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  1. Mothers Day?

    Allaah The Almighty Says (what means): · {And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment.}[Quran 17:23] · {And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.} [Quran 31:14] · {So would you perhaps, if you turned away, cause corruption on earth and sever your [ties of] relationship?} [Quran 47:22] In an authentic Hadeeth (narration), the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ), said: “‘Shall I not tell you of the greatest of the grave major sins?’ They said, ‘Yes, O Messenger of Allaah.’ He said: ‘Associating partners with Allaah and being undutiful to one’s parents.’ He was reclining, but he sat up and said: ‘And false speech and false witness.’” A man asked the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ), saying, “‘O Messenger of Allaah, who among people is the most entitled to my good companionship?’ He said: ‘Your mother.’ The man asked, ‘Then who?’ He said: ‘Your mother.’ He asked,‘Then who?’ He said: ‘Your mother.’ He asked, ‘Then who?’ He said: ‘Your father then the closet of your kin.’” The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ), also said that a person who severs kinship relations will not be admitted into Paradise. In another authentic Hadeeth, the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ), said: “Whoever would like to have his provision increased for him and his life span extended for him, let him maintain kinship ties.” It is of great importance to note how "Mother's Day" or "Family Day", is a day invented by the Christians to honor the mother. It has become an exalted day, on which all usual affairs cease to function, and people maintain relations with their mothers, sending them gifts and loving messages. However, once it is over, everything returns to its old state of severing relations and undutifulness. What about the remaining 364 days?! Why would Muslims need such an imitation, given that Allaah The Almighty has enjoined upon them to be dutiful to the mother, forbidden them from being undutiful to her and made the highest degree of Paradise a reward for that dutifulness to her. The idea is we are ordered to do the best treatment with parents whatever thier religion regardless the day you are living either that of recently innovated mother's day or the other days of the whole year !
  2. Which Madhab Do You Follow?

    Assalam alaikum: As regards the four Fiqh schools, they are all great. Many scholars, may Allaah have mercy on them, through many centuries have successively revised their texts. So whoever wants to seek deeper religious knowledge has to study one of these four outstanding schools: the Hanafi, Maaliki, Shaafi'ee and Hanbali schools. Indeed, whoever studies one of these four schools gets two kinds of excellences: A. To acquire and strengthen the faculty of deducing. B. To have deeper knowledge in the field of the branches of Fiqh (Islamic jurisprudence). The above two qualities could not be achieved otherwise. Experience shows that seeking knowledge without these four schools makes the student of knowledge distracted and confused, and weakens his ability to acquire knowledge. It is not possible to say that one school is better than the other because each school excels more than the other in a given domain. So the student of knowledge should not follow a given school blindly but should take from each school what is founded on evidence. The well-known scholars, may Allaah have mercy on them, acted according to the evidence no matter in which school it was found [whether in their preferred school or in another school] like the Imaams Abu Yoosuf, Mohammad Ibn Al-Hasan, Ibn Wahab, Ibn Habeeb, Al-Muzani, An-Nawawi, Shaykh Al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah, Ibn Katheer, Ath-Thahabi and others. Shaykh Al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah, may Allaah have mercy on him, said: 'If a man follows the school of Abu Haneefah, or Maalik, or Ash-Shaafi'ee, or Ahmad, may Allaah have mercy on them, and noticed in some issues that the evidence of the other school is much stronger and followed it, he has indeed done well and did not defame his religion at all but rather this is much closer to the truth and more beloved to Allaah and His Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, than someone who follows blindly a particular man other than the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam.' Allaah knows best. ( Islamweb )
  3. True Muslims Have Good Manners

    Ayesha - Messanger's wife - was asked what does the Prophet do at home? She replied:" He used to be in the service of his home people; and when the time of prayer come he used to go out for prayer." -(Bukhari) How great and humble was he - peace and blessings be upon him :sl:
  4. True Muslims Have Good Manners

    The holy Prophet - PBBUH himself was the best example of the good moral character to emulate. Abdullah Ibn Amar says: "The Messenger of Allah (p. b. u. h.) was neither ill-mannered nor rude. He used to say that the better people among you are those who are best in their moral character." -(Bukhari) Anas says: "I served the holy Prophet for ten years. He never said ëUfi (expressing dissatisfaction), nor did he ever ask me why I did this or did not do that. !!"
  5. Why Islam?

    Muhammad the son of `Abdullah is Allah's Prophet and the Final Messenger Sent by Allah to the Inhabitants of Earth. My brothers and sisters everywhere! You should know that the Messenger, Muhammad the son of `Abdullah (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) is Allah's Messenger in reality and truth. The evidences that show his veracity are abundant. None but an infidel, who out of arrogance alone, could deny these signs. Among these proofs: 1. Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) was raised illiterate, unable to read or write, and remained like that till his death. Among all his people, he was known as being truthful and trustworthy. Before receiving revelation, he had no prior knowledge of Religion or any previously sent Message. He remained like that for his first forty years. Revelation then came to Muhammad with the Koran that we now have between our hands. This Koran mentioned most of the accounts found in the previous scriptures, telling us about these events in the greatest detail as if he witnessed them. These accounts came precisely as they were found in the Torah sent down to Moses and in the Gospel sent down to Jesus. Neither the Jews or Christians were able to belie him regarding anything that he said. 2. Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) also foretold of everything that would occur to him and his community after him, pertaining to victory, the removal of the tyrannical kingdoms of Chosroes [the royal title for the Zoroastrian kings of Persia] and Caesar, and the establishment of the religion of Islam throughout the earth. These events occurred exactly as Muhammad foretold, as if he was reading the future from an open book. 3. Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) also brought an Arabic Koran that is the peak of eloquence and clarity. The Koran challenged those eloquent and fluent Arabs of his time, who initially belied him, to bring forth a single chapter like the Koran. The eloquent Arabs of his day were unable to contest this Koran. Indeed, till our day, none has ever dared to claim that he has been able to compose words that equal-or even approach-the order, grace, beauty, and splendor of this Glorious Koran. 4. The life history of this Noble Prophet was a perfect example of being upright, merciful, compassionate, truthful, brave, generous, distant from all evil character, and ascetic in all worldly matters, while striving solely for the reward of the Hereafter. Moreover, in all his actions and dealings, he was ever mindful and fearful of Allah. 5. Allah instilled great love for Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) in the hearts of all who believed in and met him. This love reached such a degree that any of his companions would willingly sacrifice his (or her) self, mother or father for him. Till today, those who believe in Muhammad honor and love him. Anyone of those who believe in him would ransom his own family and wealth to see him, even if but once. 6. All of history has not preserved the biography of any person in the manner it has preserved the life of Muhammad, who is the most influential human in history. Nor has the entire earth known of anyone whom every morning and evening, and many times thereafter throughout the day, is thought of by those who believe in him. Upon remembering Muhammad, the believers in him will greet him and ask Allah to bless him. They do such with full hearts and true love for him. 7. Nor has there every been a man on earth whom is still followed in all his doings by those who believe in him. Those who believe in Muhammad, sleep in the manner he slept; purify themselves (through ablution and ritual washing) in the manner he purified himself; and adhere to his practice in the way they eat, drink, and clothe themselves. Indeed in all aspects of their lives, the believers in Muhammad adhere to the teachings he spread among them and the path that he traveled upon during his life. During every generation, from his day till our time, the believers in this Noble Prophet have fully adhered to his teachings. With some, this has reached the degree that they desire to follow and adhere to the Prophet's way in his personal matters regarding which Allah has not sought of them to adhere to in worship. For example, some will only eat those specific foods or only wear those specific garments that the Messenger liked. Let alone all that, all those who believe in Muhammad repeat those praises of Allah, special prayers, and invocations that he would say during each of his actions during day and night, like: what he would say when he greeted people, upon entering and leaving the house, entering and leaving the Masjid, entering and leaving the bathroom, going to sleep and awaking from sleep, observing the new crescent, observing the new fruit on trees, eating, drinking, dressing, riding, traveling and returning from travel, etc. Let alone all that, all those who believe in Muhammad fully perform-even to the minute detail-every act of worship-like prayer, fasting, charity, and pilgrimage-as this Noble Messenger (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) taught and as he himself performed. All of this allows those who believe in him, to live their lives in all aspects with this Noble Messenger as their example, as if he was standing before them, for them to follow in all their doings. 8. There has never been nor will there ever be a man anywhere upon this earth who has received such love, respect, honor, and obedience in all matters-small and large alike-as has this Noble Prophet. 9. Since his day, in every region of the earth and during every period, this Noble Prophet has been followed by individuals from all races, colors and peoples. Many of those who followed him were previously Christians, Jews, pagans, idolaters, or without any religion. Among those who chose to follow him, were those who were known for their sound judgment, wisdom, reflection, and foresight. They chose to follow this Noble Prophet after they witnessed the signs of his truthfulness and the evidences of his miracles. They did not choose to follow Muhammad out of compulsion or coercion or because they had adopted the ways of their fathers and mothers. Indeed many of the followers of this Prophet (may Allah's blessings peace be upon him), chose to follow him during the time when Islam was weak, when there were few Muslims, and when there was severe persecution of his followers on earth. Most people who have followed this Prophet (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) have done so not to acquire some material benefits. Indeed many of his followers have suffered the greatest forms of harm and persecution as a result of following this Prophet. Despite all this harm and persecution, this did not turn them back from his religion. My brethren! All of this clearly indicates to anyone possessing any sense, that this Prophet was truly and really Allah's messenger and that he was not just a man who claimed prophethood or spoke about Allah without knowledge. 10. With all this, Muhammad came with a great religion in its credal and legal make-up. Muhammad described Allah with qualities of complete perfection, and at the same time in a manner that is free of ascribing to Him any imperfection. Neither the philosophers or the wise could ever describe Allah like such. Indeed it is impossible to imagine that any human mind could conceive of an existing being that possesses such complete ability, knowledge, and greatness; Who has subdued the creation; Who has encompassed everything in the universe, small or large; and Who possesses such perfect mercy. Nor is it in the ability of any human being to place a perfect law based upon justice, equality, mercy and objectivity for all human activity on earth like the laws that Muhammad brought for all spheres of human activity - like buying and selling, marriage and divorce, renting, testimony, custody, and all other contracts that are necessary to uphold life and civilization on earth. 11. It is impossible that any person conceive wisdom,, morals, good manners, nobleness of characters as what this honorable Prophet (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) brought. In a full and complete manner, Muhammad spread a teaching regarding character and manners toward one' parents, relatives, fiends, family, humanity, animals, plants and inanimate objects. It is impossible for the human mind alone to grasp all of that teaching or come with a similar teaching. All of that unequivocally indicates that this Messenger did not bring an) of this religion from his own accord, but that it was rather a teaching and inspiration that he received from the One Who created the earth and the high heavens above and created this universe in its miraculous architecture and perfection. 12. The legal and credal make-up of the religion that the Messenger, Muhammad, (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) brought resembles the engineering of the heavens and the earth. All of that indicates that He who created the heavens and the earth is the One Who sent down this great law and upright religion. The degree of inimitability of the Divine law that was sent down upon Muhammad is to the same degree of inimitability of the Divine creation of the heavens and earth. For just as humanity cannot create this universe, in the same manner humanity cannot bring forth a law like Allah's law that He sent down upon His servant and messenger Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him). (Twelve Proofs that Muhammad is a True Prophet -Shaykh `Abdul Rahman `Abdul Khaliq )
  6. Why Islam?

    Miracles of The Messenger of Allah: The Messenger of Allah possesses many manifest miracles and signs demonstrating [his veracity], reaching thousands and they are well known. From amongst them was the Qur'an, the manifest and clear miracle and brilliant proof, falsehood cannot approach it from before it or behind it. It is a revelation from One Who is All-Wise and Praiseworthy. It incapacitated the most eloquent of people in the most eloquent of times to produce a single chapter that would be comparable to it, even if the whole of creation were to gather for that purpose. Allah, the Exalted says, "Say: If the whole of mankind and the jinn gathered in order to produce the like of this Qur'an, they could not produce the like of it, even if they assisted each other." [Al-Israa' (17): 88] It challenged them to this despite their large numbers, their eloquence and their severe enmity, and it challenges them to this day. As for the other miracles, it is not possible to enumerate them all due to their huge number and renewing and increasing nature. However, I will mention some examples: The splitting of the moon, water flowing from between his fingers, increasing the quantity of food and water, the glorification of the food, the palm tree yearning for him, stones greeting him, the talking of the poisoned leg [of roasted sheep], trees walking towards him, two trees that were far apart coming together and then parting again, the barren [and therefore dry] sheep giving milk, his returning the eye of Qatidah bin an-Nu`man to its place with his hand after it had slipped out, his spitting lightly into the eye of Ali when it had become inflamed and its being cured almost immediately, his wiping the leg of `Abdullah bin `Atiq whereupon he was immediately cured. His informing of the places of death of the Day of Badr saying, 'this is the place of such polytheists on the and-such a person.' His informing of his killing Ubayy bin Khalaf, that a group of his nation would traverse an ocean and Umm Haram would be amongst them and this occurred. That all that was drawn together for him of the ends of the earth and displayed to him would be opened for his nation, that the treasures of the Chosroes would be spent by his nation in the Way of Allah, the Mighty and Magnificent. That he feared for his nation that they would be tempted by the wealth and allurement of this world and that the treasures of the Persians and Romans would be ours and that Suraqah bin Malik would wear the trousers of Chosroes. He informed us that Hasan bin `Ali would reconcile between two large warring parties of the Muslims, that Sa'd bin Abi Waqqas would live such that nations would benefit by him and others would be harmed. That an-Najashi had died on this particular day while he was in Ethiopia and that al-Aswad al-`Ansi had been killed on this particular day while he was in Yemen. That the Muslims would fight the Turks who were described as having small eyes, wide faces and small, chiselled noses and that Yemen, Syria and Iraq would be conquered by the Muslims. He informed us that the Muslims would comprise three armies, an army in Syria, and army in Yemen and an army in Iraq. That they would conquer Egypt, a land whose [unit of land measurement] was the Qirat, that they should deal with their people well for they have protection [being Copts] and ties of kinship [through Hajar]. That Awais al-Qarni would come to you from the auxiliaries of Yemen, he would be afflicted with leprosy and it would be healed except for the space of a dirham, and he indeed arrived during the rule of `Umar. He informed us that a group of his nation would always be upon the truth and that mankind would become many in number and that the Ansar would diminish in number and that the Ansar would not be given their due [with regards distribution of wealth and leadership]. That mankind would keep on asking questions until they would say, "Allah created the creation..." [Referring to the hadeeth, "the people would continue asking until they say, 'this is Allah Who created everything…but who created Allah?'" (al-Bukhari and Muslim)] He informed us that Ruwayfi` bin Thabit would live a long life, that Ammar bin Yasir would be killed by the transgressing group, that this nations shall divide into sects and that they would fight each other. He informed us that a fire would emanate from the land of Hijaz and the likes of this. All of this occurred exactly as he (sallallahu `alayhe wa sallam) said it would. He said to Thabit bin Qays, "You will live being praised... and you will die as a martyr", and he lived being praised and was martyred at al-Yamamah. He said to `Uthman, "He would be afflicted by a severe trial." [The meaning of severe trial is his being imprisoned in his house and his being killed by the transgressors.] He said about a person amongst the Muslims who had just fought a severe fight that "He would be from amongst the denizens of the Fire", and later he committed suicide. Wabisah bin Ma`bad came to him in order to ask him about righteousness and sin upon which he asked, "Have you come to ask about righteousness and sin?" He said to `Ali, az-Zubair and al-Miqdad, "Go to the garden of Khakh for indeed there is Dha`inah" who has a book with her. [Dha`inah is the woman with whom Hasib al-Balta`ah (radhiAllahu `anhu) sent a letter to the people of Mecca in order to inform them of the plans of the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu `alayhe wa sallam) to fight them. It was concerning this that the first verses of Surah Mumtahinah were revealed. The garden of Khakh is a place falling between Mecca and Madinah. Refer to Bukhari [no. 3983] and Muslim [no. 2494] and Tafsir ibn Kathir [4/344]] They found her there but she initially denied having the book and then took it out from within her braids. He said to Abi Hurayrah, when Satan had stolen some dates, "Indeed he shall return" and he did. He said to his wives, "The most prolific of you in giving charity will be the quickest of you to join me." and it was so [Zaynab bint Jahsh (radhi Allahu `anha) was the most prolific of them in giving charity and was the first to die. Refer to Muslim [no. 2452].] He said to 'Abdullah bin Sallam, "You will remain upon Islam until you die." He (sallallahu `alayhe wa sallam) supplicated for Anas that his wealth and sons increase and that he should live a long life and it was so. He lived for more than one hundred years and not one of the Ansar was richer than he and one hundred and twenty of his children had already been buried before the arrival of al-Hajjaj [to Basrah]. This is detailed further in Sahih Bukhari and others. [bukhari no. 1982] He supplicated that Islam be strengthened through 'Umar bin al-Khattab or Abu Jahl, and Allah strengthened it through `Umar (radiyAllahu `anhu). He supplicated against Suraqah bin Malik and the feet of his horse sank into the earth and he was thrown off, he called out asking for safe conduct and was granted it, then he asked the Prophet to make a supplication for him. He supplicated that Allah remove feeling the bitter cold and heat from `Ali and so never did he feel cold or hot. He supplicated for Hudhayfah, the night that he sent him to spy on the Confederates, that he not feel the cold and he did not until he had returned. He supplicated for ibn `Abbas that Allah grant him understanding of the religion and it was so. He supplicated against `Utbah bin Abi Lahb... that Allah cause a dog from amongst his dogs to overcome him and he was killed by a lion at az-Zarqa`. [This is how it is in all of the printed editions; perhaps the author means `Utaybah bin Abi Lahb for this description fits him. As for `Utbah, he accepted Islaam in the year of the Conquest of Mecca.] He supplicated for the descent of rain when they asked him to at the time of drought. There was not a single cloud in the sky, and then when he had supplicated, the clouds gathered like mountains and it rained until the next Friday. It rained so much that they had to come back and ask him to supplicate and stop the rain, so he supplicated and the rain stopped and they walked out into the glaring sun. He (sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam) supplicated for Abu Talhah and his wife, Umm. Sulaym, that he bless them in the night they had spent together and she became pregnant and gave birth to `Abdullah. He had nine children and all of them were scholars. He supplicated for the mother of Aba Hurayrah (radhi Allahu `anhu) that she be guided and Aba Hurayrah left to find her performing the ritual bath because she had accepted Islam. He supplicated for Umm Qays bint Muhsin, the sister of `Ukkasha, that she live a long life and we do not know of another woman who lived as long as she did. This was reported by an-Nasa'i the chapter concerning washing the deceased. On the Day of Hunain he threw a handful of dirt at the disbelievers and said, "May the faces be disfigured", and Allah, the Exalted, vanquished them, filling their eyes with dirt. He once went out to one hundred of the Quraysh who were waiting to do something horrible to him and he put dirt on their head and went on his way without their seeing him. ( Imam An-Nawawi)
  7. Why Islam?

    The Literal Miracle of the Quran: The miracles that were given to the prophets were chosen so that they would have the greatest impact on that particular nation. Thus, since the people of the time of Moses greatly excelled in the ‘art’ of sorcery and magic, the miracles that were given to Moses were of a similar type, except much stronger and more powerful (for example, the staff, the shining hand, the splitting of the Red Sea, and others). Likewise, the people at the time of Jesus excelled in the art of healing and medicine, and therefore, the miracles that were given to Jesus were of a similar type, except much stronger and more powerful (for example, healing the leper, curing the sick, raising the dead, and others). During the time of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), the Arabs had reached the peak of eloquence, and this was their most prized art! Poetry was what they valued the most, and each tribe competed with others to see which one could produce the most skilled and eloquent poet. During the annual fair of ‘Ukhaadh, poets from all over Arabia would compete for the honour of having their poem win the highest praise: that of being posted on the door of the Ka’bah (the House in Makkah) until the next fair. Due to this pride that was prevalent among the Arabs, the miracle that was given to the Prophet (peace be upon him) was of similar nature; Allah revealed the Quran in an Arabic that was so emotive and eloquent that the Arabs could clearly see it was a miracle from their Creator. On top of this, Allah challenged them to bring forth anything similar to the Quran, and told them that such attempts would be futile, {And if you are in doubt as to what We have sent down to Our servants, then produce a chapter similar to it…, if you are truthful. But if you do not do it – and of a surety you cannot do it – then fear the Fire whose fuel is men and stones, prepared for the disbelievers} (Quran, 2:23-24) Till this day, though many have tried, no one has been able to produce a single chapter like the chapters of the Quran in their beauty, eloquence, splendor, wise legislation, true information, true prophecy, and other perfect attributes. Although the literary aspect of the Quran is the strongest and most apparent aspect of its miracle, is the most difficult aspect to discuss in non-Arabic terms. The Quran is in “…clear Arabic” (Quran, 26:195), and in order to understand its miracle in this respect, a thorough understanding of the Arabic language is essential. However, it would be more prudent to give two examples (of the many examples recorded) of the impact that the eloquence of the Quran had on its first listeners. Perhaps one of the most famous stories is the story of al-Waleed ibn al-Mugheerah. Al-Waleed was the most eloquent and highly esteemed poet of Makkah at the time of the Prophet. He once passed by the Prophet (peace be upon him), and heard him reciting the Quran. This had a visible effect on him, and he went away shaken and startled by what he had heard. The news of this incident spread throughout Makkah. Aboo Jahl, a staunch opponent of Islam who was afraid that the people of Makkah might be affected by this news and convert to Islam, rushed to al-Waleed, and told him, “O my uncle! Say something (against Muhammad (peace be upon him)) so that the people will know that you are against him and hate (his message).” Al-Waleed replied, “And what can I say? For I swear by Allah (note: the disbelievers like al-Waleed believed in Allah as the Creator, but they were still pagans in worship), there is none amongst you who knows poetry as well as I do, nor can any compete with me in composition or rhetoric – not even in the poetry of jinns (i.e. genies)! And yet, I swear by Allah, Muhammad’s (peace be upon him) speech (meaning the Quran) does not bear any similarity to anything I know, and I swear by Allah, the speech that he says is very sweet, and is adorned with beauty and charm. Its first part is fruitful and its last part is abundant (meaning it is full of deep meanings), and it conquers (all other speech), and remains unconquered! It shatters and destroys all that has come before it (of poetry, because of its eloquence)!” Aboo Jahl responded, “Your people will not be satisfied until you speak against him!” Al-Waleed therefore requested Aboo Jahl, “Leave me for a few days, so that I may think of an appropriate response to give to the (people of) Quraish.” After the few days were over, Aboo Jahl came back to him and asked him what he had prepared. Al-Waleed, during this time, could not think of any explanation to give except, “This (the Quran) is a type of magic that has an effect on its listeners.” In response to this, Allah revealed, {Nay! Verily he (i.e. al-Waleed) has been stubborn in opposing our verses and signs… Verily, he thought and plotted; So let him be cursed, how he plotted! And once more, let him be cursed; how he plotted! Then he thought! Then he frowned and was irritated; then he turned back and was proud! Then he said, ‘this is nothing but magic from old; this is nothing but the word of a mortal!’ I will cast him into the Hell-fire…} (Quran, 74:16-26] (Any person who understands even the most basic amount of Arabic cannot help but notice the sheer power and eloquence of these very verses themselves.) This, then, is the testimony from the greatest poet alive at the time of the Prophet (peace be upon him)! Yet another incident is that of Utbah ibn Rabee. Utbah was once sitting with other members of the Quraish, and the subject of Muhammad (peace be upon him) came up. The elders of the Quraish began complaining about all the problems that this ‘new’ message had caused among their people, and started to discuss various ways that they could rid themselves of this irritating problem. Utbah suggested that perhaps the Prophet (peace be upon him) could be convinced of giving up his message, if only it was explained to him in a gentle manner the problems that his message had been causing. Common sense, Utbah argued, would prevail. As proof of his convictions, Utbah himself volunteered to be the one to go and talk to the Prophet (peace be upon him). He therefore set out to meet the Prophet (peace be upon him), and started to try to convince him to abandon preaching this ‘new’ message, and let the Quraish return to the paganism of their ancestors. After finishing his plea, the Prophet (peace be upon him) asked, “Have you finished, O Aboo al-Waleed (the nickname of Utbah)?” When he replied in affirmative, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Then listen to me: {In the Name of Allah, the Ever-Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy. Haa Meem. A revelation from Allah, the Ever-Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy. (This is) a book whose verses are explained in detail – a Quran in Arabic, for a people who reflect. Giving glad tidings, and warning of (a severe punishment). But most of them turn away, so they listen not…} (Quran, 41:1-4) The Prophet (peace be upon him) continued to recite, until he finished the chapter. Utbah sat quietly, entranced by what he was hearing. Then the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “You have heard what you have heard, so do as you please.” When Utbah returned to his people, they said to themselves, “I swear by the Lord of the Ka’bah (i.e. the House in Makkah), this Utbah is not the same as the Utbah that left us!” And indeed, it was not the same Utbah. He said, “O people! I have heard a speech the like of which I have never heard before. I swear by Allah, it is not magic, nor is it poetry, nor is it sorcery. O gathering of Quraish, listen to me. Leave this man alone, for I swear by Allah, the speech that I have heard from him (meaning the Quran) will soon be news…” The Quran is the miracle of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). He was given this miracle as the ultimate proof for his Prophethood. {And they say, ‘Why are not miracles sent down to him from his Lord?’ Say: ‘The signs are only with Allah, and I am only a plain warner.’ Is it not a sufficient (miracle) for them that We have sent down to you the Book which is recited to them? Verily, therein is a mercy and a reminder for a people who believe.} (Quran, 29:50-51) The Prophet (peace be upon him) also alluded to the status of the miracle of the Quran when he said: “There has not been a single prophet except that Allah gave him miracles because of which people believed in him. I have been given (as a miracle) the Inspiration (i.e. The Quran) which Allah revealed to me. I hope, therefore, that I will have the largest number of followers on the Day of Judgement.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) also carried out other miracles in his time such as the splitting of the moon, the increasing of an inadequate amount of food to a very large quantity, the speaking of stones, animals, and trees to him, the sprouting of water from his hands when the companions were short of it, as well as other miracles. However none of these miracles were permanent – they occurred in front of specific groups of people at specific times and places. Man being the frail creature that he is, the impact of the written words is much less than the impact of sight. These miracles of a surety occurred, but the effect that these miracles had on those who saw them is much greater than the impact that it will have on later generations who merely read about them. The beauty and power of the Quran is that it removes the constraints of time and place upon the miracle – the Quran is a permanent miracle for all generations after the Prophet (peace be upon him) to see and appreciate, no matter where they live, or what time frame they are born in.
  8. Why Islam?

    1. In 23 Years, Muslims Went from Being Powerless to Control the World. When Islam started in Mecca, it was the prophet Mohammed by himself. A one man religion. He was exposed to punishments and oppression. The people who first entered Islam were weak and also were oppressed and tortured by the pagans of Mecca (their relatives). Forward 23 years later to see the transformation of these uneducated powerless individuals to the most powerful ones and to control the world. The Arabs at the time of the prophet peace be upon him (6th century) were tribes and clans fighting each other. The Romans and the Persians were vast powerful empires. Forward 23 years later to see how some powerless individuals were able climb the mountain of world power to take over the Persian empire and the Roman empire and introduce new world order. Not only did this transformation achieve miraculousness in its happenings but it’s also marvelous in its timing and its duration. Had it not been to Islam, the world would be different (much worse). The heroes of Islam would not have been heroes but would have been forgotten. 2. The Quran and its Eloquence as a Linguistic Miracle. As the Arabs of that time were so linguistically gifted, a linguistic miracle was fit for the situation. Quran was sent to people who were so eloquent in the Arabic language. If the Quran was not a linguistic miracle, then any of the Arabs and Arab poets in Mekkah (where the prophet peace be upon him stayed for 13 years calling people to worship Allah alone) would come up and say some poetry to challenge the Quran (since the challenge to them was clear) but none was able to challenge the eloquence of the Quran. The miraculousness of the Quran is an axiom to whomever studies Arabic academically. 3. Inheritance and Economic System in Islam Not only that, but the Islamic heritage system was revealed in only 2 verses. The Islamic heritage system is one that is comprehensive and astonishing in its detail. It has covered all cases and all situations in the most fair way. Such system was not known at all at the time of the prophet peace be upon him. No other religion has such system. How can an illiterate man come up with such system? A system that had no equal at that time. The Islamic economic system is also a system of wonders. It has the compatibility to encompass all types of old and new business maneuvers. It also has the ability to provide welfare for all people. It’s not a theory but a system which is implemented throughout the world and has been applied through history with ultimate success. How can an illiterate man from the 6th century come up with such system? How can a Sheppard in the desert in the Arabic peninsula design such a system? A system that had no equal at its time. A system which competes with the most recent business and economics sciences and is proven to have more success. The answer is: he couldn’t. It was revealed to him. 4. Islam is the Only Religion that Makes Sense in Terms of Spirituality and Materialism In our world, religion becomes more of a shopping center where almost every person could come up with a religion or a version of a religion. It makes it hard to distinguish the true religion from the fake ones. Some have went all spiritual on the scale of spirituality. Others have gone all the way to materialism. Only Islam can gather both ends in a harmonic mixture. In Islam, Muslims are to build this earth and make it prosper be it in agriculture, industry, sciences, etc. We are ordered to protect life and property of all people who do not transgress and oppress us. We are ordered that if the day of Judgement comes and one has a plant in his hand to plant it. We are allowed to marry, have children and enjoy life. On the other hand, we are also responsible for our actions and we will be accounted for them. We should always work for the hereafter and wish to please God our creator. Islam is also a whole way of life. It deals with economics. It sets rules for dealings between humans and animals to dealings between humans and humans to rights of neighbors and parents to the relationship between human beings and the creator. 5. Scientific Proof in the Quran and the Sunnah Just to make it clear, the Quran is not a science book but it does not contradict with science. 6. Quran is the Only Book which Has Been Protected from Altercations Whether you are a Muslim or not, one thing all scholars have agreed upon: The Quran has been preserved as it was revealed to the prophet in the 6th century. Copies of the Quran are still available in Tashqand and Cairo. One of the properties of the Muslim Nation is “ISNAD”. Isnad means means having narration chains where each person in the narration chain is well known and has his life recorded and studies. The holy Quran has been narrated through narration chains where a large group of narrators who are of very strong memory and minds have narrated the same text from one generation to the next (with the condition of actually meeting each other and listening to each other with no time gaps). This large group of narrators cannot all agree on a lie. The names and the life stories of EACH person is recorded and studied. Each narrator has his whole family recorded. These narrations have agreed with the copies from the Quran. Compare that with the current bible for example where there is no recorded narration chains (without putting the condition of having no time gaps or even having names for those narrators). Compare the Quran with current bible where you have thousands of manuscripts; no two are the same. Compare that with the writers of the bible where you only have one name: John who? Luke who? What is their last name? The Quran has been revealed in Arabic and it’s read in Arabic. For the first time, the people speak the language of the prophet not the other way around. There are translations of the Quran in different languages but the Quran is in Arabic and should be read in Arabic noting that ‘translations of meaning’ is different than a version. The Sunnah or the traditions of the prophet are protected through the same narration chains. That being said; the Quran and the Sunnah have two distinct styles which have never contradicted. 7. God in Islam is the Creator Most people who do not believe in God have an altered image of God. I do not believe in God who has human qualities. I do not believe in God who is born and can die. I do not believe in God who has human weaknesses. I do not believe in God who hisses and can manifest himself in his creations such as a cow. Hence, many Christians and other religious followers have doubts in their Gods and then some of them throw these doubts behind their backs and say we have faith while others just throw these doubts and refuse the idea of God. I do believe in God who is the creator of the heavens and the earth. I believe in God who has created everything that lives. So who is God in Islam? God describes himself in the Quran as: Allâh! Lâ ilâha illa Huwa (none has the right to be worshipped but He), Al-Hayyul-Qayyum (the Ever Living, the One Who sustains and protects all that exists). Neither slumber nor sleep overtakes Him. To Him belongs whatever is in the heavens and whatever is on the earth. Who is he that can intercede with Him except with His Permission? He knows what happens to them (His creatures) in this world, and what will happen to them in the Hereafter. And they will never compass anything of His Knowledge except that which He wills. His Kursî [1] extends over the heavens and the earth, and He feels no fatigue in guarding and preserving them. And He is the Most High, the Most Great. [This Verse 2:255 is called Ayat-ul-Kursî ] 8. Islam is the Largest Spreading Religion in this World Islam is the largest spreading religion in the western world and not because Muslims have more children than others. More than 20000 Americans convert to Islam each year. 4000 have converted to Islam in Germany this year (2007) alone. Thousands are converting to Islam in Latin America. WHY? 9. Have You Been to a Masjid? If you have been to a Masjid, you would know what the word equality means. You would see Americans with Asians with Arabs with Hispanic all in one place; all are brothers who will protect each other and truly love each other. You would see all nations and colors in one place bowing down for the creator. Hundreds of years and millions of dollars would never gather these people together and make them brothers but Islam did. Don’t believe me; visit any Masjid near you and there is probably one near you. 10. Consistency of Islam in Changing Times Whether you are a Muslim or a person who attacks Islam , you would agree that Islam has been constant in these changing times. Nothing else has been constant. Muslims still think the the way of the prophets and the way of success. (whyislam.wordpress)
  9. Quran Like Bible !

    why ? because both are liable to be misinterpret for oneself purposes ! Q by non muslim, how to explain ? gazakum Allah khayr
  10. Quran Like Bible !

    assalam alykum i wanted to say that there is different interpretations for a single ayat (verse).This misinterpretations lead to misunderstandings of some people .
  11. Those Who Claim That They Love God

    Barak Allah feek: Al-Hasan Al-Basri and several scholars among the Salaf commented, "Some people claimed that they love Allah. So Allah tested them with this Ayah; 3:31 " (Say (O Muhammad to mankind): "If you (really) love Allah, then follow me, Allah will love you And forgive you your sins. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.'') meaning, by your following the Messenger , you will earn all this with the blessing of his mission
  12. Can Someone Explain These Verses An Regards To Women

    Cont. When Family Life Is Endangered: As for those women from whom you have reason to fear rebellion, admonish them [first]; then leave them alone in bed; then beat them. Then, if they pay you heed, do not seek any pretext to harm them. God is indeed Most High, Great. (Verse 34) Before we consider these measures and how they progress from one stage to another, we need to remember what we have already said about the honour God gives to both men and women, giving women their rights for which they are qualified by being human. We should also remember that a Muslim woman retains her independent civil status. The fact that the man is placed in charge of the family does not deprive the woman of her right to choose her partner and to administer her personal and financial affairs. This, as also the great importance Islam attaches to the family, helps us to understand clearly why these disciplinary measures have been allowed and the nature of their application. They are indeed pre-emptive measures aimed at achieving an early reconciliation when rebellion is feared. There is no question of trying to aggravate the situation or increase hatred. There is no battle between the man and the woman. These measures are not aimed at knocking the woman on the head when she begins to rebel and confining her again to her prison cell. No such thoughts are ever condoned by Islam. They might have crept into the traditions of certain societies at certain stages. Such measures, however, are an indication that mankind, not merely one sex, have sunk to a very low depth. In Islam the situation is widely different in form, substance and aim. “As for those women from whom you have reason to fear rebellion, admonish them (first).” (Verse 34) Admonition, then, is the first stage. It is a responsibility of the one who is in charge of the family to admonish against untoward tendencies. Such admonition is required in a variety of situations: “Believers, ward off from yourselves and your families that fire [of the hereafter] whose fuel is human beings and stones.” (66: 6) In this particular instance, admonition has a definite aim, which is to treat the symptoms of rebellion before it develops and takes root. In some cases, admonition may not bring about the desired results. This is possibly because of strongly held views, uncontrolled reactions, too much consciousness of one’s beauty, wealth, family position or the like. Any of these reasons may make a wife forget that she is a partner in an institution, not an adversary in a contest. At this stage the second measure is employed, which is in effect a gesture of dignity, stressing that everything in which a certain woman takes pride, such as beauty or wealth, to stress her superiority does not count for much with him: “ Then leave them alone in bed.” (Verse 34) It is in bed that a woman’s temptation is most effective. A rebellious, self-conscious woman exercises her true power. When a man is able to overcome this temptation, he deprives the woman of her most effective weapon. In the majority of cases, a woman becomes more ready to give way when the man demonstrates a good measure of will-power in the most difficult of situations. There are, however, certain rules that apply as to how this measure is taken. It is confined to the room where the couple is alone. It should not be taken in front of the children, this so that they are not adversely affected by it. Nor can it be exercised in front of strangers, because it becomes very humiliating for the woman who may, consequently, be hardened in her rebellion. This is a measure which aims at dealing with rebellion, and does not aim to humiliate the wife or to bring about a bad influence on the children. Nevertheless, this measure may not be effective in certain cases. Are we, then, to leave the family institution to collapse? There is another measure, admittedly more severe, but it may protect the family: “Then beat them.” (Verse 34) When we remember the aim behind all these measures, we realise that this beating is not a form of torture motivated by seeking revenge or humiliating an opponent. Nor is it aimed at forcing the wife to accept life under all unsatisfactory conditions. It is rather a disciplinary measure akin to the punishment a father or a teacher may impose on wayward children. Needless to say, there is no question of any of these measures being resorted to in the case of a healthy relationship between a man and his wife. They are preventive measures taken in an unhealthy situation in order to protect the family against collapse. When neither admonition nor banishment from one’s bed is effective, the situation may need a different type of remedy. Practical and psychological indications suggest that in certain situations this measure may be the appropriate one to remedy a certain perversion and to bring about satisfaction. Even when such a pathological perversion exists, a woman may not sufficiently feel the man’s strength for her to accept his authority within the family, at least not unless he overcomes her physically. This is by no means applicable to all women. What we are saying is that such women do exist and that Islam considers this measure a last resort used necessarily to safeguard the family. We have to remember here that these measures are stipulated by the Creator, who knows His creation. No counter argument is valid against what the One who knows all and is aware of all things says. Indeed to stand against what God legislates may lead to a rejection of the faith altogether. What we have to understand is that God has laid down these measures within a context that describes, in absolute clarity, their nature and aim and the intention behind them. Hence, mistaken concepts developing in periods of ignorance cannot be ascribed to Islam. In such periods, a man may become a jailer and a woman a slave under the pretext of following religious teachings. It may also happen that the man and the woman may exchange roles or that both of them are transformed into a third sex which is midway between man and woman claiming that this is the result of a new understanding of religious teachings. All such situations are not difficult to distinguish from the true sense and proper guidance of Islam. These disciplinary measures have been approved of in order to deal with early signs of rebellion and before attitudes are hardened. At the same time, they are accompanied by stern warnings against misuse. The practical example given by the Prophet in his treatment of his own family and his verbal teachings and directives serve as a restraint against going to excess ineither direction. The Prophet answers Mu`āwiyah ibn Ĥaydah, who asked him what rights a wife may claim against her husband, by saying: “To provide her with food when you eat, and with clothes when you dress. You are not allowed to slap her on her face, insult her or banish her from your bed anywhere except at home.” (Relatedby al-Tirmidhī, Abū Dāwūd, al-Nasā’ī and Ibn Mājah.) The Prophet is reported to have given this general directive: “ Do not beat up the women servants of God.” `Umar later went to the Prophet and said that many women had become rebellious. The Prophet then allowed that they be beaten. Many women then came to the Prophet with complaints against their husbands. The Prophet addressed his Companions saying: “Many women have called at Muĥammad’s home complaining against their husbands. Certainly these men are not the best among you.” (Related by Abū Dāwūd, al- Nasā’ī and Ibn Mājah.) The Prophet portrays this horrid picture of a man who beats up his wife: “Do not beat your wife like you beat your camel, for you will he flogging her early in the day and taking her to bed at night.” He also says: “The best among you are those who are best to their family, and I am the best of you to my family.” (Related by al-Tirmidhīand al- Ţabarānī.) Taken in their proper context, these reports and directives give us a good idea of the conflict that existed in the early days of Islam between old habits inherited from the days of ignorance and Islamic directives. The same sort of conflict also took place in all other spheres before the new Islamic order managed finally to impress its values on human conscience. God has, however, defined a limit when such measures must stop. Once the objective is reached with any one of these measures, then recourse to them is over: “Then, if they pay you heed, do not seek any pretext to harm them. God is indeed Most High, Great.” (Verse 34) The aim is, thus, stated clearly: it is obedience based on positive response, not forced obedience. This latter type of obedience is not suited to the establishment of a healthy family. Moreover, the Qur’ānic verse states clearly that to continue to resort to any of these measures after the goal of obedience is achieved takes the husband beyond his allowed limits: “Do not seek any pretext to harm them.” (Verse 34) This prohibition is followed by a reminder of the greatness of God so that people submit to His directives and repress any feeling of might or arrogance which they may entertain. This fits with the Qur’ānic method of combining temptation with warning: “God is indeed Most High, Great.” Last Resort to Save Troubled Marriages . All the measures so discussed apply in a situation where rebellion has not yet taken place. These measures are meant to deal with its early signs. When rebellion is brought out into the open, these measures are useless. At that stage there is a war between two hostile parties, each of them going out to smash the other. Similarly, these measures should not be used if it is felt that they will be ineffective or even counterproductive. In all such situations, Islam recommends a different process of saving this great institution, the family, from collapse: “If you have reason to fear that a breach may occur between a (married) couple, appoint an arbiter from among his people and an arbiter from among her people. If they both want to set things aright, God will bring about their reconciliation. God is indeed All-Knowing, Aware of all things.” (Verse 35) The Islamic method, then, does not favour an early split when signs of rebellion and hostility begin to appear. Nor does it approve that this institution be left to collapse over the heads of its other members who may be caught in a situation over which they have no control. This institution is very dear to Islam because it supplies the society with its new members whom it needs for its continued development and progress. Islam recommends that this last measure be resorted to when a breach is feared, not after it takes place. An arbiter from each of the two families of the husband and the wife meet in a friendly atmosphere, away from the influences which have caused the relationship between the husband and the wife to be strained and free from all the complications which overshadow the constructive elements in the life of the family. These arbiters must be keen to protect the reputation of both families. They care for the welfare of the children. Neither of them may entertain thoughts of forcing a submission by the other party. They must try to achieve what is best for the husband, the wife and their children. They must also keep the family secrets because they belong to the two immediately concerned families. Neither of them has an interest in publicising these secrets. Indeed, it is in their interest to keep them secret, unknown to other people.The arbiters meet in order to try to achieve reconciliation. If the man and his wife truly desire such a reconciliation, but are only prevented from doing so by strong feelings of anger, then a serious effort by the arbiters will he successful, with God’s help: “If they both want to set things aright, God will bring about their reconciliation.” (Verse 35) Their own desire to bring about reconciliation is endorsed by God, who responds favourably to their serious wish. This is the relationship between people’s efforts and God’s will. It is indeed by God’s will that events take place in people’s lives. People, however, are free to try and exert efforts. The end result is decided by God on the basis of His knowledge of people’s inner secrets and His awareness of what is best for them: “God is indeed All-Knowing, Aware of all things.” (Verse 35) Having studied this passage, we have now a good idea of the seriousness with which Islam views the relationship between man and woman and the institution of the family and the social ties that are established through the family. We can see how Islam has taken care to organise this highly important aspect of human life in order to elevate mankind to the high standard achievable only by the implementation of Divine guidance. That is indeed the only true and right guidance.
  13. Can Someone Explain These Verses An Regards To Women

    Gazakum Allah khair :sl:
  14. Can Someone Explain These Verses An Regards To Women

    In Recognition of Women’s Virtues Men shall take full care of women with the bounties with which God has favoured some of them more abundantly than others, and with what they may spend of their own wealth. The righteous women are devout, guarding the intimacy which God has ordained to be guarded. (Verse 34) The verse moves on to explain the qualities of righteous women, their behaviour and duties within the family. “The righteous women are devout, guarding the intimacy which God has ordained to be guarded” (Verse 34) It is, then, in the nature of the righteous, believing woman and part of her essential characteristics to be devoted and obedient. Devotion means willing obedience, motivated by love, not the sort of obedience enforced against one’s will. Hence, the Qur’ān uses the term “devout”, or qānitāt to stress its pleasant psychological connotations, which fit perfectly with the sort of affectionate and compassionate relationship which exists between man and woman, the two parts of the single soul from which all mankind descend. Islam stresses that this relationship is essential in the family home where young ones are reared. It is also part of the nature and essential characteristics of a devoted, believing woman to guard the sanctity of her relationship with her husband. This she maintains in his presence as well as in his absence. She does not reveal what belongs only to him, as one half of the single soul which combines both of them, even inasmuch as a passing look, let alone a full dishonourable relationship. What is forbidden to reveal is decided neither by him nor by her. It is determined by God. It is “the intimacy which God has ordained to be guarded”. It is not a matter of pleasing a husband or allowing what he does not mind to be revealed or what society requires to be exposed, should the husband or society deviate from the Divine code of living. There is only one rule to determine the limits of what must be guarded. She has to guard that “which God has ordained to be guarded”. We note that the Qur’ān does not put this in the imperative form. It places much stronger emphasis on it by saying that this guardianship is part of the nature of righteous women and one of their essential characteristics. This statement exposes the flimsiness of the excuses advanced by some mentally defeated Muslims advocating ways and methods that are certain to lead to the collapse of the family only because these are practised in other communities. What must be guarded, willingly and obediently, is that which God has ordered to be guarded. The ones who are not righteous are described here as rebellious. Their rebellion is given a physical description derived from standing on a high position to declare their mutiny. Islam does not wait for such a rebellion to take place, nor for the roles to become so confused that the family institution splits into two camps. When the situation reaches that point, it is almost impossible to sort out. The treatment must be administered before the rebellion gathers momentum. Once rebellion establishes its roots, the family home is deprived of the peace and affection necessary for the upbringing of children. The whole setup collapses and the young become the victims divided between the two parents or brought up in an atmosphere which makes the family home a fertile place for psychological, mental and physical disorders to multiply and a suitable place for perversion to establish itself. It is, then, a very serious matter. Gradual treatment must be administered when the early signs of rebellion become apparent. In order to preserve the family and protect it from destruction, the one who is placed in charge is allowed to take some disciplinary steps that are often effective. He does not take them as retaliatory measures or to humiliate or torture his partner, but to achieve reconciliation and preserve the family in the very early stages of dispute.
  15. Can Someone Explain These Verses An Regards To Women

    There is plenty of evidence to demonstrate that the rules of human nature force themselves on man, even when people deny them altogether. One aspect of this is the decline in the quality of human life and the serious danger to which it is exposed whenever this rule, which gives man the task and the authority to look after the family, has been violated. Such violation leads to confusion within the family, and is bound to have serious repercussions. Moreover, women prefer for the man to assume authority and responsibility for the family. Many women worry, feel dissatisfied and unhappy, when they live with men who relinquish their role for any reason. Even women who try to challenge the man’s role readily admit to this. Another example of the social repercussions brought about by this unnatural family situation is one whereby children suffer from instability. This happens when the father does not play his role, either because of his weak character which allows the mother to overshadow or control him, or because of his early death or in one-parent families. This, in turn, can lead to mental perversion and behavioural deviation. These are only a few examples through which human nature indicates its presence and the need to organise human life according to its laws. To elaborate more on the role of the man as the one in charge of the family and its justification is beyond the scope of this commentary. What we need to state here, however, is that it does not by any means lead to the negation of the woman’s character and role in the family home and in society at large. Nor does it mean the cancellation of her civil status. It simply defines her role within the family and how it is run. This is necessary, because the family is a very important institution, and one which must be protected and maintained. In any institution, the observance of certain values does not mean the abrogation of the character or the rights of the partners or the workers. Islam defines the role of the man and what his being in charge means, as well as his duties as the one who takes care of his family, protects it and earns its living.
  16. Can Someone Explain These Verses An Regards To Women

    For the first Ayat by imam Sayed Kutb: Regulation of Family Affairs The sūrah also outlines the measures to be taken in order to protect this social institution against the effects of quarrels and disputes so as to eliminate, as far as possible, any negative effects that could destroy it. Men shall take full care of women with the bounties with which God has favoured some of them more abundantly than others, and with what they may spend of theirown wealth. The righteous women are devout, guarding the intimacy which God has ordained to be guarded. (Verse 34) Before we comment on these verses and outline their psychological and social objectives we need to speak briefly about the Islamic view of the institution of the family and its method of building, protecting and promoting it. God, who has created mankind, is the One who has made duality part of man’s nature, as it is indeed ingrained in all creation: “And of everything We have created pairs, so that you may bear in mind [that God alone is One].” (51: 49) He then willed tomake the human pair two halves of the same soul: “Mankind, fear your Lord, who has created you from a single soul, and from it created its mate.” (Verse 1) Part of His purpose behind the meeting between the two halves of the same soul is that it should lead to peaceful existence and be a comfort to body and soul. It is also a means to protect purity and chastity and provides a secure, clean way for human reproduction and the continuity and promotion of human life, under the watchful care of parents. Different verses in the Qur’ān stress these facts: “Among His signs is that He creates for you mates from among yourselves, so that you might incline towards them, and He engenderslove and compassion between you.” (30: 21) “They are as a garment to you as you are tothem.” (2: 187) “Your wives are your tilth; go, then, to your filth as you may desire, but prepare well for yourselves and fear God.” (2: 223) “Believers, ward off from yourselves and your families that fire [of the hereafter] whose fuel is human beings and stones.” (66: 6) “Asfor the believers whose offspring will have followed them in faith, We shall unite them with their offspring; and We shall not let aught of their deeds go to waste.” (52: 21) Because the two mates are two halves of the same soul, they stand in the same position in God’s sight. Since God has given mankind a position of honour, He hashonoured women, assigning to them the same reward for their good deeds, the same rights of ownership and inheritance, and the same rights of independence. Similarly, as regards the great responsibility of the family, which results from the meeting of the two halves of the same soul, God has taken care to detail a complete set of elaborate measures which regulate all aspects of the family institution and all its affairs. Together, these measures provide a complete and perfect system for the family. Their comprehensive outlook and attention to detail reflect the great importance Islam attaches to this crucial institution. We hope that the reader may recall what we have said in earlier volumes about the length of the childhood period and the need of the human child for a caring and supporting environment until he is able to earn his living. What is even more important is that the child should receive the type of care which enables him or her to fulfil their social function in order to contribute to the betterment of human society, so as to leave it in a better state than they receive it. All this is particularly significant in explaining the importance of the family and the great care Islam takes to ensure its protection. With this in mind, the next verse makes it clear that the man is in charge of the family institution, as God has given him the necessary qualities and training to undertake this task and assigned to him the duty of meeting the family’s living expenses. It also outlines man’s additional task to protect the family against collapse as a result of fleeting whims, delineating the way to deal with these, should they occur. It also explains other “external” measures to which recourse may be made when all “internal” efforts have failed, and a total breakdown threatens not only the spouses but also the young ones who are more vulnerable. We will now look at these measures in some detail. The Partner in Charge Men shall take full care of women with the bounties with which God has favoured some of them more abundantly than others, and with what they may spend of their own wealth. (Verse 34) We have already said that the family is the first institution in human life in the sense that its influence is felt at every stage of human life. Moreover, it derives its importance from the fact that it is within the family that man, the most noble of all creatures according to the Islamic concept of life, is brought up. The running and administration of much inferior institutions, such as those engaged in financial,industrial and commercial affairs is normally assigned to those who are most qualified for the job by their education, training and natural abilities. It is only logical that the same rule be applied to the family, the institution that looks after the upbringing of the noblest creature in the universe, namely, man. The Divine code of living takes human nature into consideration, as well as the natural abilities given to both man and woman to enable them to discharge the duties assigned to each of them. It maintains justice in the distribution of duties, giving to each of them only the type of duties to which they are suited. Needless to say, both man and woman are the creation of God, who does not wish to do injustice to anyone He has created. Indeed, He gives each of His creatures the abilities and talents that befit the duties assigned to them. God has created human beings as males and females, following the “dual” rule which is central to the system of creation. He has given the woman the great tasks of childbearing, breast-feeding and looking after her children. These are not tasks which can be fulfilled without careful preparation, physically, psychologically, and mentally. It is only just, therefore, that the other part, i.e. the man, should be assigned the task of providing the essential needs and the protection required for the woman to fulfil her highly important duties. She could not be given all those tasks and still be required to work in order to earn her living. It is only fair as well that the man be given the physical, mental and psychological qualities which enable him to fulfil his duties in the same way as the woman is given the abilities to fulfil hers. All this is clearly seen in real human life, because God maintains absolute justice among all. Among the qualities the woman has been given are tenderness, quick reaction, and an instinctive response to the needs of children, without the need for much deliberation and reflection. The essential human need of even a single individual are not left to be deliberated upon at leisure. Response to them is made instinctively, so that they may be met more or less involuntarily. There is no external compulsion in this. It is an impulsive reaction, which the woman mostly enjoys despite the fact that it requires sacrifice from her. This is part of God’s work, which is always perfect. These are not superficial qualities. Indeed, they are implanted in the woman’s physical, mental and psychological constitution. Some leading scientists believe that they are present in each cell in the woman’s constitution, because they are rooted inthe first cell that multiplies to form the foetus and the child. On the other hand, among the qualities a man is given are toughness, slow reaction and response, as well as proper thought and reflection before action. All his functions, from the early days of being a hunter- gatherer, to fighting for the protection of his wife and children, to earning his living in any way, require some deliberation and consideration before taking a decision and implementing it. These qualities are also deeply rooted in man’s constitution. Man’s qualities make him more able and better equipped to take charge of the family. Similarly, his duty to support his family, as part of that general distribution of functions, makes him more suited to overall authority. That is because earning his family’s living is part of being in charge. Moreover, looking after the finances of the family is closer to his family duties. In highlighting these two elements, the Qur’ān states that in Islamic society men are required to look after women. It is an assignment of duties on the basis of natural abilities and the fair distribution of responsibilities. Each party is assigned the duties most suited to its nature. The man has the proper natural abilities to take charge of the family affairs, a role essential for the proper progress of human life. It is a simple fact that one party is properly equipped for this role and assigned the duty to play it while the other is not. Hence, it is totally unfair that the latter party should be required, in any situation, to take up these responsibilities in addition to its own. If women are given the necessary practical and scientific training to fulfil these duties, then their ability to play the other role, i.e. that of motherhood, is undermined. These very serious questions should not be left to human beings to determine at will. When they have been left to human beings to decide, in both past and modern societies, the very existence of mankind was threatened and essential human qualities which distinguish man from other creatures were in danger of extinction.
  17. Islam In Tunisia

    A Story of War on Hijab -Ragheb ElSergany[using large font size is not allowed] Indeed, what happens in Tunisia is very mysterious and confusing! It is a well-organized and constant relentless war on the Hijab (veil) of Muslim women. Tunisia embraced Islam since the early days of Islam. A distinguished Muslim country, Tunisia was the first country in north Africa to embrace Islam to later constitute a jumping-off point from which armies, Du'ah (callers to Allah, sing. Da'iyah) and scholars headed for different African countries. Moreover, it contains the city of Qayrawan, a great center of Islamic civilization. It also had Al-Zaytunah University, the great Islamic beacon, which had a great impact on spreading the Islamic call and safekeeping the fundamentals of religion not only in Tunisia but also all over the Muslim world. We are speaking of Tunisia, the country that once constituted a base for conquering Andalusia and then Sicily. It is Tunisia, whose Muslim population love Islam fondly and instinctively and constitute the vast majority of the total population; Muslims constitute about 98% of the ten million population of dear Tunisia. In view of the aforementioned facts, we view that war on hijab in Tunisia is a complicated mystery. The last scene of this war was the last week decisions taken by Tunisian universities to the effect of having female students who join a university sign a document obliging them to enter the campus bare-headed!! Banned is thus not only hijab but also hats, handkerchief or any head cover whatsoever!! According to the document, a student who will not sign the document will be expelled and, if needed, will be criminally charged. Moreover, the document also stipulated that male students must enter the campus clean shaved, as the beard is a serious danger to Tunisian universities!! Good Heavens! What is happening in dear Tunisia?! It is a serious violation of the dignity of Muslim women. In fact, non-Muslim countries, even those known for their bitter enmity for Islam, do not commit such a heinous violation. Is war on Islam in Tunisia more fierce than war on Islam launched by non-Muslims?! In order to solve such a complicated mystery, we have to go back to the roots and explore the origins of the story, a very painful story indeed! The roots of the story of hijab in Tunisia For centuries, Tunisia has safeguarded Islam, its values and principles. Along the previous eras of the Tunisian history, Islamic fundamentals has never been played with. It was not until 1881 when Tunisia was ocied by France, which had the effect of changing many things in sister Tunisia. Actually, the French ocation is a special kind of ocation with a distinguished characteristics known for researchers. Two prominent characteristics of which are worthy of attention: First, which is more dangerous: It pays much attention to changing the culture of the society France ocies through introducing thereto French-oriented principles, fundamentals and values. This applies to the fields of language, morals, education methodologies, information and such other aspects as may define the identity of a country. To do so, they so wickedly do not attack religion fundamentals themselves; rather, they elect some eminent political, religious and intellectual figures to encourage their fellow people to abandon their fundamentals and advance fully energetically toward the French culture. France is keen to pursue such a cultural change even after withdrawal from ocied countries. In this regard, it spares no effort to make available permanent communication means with the ocied countries and with universities, cultural centers and French forums. Actually, this is done with the aim of guaranteeing a continuous expansion of the French culture in a given country even after the withdrawal of French troops. Thus, very heinous actions such as the current Tunisian war on hijab, are the product of such a policy, bearing in mind that French troops withdrew from Tunisia 53 years ago! Second: Another characteristic of the French ocation is fierce oppression and exaggerated violent against those who do not conform to the French plan. It is thus no wonder that tens or even hundreds of thousands were martyred in countries ocied by France. Actually, the number of martyrs exceeded one million in dear Algeria. Such a deep-rooted French approach is transmitted to France's successors in ocied countries, who use the iron hand strategy in ruling their countries after these are librated from France. This was a brief de******ion of the French ocation; secularism that hates Islam and seeks to destroy its fundamentals and a fierce violence that breaks the bones of those who resist it. Holding such principles, the French ocation broke into Tunisia to be fiercely resisted by the deep-rooted Tunisian people which caused many of them to fall as martyrs. However, France started to gradually use its cunning policy through tempting Tunisian figures who will themselves undertake the mission of destroying Islamic fundamentals. France knew for sure that it is essential to spoil Muslim Tunisian women if it is to destroy the society, as spoiling women will have the effect of destroying family, spreading licentiousness among the youth and distracting youths from performing their roles toward their country, nation and religion. It seemed as if the French are more aware of the Prophet's Hadith that warn against the Fitnah (trial) of women more than Muslims themselves and as if they have a clearer vision of the subject than many Muslims. Al-Tirmidhi related Abdullah bin Mas'ud, in a Hadith judged by Al-Tirmidhi to be Hassan (reliable), to have reported the Prophet (peace be upon him) as saying, " The women is 'awrah (a source of attraction). When she goes outside (the house), the devil welcomes her." In the same regard, Muslim related Abu Sa'id Al-Khudri to have reported the Prophet (peace be upon him) as saying, "Beware of women, for the first fitnah (temptation, trial) that befell the Children of israel was concerning women." Accordingly, it is the first fitnah, subsequent to which other fitnahs follow. Furthermore, Muslim related that Abu Hurairah reported the Prophet (peace be upon him) to have said, "There are two types of people who will enter the Hell-fire, whom I have not (as yet) seen: People having whips similar to ox-tails with which they will beat people, and (secondly) women who will be dressed yet appear to be naked. They will seduce men and be inclined towards them. Their heads will be like the swaying humps of bacterial camels. They will neither enter paradise, nor smell its fragrance, even though its fragrance can be smelt from such and such distance." Actually, such a severe punishment is not imposed because of an individual guilt they commit. Rather, it is caused by a guilt they commit that leads to the corruption of the whole society in which they live. In other words, a woman who uncovers her hair or body bears as much sins as the number of people who stare at her, which overburdens her causing her to be thrown into Hellfire and thus cannot smell the fragrance of Paradise. Al-Tirimidhi related on the authority of Abu Musa Al-Ash'ari that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "Every eye is lustful and when a woman applies perfume and then goes about in an assembly, she is like such and such, i.e. an adulteress." According to the narration of Al-Nasa'i, the Prophet (peace be upon him) explicitly described her as adulteress. The narration reads, "If a woman uses perfume and passes the people so that they may get its odor, she is an adulteress." This is because she motivates those people to leer her and thus commit the adultery of eyes which might later motivates actual adultery. It is very serious then! No doubt, France has very cunningly comprehended such meanings and directions and, consequently, knew that any attempt to spoil the Muslim society is dependent on spoiling women. Therefore, it did its best to have the Tunisian Muslim woman forsake her hijab, chastity and decency. It also sought to bring into existence a generation of secularist intellectuals and corrupt politicians who should undertake the dirty mission and advocate it more than the French themselves. Secularist Tunisians and hijab The beginning was at the early 1920s AD (after 40 years of the French ocation), when the French instigated their inferiors to discuss the issue of women's hijab. Those people declared that woman's face cover is unfair and a stumbling block in the way of her social progress. Al-Zaytunah scholars strongly opposed those corrupters and a fierce controversy between both parties arose. Reverend scholars considered attacking hijab tantamount to attacking Islam itself and thus joined forces to disclose wicked French plans. A specific development took place in the war on hijab when Al-Taraqqi, a cultural secularist French-oriented society, held a symposium titled "Pro or against feminist ment" on January 15th, 1924 AD. To the surprise of all attendants, Manwibiyah Al-Wartani, a French-cultured woman, entered the hall and ascended the society's platform with her face unveiled. She started to call Tunisian women to "liberate" themselves from hijab. Actually, it is the same scenario plotted few years before in Egypt by Huda Sha'rawi and Safiyyah Zaghlul. (Have they handed down (the saying) as an heirloom one unto another? Nay, but they are froward folk.) [Al-Dhariyat: 53]. Tunisia then began to simmer with dispute and controversy over the issue was heated in newspapers and magazines. Circulated in the Tunisian street, it was denied by most of the people, but it was just a start. Within five year later, no Tunisian woman dared repeat the attempt of Manwibiyah Al-Wartani. On January 8th 1929, however, the same society (Al-Taraqqi) held a symposium giving it the same title "Pro or against feminist ment". Habibah Al-Minshari delivered a speech to the attendants with her face unveiled. She spoke about the misery of the Tunisian girl who covers her whole body with hijab, while the French women live freely and unrestricted. Tahir Al-Haddad and liberation from hijab In 1930, another specific development took place when another deviated secularist, called Tahir Al-Haddad, published a book titled "The Status of Women in Islamic Law and Society". In the book, the author vehemently attacked some religion fundamentals and called women to discard hijab and to liberate themselves wherefrom. He also called to deprive men of the right to divorce and entitle judiciary thereto and called to the denial of polygamy. Moreover, he called women to take part in all walks of life, including the sports field in order to compete European women in different games. Furthermore, he attacked Islam claiming it to have imposed so many restrains on women as may stand in the way of their social progress. Although Tunisia was under French ocation at that time, the book resulted in a counter revolutions staged by scholars, mass media and even the public, bearing in mind that the society had a clear vision of the religion fundamental in spite of ocation. In this regard, many books were composed to refute the claims of this misleading book. Among such books are "Al-Hidad 'ala Imra'at Al-Haddad" (Miserable is the Woman Following Haddad) by Sheikh Muhammad Al-Salih bin Murad and "Saif Al-Haqq 'ala man la Yara Al-Haq" (The Sword of Truth Raised against Those Who do not Believe in Truth) by Sheik 'Umar Al-Birri Al-Madani. Moreover, a number of newspapers such as "Al-Zahrah", "Al-Nahdah" and "Al-Wazir" launched a fierce campaign against Tahir Al-Haddad. The situation aggravated to the extent that the great scholar Al-Tahir bin 'Ashur issued a fatwa judging Al-Haddad to be disbeliever and demanding the confiscation of the book. However, the book gave other secularists free rein to speak courageously about hijab and, therefore, called Tahir Al-Haddad "the pioneer of Tunisian woman renaissance". Nevertheless, unveiling women face did not widely prevail in the Tunisian society which remained sticking to its Islamic fundamentals in spite of relentless Westernization attempts. Anyway, Tunisia gained independence from France in 1956. Unfortunately, Tunisia has not yet gained independence from French-oriented secularists, who, although bearing Muslim names and of a Tunisian complexion, have hearts that is full of rancor against Islam more than the French themselves. Habib Bourguiba assumed authority in Tunisia. Indeed, how hideous Habib Bourguiba is! Only three months after independence, the man issued a magazine which he called "Personal Status Code" in which he enacted new legislations so as to re-form the Tunisian society in accordance with the French vision or even more corruptly! This way, non-Islamic legislations were enacted soon after Bourguiba's assumption of power. In this regard, a law prohibiting polygamy was enacted. Ridiculously enough, we came to know about the story when the police on receiving information about someone who had a second wife broke into the house of the man to find the other woman with him. However, they left him untouched and apologized once he told them that the woman is his girlfriend! This is because having a girlfriend belongs to personal freedom while having a second wife is a punishable guilt! Another law was enacted that made access to child custody (adoption). There was also another law prohibiting a husband to re-marry a wife whom he divorced thrice even after she is divorced after another marriage. Another law also stipulated the judge's permission for a man's pronunciation of divorce to be effective. In addition, Bourguiba allowed abortion entitling a woman the right to abort her child even in the absence of husband's permission. Besides, he defined the minimum age of marriage for men at 20 and for girls at 17. More gravely, Tunisia signed the New York Agreement of December 10th, 1962, which provides that a woman has the right to marry any man regardless of religion. Accordingly, a Tunisian woman can marry a non-Muslim! Such and like laws were issued successively in the "Personal Status Code" and were faced by great waves of opposition in the Tunisian society. However, the fully French-cultured Bourguiba reacted toward such opposition very bloodily and violently. Paying no attention to the Tunisian constitution stating that Islam is the religion of the state, he took no heed of the Tunisian people in a manner never witnessed by Tunisians even during the era of the French ocation. Unfortunately, the Tunisian women fell into the trap of France and Bourguiba and abandoned its hijab and chastity. The Tunisian society, in turn, slipped into an abyss of licentiousness and many Tunisian females mentally and passionately adopted the French trend, which caused a great evil to the country. Bourguiba bans hijab in Tunisia Dear brothers and sister, it is probable that Islam has ups and downs but it is improbable that it comes to an end. During 1970s, Tunisia, as many other Muslim countries, witnessed a period of Islamic awakening. Sincere male and female Tunisians started to strive to re-direct the Tunisian society toward Allah (the Exalted). But, what was Bourguiba's stance toward the new situation? Bourguiba frivolously and unexpectedly made a heinous reaction. Dealing with the phenomenon of the spread of hijab, he, in 1981, ratified law no. 108 banning Tunisian women from wearing hijab in state offices. Accordingly, wearing hijab is a criminal act ipso jure! The reason behind the enactment of such a law is that, as declared by Bourguiba, hijab is a "garment of foreign origin having a partisan connotation". Please, be keep in mind that Muslims constitute 98% of the total Tunisian population while Christian and Jews constitute 1% each. Undoubtedly, this law is the heinous crime and the great calamity! The Tunisian police later actively started to chase veiled women in streets and banned them from working in public jobs. Furthermore, a father or a husband in whose house there is a veiled woman is criminally charged. What is worse is that a veiled woman was not allowed to give birth for a child in public hospitals! Actually, it was an open war on chastity and Muslim women; more frankly, it was a war on Islam itself. In fact, Bourguiba's war on Islam was not only limited to hijab but extended to even encouraging the nonobservance of major religious rituals, such as the fast of Ramadan, for fasting, according to him, negatively affects productivity! As a result of the unprecedented oppression, never practiced even by Tatars or Crusades, you can see hardly any veiled women in Tunisia and the Islamic awakening took many steps backwards as prisons are full of Islamist detainees who resisted such corruption. Tunisian president Zine el Abidine Ben Ali In 1987, after a 31-year reign of Borguiba, Zine el Abidine Ben Ali, the Minister of Interior, staged a coup against Bourguiba to assume presidency from then on. In your opinion, What are the characteristics of Ben Ali's reign? Did he commit to the laws enacted by Bourguiba? What is the end of the hijab battle in Tunisia? What are the expected impacts of such a fierce war on religion fundamentals? Finally, what role should we play toward the violent attack against hijab and Islam? Answer to these important questions will be dealt with at length in the next article, if Allah so wills. I ask Allah to glorify Islam and Muslims. Dr. Ragheb ElSergany
  18. My Way To Islam

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  19. Is This True About Islam In Regards To Women?

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  20. Islam In Ireland

    e Muslim population in Ireland has expanded substantially in the last several years, with 10 times more Muslims living in the country today than lived in Ireland 20 years ago. Islam has become the fastest-growing religion in Ireland, with the number of Muslims increasing nearly 70 percent between 2002 and 2006. The Muslim community is also becoming more diverse. “This is probably one of the most diverse Muslim populations in Europe,” “The Irish Times” was told by Dr. Oliver Scharbrodt, who is leading a pioneering three-year research project on Islam in Ireland at University College Cork. “In other European countries you have a particular ethnic group or nationality being dominant because of historical or colonial links, but that is not the case in Ireland. “One could say that Ireland constitutes a microcosm of the global ummah [community of believers], with all the different nationalities, trends and movements present and visible in a fairly small geographic and communal space.” The Islamic Cultural Center of Ireland [iCCI], in Clonskeagh, Co. Dublin, an institution which has a long-standing relationship with the Irish government, is connected to the Brussels-based Federation of Islamic Organisations in Europe. The iman at the ICCI is the secretary of the European Council for Fatwa and Researchan, an offshoot of the federation. “With the [iCCI] hosting the secretariat of this leading body of Islamic jurisprudence, Ireland has become the center of one of the most influential ideological and intellectual trends of the contemporary Muslim world,” says Scharbrodt. The ICCI has welcomed President Mary McAleese, Taoiseach (Prime Minister) Brian Cowen and his predecessor Bertie Ahern, as well as many ministers. Many Muslims have said that because of its size and financial resources the ICCI towers above other Muslim organizations as the self-appointed voice of Islam in Ireland, pushing aside diversity. Scharbrodt adds that the Irish government should engage with the diversity of Muslims in Ireland, particularly as the numbers grow and second-generation Muslims come of age. “Ideally it should try to relate to and establish links with as many Masjid groups and organisations as possible,” he said. The 2006 census put the number of Muslim living in Ireland under 33,000, but most observers agree the true figure is over 40,000. ( Irish central Sunday, February 13, 2011 )
  21. Is This True About Islam In Regards To Women?

    Gazakum Allah khayr i want to add that God doesn't permit "polygamy", it is "conditional polygyny"
  22. Divorce And Marriage In Turkey

    I think it's all cultural, prophet's wife Khadiga married before him and she was 40 while he was 26 when she married him :sl:
  23. Thank You For Registering Me

    Welcome, Dr, waalaykum assalam
  24. Do You Muslims Really Believe This?

    Are there benefits from circumcision? There are several: 1 Many older men, who have bladder or prostate gland problems, also develop difficulties with their foreskins due to their surgeon's handling, cleaning, and using instruments. Some of these patients will need circumcising. Afterwards it is often astonishing to find some who have never ever seen their glans (knob) exposed before! 2 Some older men develop cancer of the penis - about 1 in 1000 - fairly rare, but tragic if you or your son are in that small statistic. Infant circumcision gives almost 100% protection, and young adult circumcision also gives a large degree of protection. 3 Cancer of the cervix in women is due to the Human Papilloma Virus. It thrives under and on the foreskin from where it can be transmitted during intercourse. An article in the British Medical Journal in April 2002 suggested that at least 20% of cancer of the cervix would be avoided if all men were circumcised. Surely that alone makes it worth doing? 4 Protection against HIV and AIDS. Another British Medical Journal article in May 2000 suggested that circumcised men are 8 times less likely to contract the HIV virus. (It is very important here to say that the risk is still far too high and that condoms and safe sex must be used - this applies also to preventing cancer of the cervix in women who have several partners.) A BBC television programme in November 2000 showed two Ugandan tribes across the valley from one another. One practised circumcision and had very little AIDS, whereas, it was common in the other tribe, who then also started circumcising. This programme showed how the infection thrived in the lining of the foreskin, making it much easier to pass on. 5 As with HIV, so some protection exists against other sexually transmitted infections. Accordingly, if a condom splits or comes off, there is some protection for the couple. However, the only safe sex is to stick to one partner or abstain. 6 Lots of men, and their partners, prefer the appearance of their penis after circumcision, It is odour-free, it feels cleaner, and they enjoy better sex. Awareness of a good body image is a very important factor in building self confidence. 7 Balanitis is an unpleasant, often recurring, inflammation of the glans. It is quite common and can be prevented by circumcision. 8 Urinary tract infections sometimes occur in babies and can be quite serious. Circumcision in infancy makes it 10 times less likely. What about my son? Dads - you are responsible for discussing these matters with your sons as soon as they reach an age when you can communicate with them. And, single mums - so are you, because nobody else will do so. There is no examination of the penis in school medicals. Your teenage sons, especially the younger ones, will have almost total ignorance. They may secretly be having problems. Maybe they wish they had been circumcised for either body image or medical reasons. Help them to be informed and aware of their options. Don't cop out, there are leaflets available to help you. You need to check your younger sons (age 5+) and teach them hygiene and be sure all is working properly. Try to cultivate a situation in which they will be comfortable to share any concerns they may have - like soreness. Remind them to pull back their foreskins whenever they pee as it helps to keep the foreskin clean. It also makes it easier to aim and assists them to avoid spraying the toilet - just as circumcision does. What about infant circumcision? You need to think about this calmly, because some people are getting angry about it in the USA, even using inflamatory words like 'genital mutilation'. Make sure you are fully informed because you as the parent have the responsibility to make decisions on behalf of your child - like the big decisions about vaccinations, knowing that for long term benefit to the child and others, the pain of the injection and often the fever which follows are worthwhile. Having read this leaflet, you are in a better position to make decisions. Circumcision can become an emergency, or the foreskin may cause considerable problems, not least when sexual intercourse starts or in older age. Remember, it may be a taboo subject for most people - but it should not be so for you. You may feel you could help your son avoid some of these problems once and for all by having him circumcised early in life (the best time in the healthy baby is 7-10 days old). Not only is it a simpler procedure, needing no stitches, but he will not remember the event. He will also grow up never knowing anything different. Boys circumcised later in life may find it a more embarrassing experience. For a while afterwards they will feel the sensitivity of the permanently exposed glans, but will gradually adapt to it. Thus, circumcision in babyhood can be a very sensible decision - especially for a single mum with a boy and no man around the house. If you do circumcise your son, you must explain as soon as he is old enough to understand, what happened and why it was done. This helps acceptance and avoids ignorance. (I used to think some of my friends were born with a very different penis from mine until I learned about circumcision at age 13.) You might equally sensibly decide to wait and see, but do be ready to take action quickly if problems start to arise. If you are thinking about infant circumcision, there are leaflets describing it in detail. You would need to discuss it with the midwife or doctor before birth to plan it. You may encounter opposition - there is currently an irrational anti-circumcision culture in the medical profession. Remember- it is your choice to do what you think best for your son in the long term. If you have any difficulty arranging circumcision on the NHS, the local Jewish circumciser, (môhel - pronounced 'moil') will often oblige you (as may a Muslim doctor). Some even offer to visit and do it in your home. You can contact the Gilgal Society for a list of circumcising doctors and môhels. The procedure takes only a few minutes. From circinfo: Revise emedicine !
  25. Do You Muslims Really Believe This?

    Talking snakes, goat riding ! In quran ?!
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