Sometimes I only had one small meal and half a 1 1/2 litre bottle of water for iftaar, any more than that and the food and drink started to creep back up my throat, lasting well past fajr time (making prayer very difficult). I don't have acid reflux before anyone suggests, I just get full quickly especially if I haven't eaten all day. I tried to tough it out but I got extremely weak and I started getting bowel problems, severe abdominal pain and really bad constipation. The pain sometimes got so bad that I was about to be sick while sitting on the toilet with a strange and agonizing mixture of constipation/diarrhoea. I held it down long enough to clean myself up and turn around to face the toilet bowl. One time I was stuck on the toilet from midnight until about 2AM, completely missing fajr and my chance to top up a little more on liquids. I literally couldn't escape from the bathroom for long enough. By this point I realised I just couldn't handle the fasting and stopped (I know it was wrong but I couldn't take it any more). The problem went away when I stopped fasting, so I started fasting again and the problem returned. I went to a doctor and they said that it was due to dehydration and lack of fluid in my digestive tract and that I needed to regularly drink water. She said she's seen it before in drug addicts who forget to eat and drink because they're so out of it. She also seemed to have an agenda against the fast in general, however, stating that nobody should be forcing themselves to go without water for that long. Generally I'd agree. 14, 15, 16 hours is okay I think but 21 hours? I also can't afford a muslim doctor's advice, I just don't have the money to go private In every other way I'm completely healthy, especially when I'm not fasting those kinds of hours. This year the 1:30 AM to 10:30 PM fast lasts the entirety of ramadhan due to the high latitude that I live at (technically at that time of year the sun never fully sets) and it being during July and I'm really scared of having to go through this again. We're told that Islam is supposed to be easy for us and not impose any unnecessary hardship, but for me this is a hardship! I'm not the only one where I live who has concerns about this, though I'm not aware of anyone else who had the same medical problems from it. I just don't know what to do about this, whether I should stop fasting if it starts again or keep fasting. I felt terrible for stopping but I sincerely believed it was for the good of my health.
  6. How Smart Are You

    In the English language, on a bus generally means the same as in a bus. "I got on the bus" <-- example.
  7. The Worst Jokes

    No it isn't. That just doesn't make any sense.
  8. Hello, My Name Is Bored

    I don't live in the US. I can't own a cat where I live, as much as I would love to. Also, I have no idea what kind of point you're trying to make with the rest of your post.
  9. I think this way is much healthier for the child too. The part about the child being able to avoid marrying any long-lost siblings is pretty obvious so I won't get into it. But a child who is brought up from the beginning knowing that they were adopted tend to have a much healthier and happier attitude towards it, knowing that they parents love them soooo much even though they're technically not theirs, and that their adoptive parents aren't being untruthful towards them so it helps maintain trust too. I've heard a lot of stories about children who only found out they were adopted (often by accident) when they were a teenager or even as adults and it can come as quite a traumatic shock. They may also be left wondering what else their parents are hiding from them (even if their parents aren't hiding anything else, the trust has been lost).
  10. Adoption FTW! Whether or not my future husband, inshallah, can produce children of his own is a non-issue to me. I really want to adopt a child anyway. It's one of my life goals.
  11. Pilot Pulls An Epic Prank!

    I have a feeling it was most likely staged. Like the guy holding the camera was acting.
  12. How Smart Are You

    14 because the big cats and little cats couldn't all exist inside the backpacks, except in a compressed and disassembled state in specialized containers under immense pressure... and sadly quite dead (poor kitties). In such a state they would no longer have any discernible form and would not have legs.
  13. Username Change

    Wa alaykum salam, thanks for the suggestions. One of them is giving me an idea for a name, but I'll think more on it first.
  14. Living Without A Mahram

    Thanks for answering.That's a relief to know.
  15. Living Without A Mahram

    A sister told me that I am not allowed to live in homes or walk the streets without a mahram present. I haven't been able to find anything to support this, though. I also find it a bit unreasonable considering most female reverts in this country don't have any mahram at all (considering absent fathers are a big problem for many people in this country). Why would this woman say something like this? It can't be true can it?
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