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  1. Friday Naseeha

    Friday Naseeha [iblees] said, "Do You see this one whom You have honoured above me? If You delay me until the Day of Resurrection, I will surely destroy his descendants, except for a few." [Quran 17:62] And We have certainly established you upon the earth and made for you therein ways of livelihood. Little are you grateful. [Quran 7:10] One day as Umar bin al Khattab was walking through the marketplace he inadvertently heard a man making what seemed to Umar a very strange dua. The man kept reciting over and over “O Allah, Make me from the few”. So Umar approached him and asked “from where did you get this prayer?” So the man replied “Allah says in the Quran “and few will be from my grateful servants”[34:13] Upon hearing this Umar cried and made the dua, “Ya Allah, make me from the few” We live in an environment which is surrounded by fitna in pretty much every direction and of all different types. It is not uncommon to see muslims engaged within them, however what is frightening is when muslims and whosoever try to justify their evil actions, by suggesting they are not alone in doing them. How many times has the excuse been used “well everyone is doing it not only me” or “relax! its not that bad otherwise no one would do it”. The reality is these excuses are just that, excuses for a weakness that a person has. It does not matter how many people are doing whatever you may be engaged in, if it is haram it is haram. Often if a person is not engaged in such sins, the majority may seek to mock the one who has safeguarded themselves, to try to convince them to be more like them. To give an example i was once waiting for a train and standing not too far were a bunch of sisters who were making fun of one of the sisters because she was not wearing makeup, saying she looked pale and ill. In times like this we should solace in the fact that Allah distinguishes between the majority and the few. If you search for the word 'most people' in the Quran, you will always find after these words 'and they don't believe', 'and they do not know' or 'and they are ungrateful' Instead we should seek to be from those who observes the command of Allah at all times and do not compromise on anything. May Allah make us among those who he is pleased with. May he make us amongst the few. Ameen Ibn Qayyim AR said: "Choose the path of truth and do not be despondent because of the small number of those seeking the truth & be careful of the evil path and do not be impressed by the large number of those that will be destroyed."
  2. Friday Naseeha

    Friday Naseeha “The mutual rivalry (in chasing the dunya) diverts you. Until you reach the grave. Nay! you shall come to know. Again Nay! you shall come to know. Nay! If you knew with a sure knowledge (you would not have occupied yourself in worldy things). Verily you will see the blazing fire. And again you will see it with certainty of sight. Then on that day you shall be asked about what you indulged in.” [surah Takathur] On the authority of: Abu Huraira:Once the Prophet (peace be upon him) entered the Masjid, a man came in, offered the prayer and greeted the Prophet. The Prophet returned his greeting and said to him, "Go back and pray again for you have not prayed." The man offered the prayer again, came back and greeted the Prophet. He said to him thrice, "Go back and pray again for you have not prayed." The man said, "By Him Who has sent you with the truth! I do not know a better way of praying. Kindly teach Me how to pray." He said, "When you stand for the prayer, say Takbir and then recite from the Qur'an what you know and then bow with calmness till you feel at ease, then rise from bowing till you stand straight. Afterwards prostrate calmly till you feel at ease and then raise (your head) and sit with Calmness till you feel at ease and then prostrate with calmness till you feel at ease in prostration and do the same in the whole of your prayer." [bukhari] We live in a society today which is fast paced; people barely have time for themselves let alone anyone else, ‘time is money’ always on the move always tired never enough time, in the blink of the eye Friday has arrived again! As muslims we need to take stock of the time we spend on any action and we need to prioritize so that we give everything its due right. Unfortunately because of the society we live in our priorities get muddled up and we forsake the important things, namely the Salah. Reflecting upon the hadith above, how many of us have performed a Salah like this man? How many of us have rushed through our Salah without having found calmness in our prayer? How many of us have engaged in a Salah without concentration (khusoo)? How many of us have prayed wanting to run back to the dunya? The reality is frightening, especially considering that the prophet SAWS told him “go back and pray for you have not prayed” In another hadith Prophet saws said: “The first thing which will be judged among a man’s deeds on the Day of Resurrection is the Prayer. If this is in good order then he will succeed and prosper but if it is defective then he will fail and will be a loser.” [Tirmidhi] The reality is that if we actually reflected on the short surahs that we recite while rushing our salah we would be humbled before Allah. An example is the surah Al Asr, 3 verses long and the first two are “By Time!, Verliy Mankind is in ever increasing loss”. Allah azawajal is informing us that we need to be aware of time, that our life is limited and that its span is ever decreasing and that we should prepare for the hereafter. However we recite this hurriedly and run back after the world, think about it, does that even make sense after what we recited? May Allah grant us a better understanding. We need to understand that nothing is more important than our Salah, we must set aside time so that we can pray without needing to rush it, so that we can have khusoo, so that we can feel the effects and the benefits of salah. Time is NOT money, but it is exchanged for a currency and the currency which matters is that of the hereafter and the currency of the hereafter is deeds. May Allah make us among those that offer the salah with Khusoo and through it get closer to Allah and move further away from the dunya. The Prophet (SAWS) said: "Salah is a pillar of the religion (Islam). He who establishes it, establishes religion; and he who destroys it, destroys religion." [Tabarani]
  3. Masturbation In Islam

    The quran and the hadith need to be taken together... You cannot simply take the Quran and disregard the Hadith
  4. Masturbation In Islam

    You have to stop misquoting me... As I said before whether it poses health risks or not, it does not matter. (I do not have the time to research and get you the facts, nor am i too bothered) Allah has made an decree regarding something and so the matter is closed. If you had to sit an exam and in one question it said you had to answer a question in a specific way and stated clearly you cannot use another method, even if such a method will get you the same result you will not get any marks for it because you were told against it. Regardless of you "better judgement" and it may even result in you failing the test. In the case of necessity almost all things become permissable, if a person attacks you and your family you have to fight the person, does that mean that you can justify fighting all the time.. no... If you have an issue with the Ruling of God, your creator then maybe you should address your belief in God first....
  5. Masturbation In Islam

    One cannot simply take the Quran without Hadith, the hadith mention this as a prohibited. Both the Quran and the hadith go hand in hand with each other. You cannot neglect one. Everything between a husband and a wife is permissable except one thing which is mentioned clearly. Not really, you made a statement saying that there is no health risk and then you misquoted me. I said there is conflicting views on this matter. In truth, obeying Allah comes first and so if it is prohibited then we must refrain from it.
  6. Masturbation In Islam

    As you mentioned there are hadith about it, it is a sin as Allah has labelled it to be a sin. While I do not want to get into 'health risks' your statement is not true, as there is conflicting views on this topic. In the main Allah has prohibited it and so for that reason alone a muslim should abstain from it. Is it better for those who feel the need? No because what if this causes the need to grow and such a thing leads to greater sin? the solution has been given that a person should fast, if they are unable to get married.
  7. Friday Naseeha

    Friday Naseeha “And whosoever is conscious of Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He (Allah) will make a way for him to get out (from) every (difficulty), and He will provide him from (sources) he could never imagine.” [Quran 65:2-3] “But whosoever repents after his crime and does righteous good deeds, then verily, Allah will pardon him. Verily Allah is oft-forgiving, Most merciful” [Quran 5:39] One of the worst enemies that a believer will face in his/her life is bad habits. The reason as to why, is because unlike mistakes that a person may commit now and again, the bad habit is done consistently over time and without doubt it will affect the heart and Emaan of the person. To the point that sometimes we are so desensitised to this bad habit that we feel no remorse doing it, or that we greatly belittle its effect. The likeness of it is a ship captain who is careless and so never checks the lower deck, while staying on the upper deck all the time, if there is a leak in the lower deck, by the time he realises it will be too late. It goes without saying that breaking bad habits is not easy, but when doing so always refer back to the ayah above. The process of leaving a bad habit requires a person to first identify it, too often we are bogged down in other people’s lives that we neglect our own. Sit down and reflect on all that you do, Identify your bad habits, ask for forgiveness and repent. Step 2 ask yourself what drives you to do this, is it your environment? etc. Understanding why you do the bad habit is amongst the most important steps, because only then will you recognise its roots and by doing so you can challenge it effectively. Step 3 now that you know its roots, you must move away from them. For example if it is your environment, then for the sake of your deen you must leave those who influence you negatively. Like the case of the man who killed 99 men, in order for his repentance to be accepted he had to leave his people, who influenced his habit of killing. In the same way we must remove ourselves from situations which influence bad habits. Now that we have identified, recognised and moved away from the bad habit; it is important that it is replaced with something good, use this time to memorise Quran or to seek knowledge in your deen. For sure these are things that will soften the heart and re-sensitise it to the bad habits that once plagued your heart. It does not need to be a great deal initially, start by memorising one ayah, or one line. When you seek knowledge choose a topic that interests you and take lessons from it. The final step when you do this is to make constant dua that Allah azawajal makes you steadfast, your dua is the most important thing to ensure that you will not fall back into it. Understand that you are weak and that all strength is from none but Allah so beseech him continuously and thank Allah for guiding you. An important thing to remember is that we are humans so as mentioned we are weak and we may fall, however if we do fall we should never dwell in self-pity, rather we recognise why we fell address it, repent to Allaah and ensure it does not happen again. May Allah make us amongst those that seek to become better for his pleasure, may he make it easy for us to give up bad habits and may be purify our hearts. Ameen The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever gives up something for the sake of Allah, Allah will compensate him with something better than it.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani.
  8. Masturbation In Islam

    It is not allowed... if one has such desires they should seek to get married... if they cannot get married they should fast.
  9. Friday Naseeha

    Friday Naseeha “O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you into nations and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted.” [Quran 49:13] “And hold fast, all of you together, to the Rope of Allah (i.e. this Quran), and be not divided among yourselves, and remember Allah's Favour on you, for you were enemies one to another but He joined your hearts together” [3:103] “United we stand, divided we fall” a statement that highlights the importance of unity. As muslims we only need to look at our situation to realise how true this statement is. Today we are in disarray, we are a disjointed ummah. What makes it even worse is that there is not a single thing that disunites us; there are many things that cause it. Whether it’s a person’s race, their social standing, the area they are from, the scholars that they follow and many other things. We need to ask ourselves what is the cause of this? The reality is that the Ansar (before they became muslim), who were the most disjointed people in the Arabian peninsula, engaged in wars decades with each other, were able to put aside all differences and unite not only with themselves but the people of Makkah as well. What allowed them to do this? It is because they took from Islam some of its deepest and most profound meanings, that a person should not be judged on such superficial things, that beyond the physical vessel that is the body, we all have a soul, which is devoid of colour and race. A soul which when it finishes its journey in this world will only have one concern, the actions it committed. They instead focused on the fact they all came from one root, that regardless of all things at the very least they were brothers and sisters in humanity. Discrimination of any kind is dangerous; remember it was shaytan who first discriminated against our father Adam and from it he developed arrogance and because of this he was cast out cursed by Allah, may Allah safeguard us. Let us unite on that which we should hold dearest to us, let us unite on the love of Allah, let us unite on our love for the Sunnah, let us become a people that no longer judge the exterior, rather we overlook faults and seek to assist our fellow muslims. Let us recognise that in unity we get back our strength, in unity we will get back our honour and in unity we will preserve our dignity. May Allah unite this Ummah! Our Prophet (SAW) said: "All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over a black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselves.” [Final Sermon]
  10. Friday Naseeha

    Friday Naseeha- “And in some parts of the night (also) offer the Salat with it, as an additional prayer for you. It may be that your Lord will raise you to Maqaman Mahmuda (a station of praise and glory, i.e. the highest degree in Paradise!)”. [Al Isra:79] “…Verily, they were before this amongst the good doers. They used to sleep but little by night [invoking their Lord (Allah) and praying, with fear and hope]. And in the hours before dawn, they were (found) asking (Allah) for forgiveness” [Ad dhariyat 16-18] The world we live in today is fast paced and often is the case where many of us do not even know what happens in the day. It is almost like blur, working/studying, doing odd bits here and there we hardly get a moment to ourselves and more importantly a moment to reflect upon our relationship with Allah. Our hearts become consumed with the world and its tasks that we forget and neglect the hereafter and our connection with Allah. This naturally affects us all, we don’t feel the sweetness of Eman that once was so strong, we don’t have the enthusiasm to do more than we need to as we did before. So what is the solution? The answer has been around since the start of this religion, the night prayer. To stand while the rest of the world are laying in their beds, to be conscious engaged in remembrance of you Lord while all others sleep. The reality is that if we want the sweetness of eman back if we want to increase our levels of enthusiasm to our ibadah, then the night prayer is a must. The reality is that if we want to reach the highest place of Jannah and we want our Lord to be pleased with us then the night prayer is a must. The reality is that if we truly seek to earn the forgiveness and mercy from our Lord so we are protected from the fire then the night prayer is a must. The night prayer in essence is the first test as to the degree of our level of faith, ask yourself what prevents you from waking up? If the answer is related to the dunya (which it will be) ask yourself then which is worth more. If we neglect the night prayer then we are sacrificing the akhira for the dunya. It should be the opposite, There will come a day when this veil of deception will be lifted. The Qur’an says: “[it will be said], You were certainly in unmindfulness of this, and We have removed from you your cover, so your sight, this Day, is sharp.” (Qur’an 50:22). To all those who read this, wake up for the night prayer, even if it is 10 mins before fajr. Wake up and offer two raka’ah with sincerity. Wake up and re-establish the lost connection, wake up and sacrifice for a delight that will last forever, wake up and become those who Allah will be pleased with. May Allah make us amongst those who are favored by offering the night prayer, and may he in his infinite mercy forgive our short comings and make it easy for us. Ameen Narrated Abu Huraira the prophet (SAWS) said, “Our Lord, the Blessed, the Superior, comes every night down on the nearest Heaven to us when the last third of the night remains, saying: “Is there anyone to invoke Me, so that I may respond to invocation? Is there anyone to ask Me, so that I may grant him his request? Is there anyone seeking My forgiveness, so that I may forgive him?” [sahih al-Bukhari 1145]
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    Friday Naseeha- Poverty "Nay! rather, what they used to do has become like rust upon their hearts." [al-Mutafifeen:14] “Then, after that, your hearts were hardened and became as stones or even worse in hardness.” [baqarah 74] When poverty is mentioned our thoughts turn to those who have nothing in the dunya who are left in desperate need. Ibn Qayyim however would associate poverty with a person who neglects their heart and soul. Of the two which would we consider direr? By our actions it would appear that we fear poverty of wealth as opposed to poverty of our heart and soul. The reality is that this is a huge issue amongst us; too many of the muslims are just so focused on their feeding their need of material possessions that they have starved their hearts and soul. Everything that has been created was made for a purpose, if used or treated in the wrong way it becomes damaged, corrupted and in some cases may even die. The heart is the same thing, it is delights in the remembrance of Allah and the performance of good deeds, it was made only for this. However when it is denied its right by its owner, like all things it becomes damaged, corrupted such that the Quran when recited does not impact it, when you complete your salah you feel no different than when you started it. That when you sin you feel little or no remorse, such that when you repent you are unable to cry. The nature of the Heart and soul is that they are eternal, we must realise that all other things are temporary and that we will indeed stand before Allah, and who amongst us wishes to stand before Allah with an impoverished heart. “The Day whereon neither wealth nor sons will avail. Except him who brings to Allaah a clean heart”(26: 88-89) The likeness of the heart in the dunya is similar to a boat on the sea, if water gets into the boat it causes damage, the more water the more damage up to when it sinks. In the same way if we allow the dunya to seep into our heart it will cause damage to it, if we do not check and give it the sustenance it requires the heart will eventually drown. We must work on preserving our hearts, by means of purification. Let us become amongst those who brings our hearts to account, who are proactive in enriching our hearts with the remembrance of Allah, that our hearts are moved by the verses of Al Rahman. That we are careful of even one small spot defecting our heart. May Allah purify all of our hearts Rasul Allah (sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said: "Beware, in the body there is a piece of flesh; if it is sound, the whole body is sound and if it is corrupt the whole body is corrupt, behold it is the heart." [sahih Muslim]
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    Friday Naseeha- Making Dua “And He gave you of all that you asked from Him, and if you count the Blessings of Allah, never will you be able to count them. (And yet,) behold, man is indeed most persistent in wrongdoing, stubbornly ingrate! [surah Ibrahim:34] "And Allah has brought you out from the wombs of your mothers while you know nothing. And He gave you hearing, sight, and hearts that you might give thanks (to Allah)." [surah Nahl, 78] The topic of dua itself is a very broad topic, from the etiquettes of how to make it to being patient and preserving in your dua. However these topics are only researched when someone finds themselves in some difficulty or that they want something (job, marriage). At which point, they learn all things related to dua, stay in sujood for countless minutes beseeching the mercy of Allah. So what happens when this calamity is lifted or request granted? How many of us continue making dua in the same way we did previously? In fact how many of us still make dua? The reality is that the moment that we stop supplicating to Allah we have internally decided that we are no longer in need of Allah azawajal. At this stage a person through the action of not supplicating displays this and arrogance may creep into his heart. That he begins to believe all things he has are wrought by his hands. What has stopped a person making such sincere dua from the heart? What have they attained that they no longer require dua? Have they been promised paradise? No they have not. Then maybe promised salvation from the fire, No they have not. Have they been promised that they will die on Emaan? No they have not. Rather they have been given something of the dunya and that has taken them away completely from dua. May Allah have mercy on all of us. An example of this and many of us will have seen these ourselves. During my time in university I have never seen the Prayer room so regularly attended except for two instances in the year, Exam time and Exam results time. What we make dua for is of most importance; too often today, people neglect the hereafter in their dua and focus only on dunya. So when they get what they want in dunya they leave dua until something else is needed. This is not to say that you should not make dua for the dunya, but it should be in line with the akhira. Such that even when the dunya part of the dua is given, a person will not neglect it. By Allah, I swear that a person who makes dua for his Dunya with more sincerity than he who makes dua for the Akhira will have great regret. May Allah open our hearts to recognise what is really important and may He make us among people who never leave dua, with or without a calamity. The Prophet (saw) said, “Whosoever desires that Allah answers his Duas in unfavorable and difficult conditions, he should make plentiful dua in days of ease and comfort.”
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    Friday Naseeha- It is Allah Who has created seven heavens and of the earth the like thereof. His command descends between them, that you may know that Allah has power over all things, and that Allah surrounds all things with (His) knowledge [surah Talaaq:12]It is Allah Who has created seven heavens and of the earth the like thereof. His command descends between them, that you may know that Allah has power over all things, and that Allah surrounds all things with (His) knowledge [surah Talaaq:12] Often is the case when we recite the Quran that we do so in a manner that in reality leaves us gaining very little. Without trying to understand the verses of Quran and reflecting upon them, how do we expect our hearts to be affected by them? Take for example the verse above, the ending of surah Talaaq, the scholars mention how powerful the verse is, but how many of us even remember reading it? Allah azawajal starts the verse by mentioning “It is Allah Who has created seven heavens and of the earth the like thereof” Immediately reflecting upon this, you recognise the power of Allah azawjal, in other verses of the Quran in Surah Mulk, Allah azawajal commands us to look at the sky and recognise its perfection so that our eyes become humbled. In another verse “The seven heavens and the earth and all that is therein, glorify Him and there is not a thing but glorifies His praise” [surah Al Isra:44] So reflecting just from the first part of this great verse one automatically feels humbled, not only by the power and greatness of Allah azawajal but also the reality that He is not in need of your praise and glorification, it is you that is totally reliant upon him. “His command descends between them, that you may know that Allah has power over all things and that Allah surrounds all things with (His) knowledge” This verse again leads one to reflect about the power of Allah, be it the command of the rain or the wind that we feel physically or the commandment of revelation to the prophet (saws) over 1400 years ago. The mind is simply humbled before the majesty of Allah. Following on this part of the verse also gives great reassurance to the believers, as in the previous verses of the Surah, Allah addresses those going through hardship. Knowing that Allah not only has power over all things but that his knowledge encompasses all, the believer upon reflecting upon this will feel a sense of joy, that the promise of Allah will come to pass and ease and success will soon be theirs. SubhA these are just a few reflection, on one verse of the Quran. We need to ensure that we extract as much benefit as we can when reciting the Quran and that comes only from reflection, contemplation and learning the tafseer of the speech of Allaah. May Allah enable us to be amongst those who benefit and thereby come closer to Allah by reading the Quran. Do not scatter it [the Qur'an] like inferior dates and do not chant it quickly as with poetry. Stop at its wonders, move the hearts with it, and let not your concern be the end of the surah.—’Abdullah ibn Mas‘ūd [d. 32H]
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    Friday Naseeha- Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: "We believe," and will not be tested.And We indeed tested those who were before them. And Allah will certainly make known those who are true, and will certainly make known those who are liars. [surah Ankaboot 2-3] Who is better: someone who founds his building on fear of Allah and His good pleasure, or someone who founds his building on the brink of a crumbling precipice so that it collapses with him into the Fire of Hell? Allah does not love wrongdoers. (Surat Tawba: 109) When Abu Talib was laying on his deathbed he was visited by the Prophet (SAWS) already there at the time was Abu Jahl and Abdullah Ibn Ummayah. When the Prophet (SAWS) approached him he said “O my uncle say ‘Laa ilaha illallah’ a sentence by which I will be a witness for you before Allah”. A statement that if he was to make would have safeguarded his akhirah. However Abu Jahl and Abdullah Ibn Ummayah started then saying to Abu Talib “Will you leave the religion of Abdul Muttalib? The religion of your father?” This continued with the Prophet SAWS asking him to say the Shahada and the other two discouraging him. Until he said to the prophet (SAWS) “Were it not that Quraish would degrade me, and say “It its only fear (of death) that made him to that,” I would have delighted your eyes” Because Abu Talib was concerned with the opinion of what the people had of him, he refused to take the shahada and because of that will be in fire. It is clear that he recognised the truth as his statement shows, however recognising the truth is not enough we must act upon it as well. Unfortunately many of us fall into to this on a lesser scale, how many of the Muslim’s in todays world do not act on certain parts of the deen because they are concerned with how they will be viewed by the people. How many Muslim men fail to grow the beard out of concern they might be ridiculed, how many of our sisters fail to cover themselves as they should out fear of being seen as strange. How many muslims are afraid to take a 5 min break to go pray the Salah on time while at work for fear of being looked at differently. We need to constantly ask ourselves who are we seeking to please, is it Allah or the people? Ponder upon Abu Talib for a moment, he refused because he thought he would be ridiculed and his name disgraced by the two with him and the rest of Quraysh. Abu Jahl within 3 years of this period was killed by the Muslims in the battle of badr. Abdullah ibn Ummayah at the conquest of Makkah became muslim. Within a 13 year period the whole of Quraysh and Arabian Peninsula became Muslim, would Abu Talib had been ridiculed or would he have been remembered in high regard? Let us become people who focus on seeking the pleasure of Allah azawajal, let us not be concerned of what others think of us and may we never become those miss out on performing action for the sake of Allah out of fear of how we may be perceived.
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    Friday Naseeha- Keeping good company "And (remember) the Day when the wrong-doer will bite his hands and say: Woe to me! Would that I had taken a path with the Messenger. Woe to me! If only I had not taken so- and-so as a friend! He has led me astray from this Reminder (the Qur'an) after it had come to me." [Furqan 27-29]. The Prophet ﷺ was reportedly asked: “Which of our companions are best?” He replied: “One whose appearance reminds you of God, and whose speech increases you in knowledge, and whose actions remind you of the hereafter.” It is in mankind’s nature to be socially active and in need of companionship. The vast majority of our lives involve us interacting with each other. Regardless of the society that we live in, the companions that we choose are essential in preserving and strengthening our deen. The prophet ﷺ said “A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend” [Abu Dawood]. It goes without saying that a person is influenced by those who he surrounds himself with. Even if a person is initially adverse to certain things that his companions do, the longer he observes it the more he becomes desensitised to it, such that he will soon get involved with it. In the same way a person who has friends who engage in khair, if he is not already performing the action soon he will be. Amongst the saying of the scholars of the past "There is nothing more beneficial to a Muslim's heart than to mix with the righteous and to watch their actions, while nothing is more harmful to the heart of the Muslim than mixing with sinners, and watching their actions." No matter who you are, or how strong or independent you may feel, no man, or woman, is an island, and you can't make i through this life alone. This is why Islam so stresses the Jama'ah, or the congregation. So let us take stock of the people we spend our time with, ask how are they inclined towards the deen? We should strive to love those who love Allah, spend time with those who remember Allah in their actions and avoid those who act in a way displeasing to the Al-Mighty. For the Prophet ﷺ, said, "Whoever possesses three things will find the sweetness of eman. For Allah and His Messenger to be more beloved to him than anything else; to love a person for Allah's sake alone; and to hate to return to disbelief the way he hates to be thrown into the fire." (Bukhari) The Prophet ﷺ said, “The case of the good companion and the bad companion is like that of the seller of musk and the blower of the bellows (iron-smith). As for the seller of musk, he will either give you some of the musk, or you will purchase some from him, or at least you will come away having experienced its good smell. Whereas the blower of the bellows will either burn your clothing, or at least you will come away having experienced its repugnant smell.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
  16. Friday Naseeha

    Friday Naseeha The record of deeds will be placed (open), and you will see the guiltyfearful of that within it, and they will say: 'Woe to us! What is this book that leaves nothing small or great without recording it?' And they will find everything they did presented before them. And your Lord treats no one with injustice [Al Kahf:49] The Prophet (SAWS) advised: "Bring yourself to account before you are brought to account. And weigh your deeds before your deeds are weighed for you." (At-Tirmidhi) Amongst the things most beneficial for a believer to carry out is that he regularly brings himself to account in all that he does. No one knows when their time will come to depart from this world, to delay and not perform checks on one’s self often shows a lack of understanding and misplaced priorities with regards to the deen and the dunya. The person who does not take their own self to account will often find themselves stuck in a certain way, unresponsive to that which they are occupied with and almost certainly becoming stagnant in what they do. The ones who do take themselves into account fall into 3 categories, the first is that they are too harsh in their self examination and because of this, fear or despair overcomes them and they seek to avoid their issues, rendering their evaluation useless. The second is those who are lenient in their self account, belittling the graveness of the their actions and in doing so become more inclined on acting upon their whims and desires. The third group is the one who is moderate and incorporates self dialog, in that they not only recognise an issue but they reconcile with in them a plan to correct it and to better themselves. It is all too common in these days to find people so keen to solve other peoples issues, but never to solve their own internal ones. It is important that we practice this self assessment to not only correct our flaws but also continue improving. The scholars of the past would say “He whose day is no better than his night has cheated himself; and he who is not in increase is in decrease. Being firm in action increases one.” “If one comes to Allah for a year, then turns away from Him, what he has lost will be greater than what he has obtained.” Al-Hasan said: "A believer polices his own Self; he criticizes and appraises it for the sake of Allah. The Final Hisab may turn out to be mild on some people simply because they were used to appraising themselves in this life; and the Final Appraisal on the Day of Resurrection may turn out to be rigorous on a people who took this life with levity, and thought they would not be called to account". May Allah enable us to be of those who take themselves to account and are effective in becoming better because of it.
  17. Friday Naseeha

    Friday Naseeha “O you who believe! avoid suspicion as much (as possible): for suspicion in some cases is a sin: and spy not on each other, nor speak ill of each other behind their backs. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? Nay, ye would hate it...but fear Allah: for Allah is the one who accepts repentance, Most Merciful." [Hujurat:12] “Avoid suspicion, for suspicion is the gravest lie in talk and do not be inquisitive about one another and do not spy upon one another and do not feel envy with the other, and nurse no malice, and nurse no aversion and hostility against one another. And be fellow-brothers and servants of Allah.” [Muslim] Unlawful suspicion and ill thoughts towards a person is sign of a wavering heart. If a person continues to entertain such thoughts towards a person/people it can have a devastating effect on the heart itself. The ill feelings grow and with it contempt, slowly not only will a person begin to feel they are superior, talking ill about them will also become easy, potentially spreading the contempt of your heart. Arrogance and backbiting are amongst the major sins, often overlooked. It is important that at the earliest instance these are addressed. It is amongst the trials of our time that we find this so prevalent. In a society that is so fixated on judging every aspect of an individual, rather than looking at defects within our own selves. As Muslims we must take heed of this ayah and take a step back. We are taught in our deen to think only good about each other, this in turn has a positive effect on the heart. Through thinking well of each other, your heart begins to warm to such a person, the words you then speak about them reflect positively and in doing so others will also think good of that individual. Even if you knew that a person had committed some wrong or was doing something you disagreed with, what good would it do (unless such a sin has negative effects on others and so people need to be warned) if you were to hold them to it, remembering it and thinking less of them? do you not commit sins yourself? Do you not wish for others to overlook your moments of weakness? Would it not be better for you to reflect on your faults? It does no good thinking negatively, we are told to make excuses for our fellow brothers and sisters and so we should exercise this. In fact it was common amongst the early generations of the muslims, that when they say that a person had committed a sin, they would go away and assume that such a person had returned to Allah sincerely and by doing so Allah had forgiven them. So when they next saw such a person they were free of such the sin they committed. SubhanAllah how amazing that is, they would continue to say if Allah has forgiven so and so how can we hold him to such sin. May Allah enable us to be amongst those who only avoid unlawful suspicion and the evils that follow with, may he azawajal bestow in our hearts kindness and mercy so we can overlook the shortcomings of others and focus on correcting our own selves. "O assembly of those who have believed with their tongues, but into whose hearts faith has not yet reached! Do not backbite the Muslims, nor seek out their secrets! For, whoever seeks out the faults of his brother, Allah will seek out his secrets. And, whoever has his secrets sought out by Allah, Allah will disgrace him, even [if he hides] in the depths of his house."[Hadith reported by Abu Dawud]
  18. Kalamullah

  19. Friday Naseeha

    Friday Naseeha “Say, ‘O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.’” [Zumar 53] “And whoever does a wrong or wrongs himself but then seeks forgiveness of Allah will find Allah Forgiving and Merciful.” [Nisa 110] Mankind was not created sinful, but we were created weak. It is because of this that we are all prone to fall into sin. From the whispers of shaytan to our unlawlful wishes and desires, we all fall prey, albeit at different levels and in doing so transgress against Allah azawajal. Whether it is a major or minor sin, it is important that we feel regret and turn back to Allah seeking his forgiveness and striving not to do it again. The sad reality today is that many feel that they are unable to turn back to Allah in repentance. They have it in their mind that they have committed too many sins, or that they have returned to the same sin too many times. A feeling of great shame and hypocrisy overshadows them and even though some may ask for forgiveness deep down they do not believe that Allah will forgive them. So they dwell in despair, often still committing the sin, a hole which keeps getting deeper. Without a doubt these are from the whispers of shaytan, a person should remember the advice of the early scholars when seeking forgivness. “Do not look at the size or the number of sins accumulated; rather reflect upon the Greatness of the one who has promised you his forgiveness”. The initial feeling of regret and guilt is simply the key to the process and one should not get stuck at the door of forgiveness. We should enter through the door with determination of not going back, it is in the hope of his mercy that drives this resolve and it is in the hope of his mercy that will in fact draw you closer to Allah azawajal . In truth believing that yours sins cannot be forgiven is a form of doubting Allah azawajals infinte mercy. We are in our own minds limiting his forgiveness to the human constructs of the forgivness we see in this world. The question should never be “will Allah forgive me?” rather it should be “Will I turn back to him” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said : “When Allah completed the creation, He wrote in His Book which is with Him on His Throne, ‘My Mercy overcomes My Anger.’” (Bukhari)
  20. Sura Maryam

    The previous verse mentions not associating with Allah and so this verse simple carries it on by again stating that Allah he has no partners, he is one and only. Likelyhood that there was people that had such a belief, the Quran is for all of humanity. The Jews never sought his death because they believed he said he was divine, rather it was because he was not the messiah that they wanted/expected. So they turned on him because of it. Jesus in his own words never claimed to be divine. It is clear in the Bible that Jesus in fact prayed to God. When he performed miracles he attributed it to god and in fact distanced himself from it. "By myself I can do nothing; I judge only as I hear, and my judgment is just, for I seek not to please myself but him who sent me." John 5:30 "Father, I thank thee that thou hast heard me. "And I knew that thou hearest me always: but because of the people which stand by I said it, that they may believe that thou hast sent me." John 11:41-42 God did not mislead his people, if you look into history there were still christians hundereds of years after Jesus who did not worship Jesus as God. God himself did not make any error, but man has let his own desires distort the message of God. The bible has been changed and in fact was not written till many years after Jesus. This is not to say all of it is in error, but because of the fabrication of man there is error in it. I encourage you to keep learning, good luck
  21. Sura Maryam

    What did you take to mean in the Quran, sorry i did not understand. Also on this point (associating with god) this is another topic on its own so i think its best to leave this here. The lessons learned from the prophets is more important then getting lost in the detail, what is the point of knowing a story to a such a detailed level if the lesson of the story is lost on you? Maybe I should have been clearer in that the history is important but not as much as the message they came with and the lessons to be learned. In the same respect I will answer it now in a different way. While the Surah named to honour, scholars also say it was to highlight the importance of the matter of the birth of Jesus. As there was no Prophet in between Muhammed and Jesus and because people had since taken Jesus to be divine and began worshipping him, the topic needed to be addressed as Only God should be Worshipped and not any of his creations. His birth being from immaculate conception and being without a father is the reason as to why the majority think of him to be the Son of God. Therefore the account of Mary and what happened before the birth of Jesus is of high importance, this is another reason given as to why it is named after her.
  22. Sura Maryam

    Thank you for your kind words, also i do not think anyone on this forum intends to come across as rude or arragont :) Worshiping one god and not associating. Christians while believing in One god, associate Jesus with God. They claim that he is the Son of God and so they pray to him instead of God. then there is the trinity (wont go into this now as off topic).This is for sure association and it goes against the teachings of the prophets of the past and the teachings of Jesus (according to Islam, something which you may doubt). It is not simply enough to believe in one god, One must associate none with God, not attribute his might and power to any other being. (i.e. should not pray to any of gods creation) There are a number of stories in the Quran of the previous prophets in varying detail, you have the story of moses, Joesph, Noah, Adam ( i know you dont recognise him as one), Jonah, Jesus, Abraham, David, soloman the list goes on. The Quran while giving varying levels of details focuses on the main message as you have picked up on. Believe in one god and associate none with him, in the hadiths we have some more information on them. The Quran provides the parables to refelct upon from these stories of previous prophets so that we may learn from them, it is not intended to be anything other then a reminder for mankind so that they may return to their Lord and obey his commands. Therefore the detail of history is not deemed to be so important. Im sorry but I do not understand, just because the Quran does not agree with the reason of Jesus's birth does not mean that Mary should not be honoured. Mary still gave birth and raised a prophet of God, considering the conditions were not ordinary and most likely hostile she would have likely had a difficult time. Mary was indeed told by the angel Gabriel, but being told you will be tested and going through them are two very different things. Moses was told by God about the his people worshipping the golden calf before he left the mountain while being given the tablets, so he knew before hand yet upon seeing it he dropped the tablets. This shows there is a difference being told something and living through it. Yes for sure God knew the strength of Mary and knew the results of her tests, but there is wisdom in all that which God does. The surah being called Mary highlights her importance, not only this but it shows that if you endure through tests that god has placed you under you will be honoured by God. In the Quran Allah says Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope. He gets reward for that (good) which he has earned, and he is punished for that (evil) which he has earned. Surah baqarah 286
  23. Kalamullah

    yeah its a sad state of affairs, a few speakers in london may be given silencing orders. Its a shame im close to one that has been in the press lately and he is not in anyway extreme!
  24. Parental Rights.

    the best way to explain it i think is that Islam is considered the greatest gift a person can have, because it is with this faith that will enable you to worship God as he has ordered mankind to worship him and also a path for that person into heaven. The issue for a Non muslim woman raising a child is that such a person may not raise that child according to the teachings of Islam. So to preserve the gift of Islam a muslim parent is given perferance. With regards to the spirituality of Islam, maybe because you are concerned with the all the finer details (for obvious reasons ofcourse) you are over looking the beauty of it. Take a step back and instead read about the life of the prophet muhammed with an open clear mind. Hopefully that will help you
  25. Kalamullah

    I am not entirely sure, but according to a brother I spoke to about it, anything that is deemed to encourage an extremist mentalilty can be taken down... will find out more inshA