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  1. Parental Rights.

    Islam is more then a religion, its a way of life. As a muslim you should be concious of god in all that we do and live withing the framework as best we can. That being said there is not many restrictions. As to requiring a letter to visit your parents with your kids, I am unaware of tunisian law. If you resided in the same country Islamically there is no issue you going to see them. with regards to your question as to has more rights, in short it is the mother and below is the conditions “The custody of a male child is the right of the mother until the child is capable of taking care of his own self. (See: Radd al-Muhtar, 3/566) In the case of a female, the mother has this right of custody until she reaches puberty. (al-Mawsili, al-Ikhtiyar li ta’lil al-mukhtar, 3/237) The right of custody will be taken away from the mother if she: 1) Leaves Islam, 2) Openly indulges in sins such as adultery and there is a fear of the child being affected, 3) She does not attend to the child due to her leaving the house very often, this right then transfers to the following, in order: a) Maternal grandmother, and on up; b) Paternal grandmother, and on up; c) Full sisters, d) Maternal half sisters, e) Paternal half sisters, f) Maternal aunts, g) Paternal aunts, After all the avenues of the female have been exhausted as explained by the Jurists, the males have the right of custody in the following sequence: a) Father, b) Paternal grandfather, c) Real brother, d) Paternal brother, e) Maternal brother The reason for this is that, in the early years, the mother and the other female relatives are more suitable for raising the young child (regardless of sex) with love, mercy, attention, and motherly care.
  2. Sura Maryam

    I think that it is clear, at least for me. Mary the mother of Jesus (peace be upon him) was devout to God throughout her life and was tested as sister paradise explained. You mentioned she was jewish which is true as that was the faith of the time, It matters not what she called God, so paradiselost is not wrong in saying worshipped Allah, as Allah is the one and Only God. The God of Moses, Jesus and Mohammed (peace be upon them all). Its just a language thing. A muslim is one who sumbits to God alone, associating none with God. Just like moses, Jesus and Mohammed taught. Islam is a continuation of these faiths. The prophet Muhammed described Jesus and Moses as his brothers along with other prophets. The history of Moses and Jesus and the like is part of our history as well and lesssons are learnt from their stories which is why they are mentioned and regarded important. As to why the surah is called Maryam. Scholars have said as has been mentioned above this was to honour her. She stood steadfast in servitude and gratitude to God when going through extremely tough trials. She was the subject of mass accusations, the talk of the town yet she remained true to god. Without doubt there is wisdom behind naming the Surah after her as well. Maryam is dearly loved by the christians so this also shows them how high her status is in Islam.
  3. Kalamullah

    Wa Alaykum Salaam I heard about this, it is because of new laws apparently :/ i hope they have no such further problems. Great site jzk khair for the new link
  4. Friday Naseeha

    Friday Naseeha "Certainly, We shall test you with fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits; but give glad tidings to the patient - those who, when afflicted with calamity say, "Truly to Allah we belong, and truly to Him shall we return." It is those who will be awarded blessings and mercy from their Lord; and it is those who are the guided ones." [baqarah 155-157] And hold firmly to the rope of Allah all together and do not become divided. And remember the favor of Allah upon you - when you were enemies and He brought your hearts together and you became, by His favor, brothers. And you were on the edge of a pit of the Fire, and He saved you from it. Thus does Allah make clear to you His verses that you may be guided. [Al Imran 103] Recently, by the grace of Allah azawajal, I was able to perform the Friday prayer in Masjid Al Aqsa. While walking to the sacred masjid I was able to gain an insight into the conditions of which our Palestinian brothers and sisters live their daily life. On every street corner there was at least 3 israeli soldiers each holding an automatic weapon, one with his/her finger on the trigger at all times. Check points every few miles where the Palestinians often find themselves hassled. Restricted access to only certain parts of the city, without a doubt they live in an open prison. However even though they are harassed and prisoners in their own home, they do not compromise on what they believe in. Their deen is the most prized possession that they hold and you can see it. Never have I been to a Muslim country (that is considered ‘free’) that I have seen the religion practiced without boundaries. There is no such thing as a taboo topic, yet they do this while in a prison, armed soldiers always within sight. The khutbah itself was testament to this, on loud speakers the khateebs words echoed through the old city. In it he spoke of the need of unity within the ummah and that once we were united there would be no force that could stop us, speaking out against the israeli occupation and finally making dua against them. It is truly a shame that in the free environments that we live, many of the Muslims choose to conform and compromise on parts of their belief for some material gain, or to avoid POTENTIAL issues they are afraid of. It is a shame that we have devalued our deen and instead have ranked things above it. This trip showed me that even though as an ummah we're on life-support, our heart still beats strong as there are Muslims out there doing everything to hold onto the rope of this Deen. From the children to the adults walking the streets of Jerusalem most born into occupation, with visible hurt in their eyes, I knew deep down that an amazingly resilient and dignified people would emerge, spurred on by their faith to re-write the books of history and put an end to their era of tyranny once and for all. May Allah make us amongst those who understands the true value of the deen " And we will reward them for what they patiently endured [with] a garden [in Paradise] and Silk [garments]." [soorah al-Insan (76):12]
  5. Sura Maryam

    Mary the mother of Jesus was honoured in the Quran by Allah, she is named as the greatest woman to have walked the earth.
  6. Friday Naseeha

    Friday Naseeha Never will you attain righteousness until you spend from that which you love. And whatever you spend, indeed Allâh is Knowing of it." ['Imran, 3:92] Verily those who give sadaqah, men and women, and lend Allah a goodly loan, it shall be increased manifold, and theirs shall be an honourable good reward (Paradise. [Quran surah Hadeed 18]. It is truly a sad and desperate time for many Muslims around the globe, with the current situation in syria possibly the worst. Not only have the people been displaced, killed and left destitute. The bitter winter cold is coming, a record low in terms of temperature and conditions. Not only are the people vulnerable to the brutal attacks of the regime, the freezing conditions will (and has already) claim the lives of many. For sure we will be asked about this on the day of judgment, what did we do when our brothers and sisters were freezing, their children dying, without shelter or blankets to keep them warm watching on helpless. What did we do! What have we done! Is it enough? Below is a narration from the early generation of Muslims and their attitude to giving to others, in fact this is towards an animal. Imagine if it was a person! Once ‘Abdullah bin Ja’far (RaḍiAllāhu ‘anhu) was passing through a forest when he went by an orchard where an Abyssinian slave-boy was working. Someone brought him his food and, at the same time a stray dog came into the garden and stood by the slave. The man threw a piece of bread to the dog that ate it but did not go away. The slave threw it a second piece and a third one, thus letting it eat the whole of his daily provision of food, keeping nothing back for himself. ‘Abdullah bin Ja’far, who had been watching this, said to the boy, “How much bread do you get as your daily ration of food?” The boy said, “I get three loaves everyday, as you have just seen.” Ibn Ja’far asked, “Then, why did you prefer a dog to yourself and feed it all the three loaves?” The boy said, “There are no dogs living around here. The poor creature must have travelled a long distance to reach here and it must be feeling very hungry. So, I felt ashamed to send it away, without serving it any food.” The prophet saws said “O Ka'b ibn 'Ujrah! Prayer is an offering (to Allâh), Fasting is a shield, and Sadaqah extinguishes sins as water extinguishes fire. O Ka'b ibn 'Ujrah! People are of two kinds: One who buys and keeps himself and thereby is destroyed and the other who sacrifices himself and is thereby freed." [bayhaqi. This is a sahîh mawqûf narration of ibn Mas'ûd] Donate what you can of your wealth, they ARE your brothers and sisters http://www.handinhandforsyria.org.uk/ a charity that I can vouch for, does great work inside Syria and has many clinics and field hospitals in operation. May Allah accept all that you do. Friday Naseeha Never will you attain righteousness until you spend from that which you love. And whatever you spend, indeed Allâh is Knowing of it." ['Imran, 3:92] Verily those who give sadaqah, men and women, and lend Allah a goodly loan, it shall be increased manifold, and theirs shall be an honourable good reward (Paradise. [Quran surah Hadeed 18]. It is truly a sad and desperate time for many Muslims around the globe, with the current situation in syria possibly the worst. Not only have the people been displaced, killed and left destitute. The bitter winter cold is coming, a record low in terms of temperature and conditions. Not only are the people vulnerable to the brutal attacks of the regime, the freezing conditions will (and has already) claim the lives of many. For sure we will be asked about this on the day of judgment, what did we do when our brothers and sisters were freezing, their children dying, without shelter or blankets to keep them warm watching on helpless. What did we do! What have we done! Is it enough? Below is a narration from the early generation of Muslims and their attitude to giving to others, in fact this is towards an animal. Imagine if it was a person! Once ‘Abdullah bin Ja’far (RaḍiAllāhu ‘anhu) was passing through a forest when he went by an orchard where an Abyssinian slave-boy was working. Someone brought him his food and, at the same time a stray dog came into the garden and stood by the slave. The man threw a piece of bread to the dog that ate it but did not go away. The slave threw it a second piece and a third one, thus letting it eat the whole of his daily provision of food, keeping nothing back for himself. ‘Abdullah bin Ja’far, who had been watching this, said to the boy, “How much bread do you get as your daily ration of food?” The boy said, “I get three loaves everyday, as you have just seen.” Ibn Ja’far asked, “Then, why did you prefer a dog to yourself and feed it all the three loaves?” The boy said, “There are no dogs living around here. The poor creature must have travelled a long distance to reach here and it must be feeling very hungry. So, I felt ashamed to send it away, without serving it any food.” The prophet saws said “O Ka'b ibn 'Ujrah! Prayer is an offering (to Allâh), Fasting is a shield, and Sadaqah extinguishes sins as water extinguishes fire. O Ka'b ibn 'Ujrah! People are of two kinds: One who buys and keeps himself and thereby is destroyed and the other who sacrifices himself and is thereby freed." [bayhaqi. This is a sahîh mawqûf narration of ibn Mas'ûd] http://www.handinhandforsyria.org.uk/ a charity that I can vouch for, does great work inside Syria and has many clinics and field hospitals in operation. May Allah accept all that you do.
  7. Confused

    He will become a christian if necessary :|
  8. A Financial Matter

    Tunisia, in terms of trust bonds and the like for kids and savings account the only thing that you need to be aware of is staying away from Riba (interest). If you choose to invest money for them and yourself also make sure it is ethical. Apart from that there is no restriction on how you do it. If you can afford to buy a property without and interest based loan, then i agree thats the best investment as the rent could be put away for them and later the property could be sold for them or inherited by them to do as they wish with it.
  9. Friday Naseeha

    Friday Naseeha – So glorify the praises of your Lord and be of those who prostrate themselves (to Him). [Hijr-98] O you who have believed! Bow down, and prostrate yourselves, and worship your Lord and do good that you may be successful. [Hajj-77] Described by Ibn Qayyim as the secret of the prayer, the great finish built up by all the other actions preceding it. What does sujood mean to us? For many it is just an action in salah and sometimes it is even rushed when performing the prayer. Let us take a detailed look into the Salah, initially when we stand for Salah we begin in servitude by forbidding ourselves from drinking eating and talking until we reach the end of the prayer. When we stand we face the Qibla an appointed position, then facing with our heads looking down we begin and start by praising Allah. As we glorify Allah we are humbling ourselves by recognising his greatness, we continue by asking for his guidance and his assistance in surah fatiha. As we recite from the Quran we are humbled simply from the fact that these are words of Allah! Following this we fall into Ruku’ and bow to Allah displaying a more physical act of humility. After getting up from Ruku we fall into sujood. This is the complete state of submission and humility, now our body and our tongue is united in complete submission to Allah. When we enter into sujood we place the most precious part of our body, the place from which beauty is judged, our face onto the floor and it is placed firmly (our forehead and nose must be touching). Then while in the lowest position state we say “Glory to my Lord above all they associate with him, Most High” SubhnA how then can we later stand and walk with pride and arrogance. The reality is that we do not take away enough from the sujood, it is true that our body and our tongue submits but does our heart? If our heart is not in it then we will lose most of the benefits. The likeness of this, imagine your Body is a kingdom, your limbs and tongue are its high statesmen with the heart as the king of the body. Now this kingdom is in need so it goes to the king of kings, when it approaches the king of the kingdom (the heart) gets distracted and so he sends his high statesmen (limbs and tongue) to address the king of kings while he stays behind. What message does this send to the king of kings, when the most important person is missing? Now the king of kings is generous so he gives but for sure if the king (heart) was present more would have been given. The prostration is so important that Satan hates us for it. It has been narrated that when the son of Adam recites the verse of Sajdah (prostration) and then falls down in prostration, Satan goes into seclusion and weeps and says: “Woe unto me, the son of Adam was commanded to prostrate, and he prostrated and Paradise was entitled to him and I was commanded to prostrate, but I refused and am doomed to Hell.” (Muslim) May we be people who take full benefit from our sujood.
  10. Traditions Around The Birth In Islam

    Tunisia, Again as has been mentioned this is optional, it is a sunnah (from the teachings of the prophet) to offer the sacrifice. So in truth it is not really an issue. Also you could look at it from another way, that when you have a child (god willing) you can donate some money which goes to a poor country in which they distribute the meat of a sheep. In this way you fulfil both as you are feeding the poor and carrying out a sunnah. The same applies with shaving the head it does not need to be done, Your question why is it two for a boy and one for a girl. Firstly the reason it is still carried out is because it was mentioned by the prophet (pbuh). To understand why he said this, you need to understand the time and the culture of the people. It was not too long before that the people in Arabia used to bury alive their daughters, the prophet forbade this, this showed the attitude people had when having girls. Some say that this is to do with how happy a person is and so they sacrfice accordingly. A boy in those times would become a breadwinner for the family and provide strength so parents would want to have many boys for this reason. For sure it is to do with the perception at the time and nothing to do with equality. Imam Malik (one of the biggest Islamic teachers in history) in his books he wrote that for this there should be 1 for boy and 1 for a girl. just to give you another opinion on the matter. I hope this answers your question
  11. Confused

    as always feel free to ask, Your very welcome
  12. Friday Naseeha

    Friday naseeha: Whatever you may be doing, and whatever portion you may be reciting from the Quran, - and whatever deed you (mankind) may be doing (good or evil), We are Witness thereof, when you are doing it. And nothing is hidden from your Lord (so much as) the weight of an atom (or small ant) on the earth or in the heaven. Not what is less than that or what is greater than that but is (written) in a Clear Record [surat Yûnus 10:61] They may hide (their crimes) from men, but they cannot hide (them) from Allah, for He is with them (by His Knowledge), when they plot by night in words that He does not approve, And Allah ever encompasses what they do. [surat An-Nisâ' 4:108] It is part of the human psyche to be concerned about how we are perceived. This has many effects and depending on the crowd of people can be positive or negative. However when it comes to religion, being concerned about our perception from our fellow man is hugely detrimental. It is not uncommon to see an individual’s character change depending on who they are with. Whether it is good or bad one must question the reason why they have made a change in their actions. The most common case is the difference a person acts in front of their parents and with their friends. The same applies when it comes to acts of worship in public and in private. Individuals when in the masjid may perform the salah slower and more melodiously compared to when they are in their room alone. Or that they will perform the sunnah in public but never in private. The example extends to all acts of worship. How we sin is also influenced by this, many of the sins are committed in secret again to protect how we are viewed from people. This is a disease of the heart that so long as it exists will trouble us. Everything that we do, we should have the concern ‘will Allah be pleased with it?’ It matters not what anyone else thinks. Our purpose in this world is to worship Allah, our goal in this world is to please Allah. The character of a Muslim should not change depending on who he is with, nor should his actions change. In fact if anything when you are alone that is the time when your obedience to Allah should reach a higher level. As it is when you are alone that you will not be influenced by others and so what you do then is purely for Allah azawajal. We need to evaluate ourselves to see where we fall in line, do not kid yourself, if you want to know who you are do not look at your public actions, look at how you are when you are completely alone. Let us stop being concerned with what people think become concerned with ‘will Allah be pleased with it’ Of the seven types of people who will be under the shade on the day of judgment “a man who remembered Allah in private and his eyes shed tears” [bukhari]
  13. Confused

    If your fiance is making demands of you, ideally you should sit down and talk with him about it. I am all for people reading into and learning about Islam and becoming muslim. That being said it needs to be done in the right way, it appears that your fiance is learning about the religion himself which explains why he is saying stuff that is not really part of the religion. You need to sit down with him and discuss, a solution could be that you study the religion together. He would see that you understand how much Islam means to him and his family will also take notice of it. Its better then making superificial changes.... If you need advice on anything feel free to ask and we will do our best to assist.
  14. Confused

    Hi, You are right a muslim man can marry a christian or jew, there is no obligation on you to convert. Nor is there for you to change your name. In fact even if a person became a muslim they dont have to change there name. Some people choose to, but its the persons choice. Speaking as a muslim i would also advise you to read the Quran, but it this case you do not need to in order to marry him. Who is telling you btw?
  15. Random Incoherence

    That moment when someone falls, you want to laugh but have to check they okay before laughing out loud.... :P
  16. Friday Naseeha

    Friday Naseeha –Blessings of Allah Allah azawajal says in surah Ibrahim verse 7 Allah says: “And (remember) when your Lord proclaimed: ‘If you give thanks (by accepting Faith and worshipping none but Allah), I will give you more (of My Blessings); but if you are thankless, verily, My punishment is indeed severe’” Also in surah An Naml verse 40 “This is by the Grace of my Lord to test me whether I am grateful or ungrateful! And whoever is grateful, truly, his gratitude is for (the good of) his own self, and whoever is ungrateful, (he is ungrateful only for the loss of his own self). Certainly! My Lord is Rich (Free of all wants), Bountiful” “If you were to count the favours of Allah, never could you number them;” [Nahl 18] Despite all of these blessings we often find ourselves ungrateful to Allah. I want to share a story that gives a great analogy, InshA we can learn from it. Mentioned in a book by Imam Dhahabi: Luqman the wise used to be employed by a rich man. The nobility of Luqman’s character had a great effect on his master, so much so that the master considered him as a great friend and a beloved companion. He recognised Allah loved him and he in turned loved Luqman in the hope Allah would love him. It became the practice of the master that whenever he had something special to eat, he would first feed Luqman first then eat what was left. One day the master received a melon as a gift, a fruit not known to that land. Excited about it he called for Luqman quickly. When Luqman arrived, he cut the melon into slices and slice by slice started giving thereof to Luqman to eat. With each piece Luqman thanked him and smiled as he ate. When one slice remained the master said “my son I have seen you enjoy this fruit now let me share this enjoyment with you”. As soon as he took a bite of the melon he fell unconscious, when luqman helped him regain consciousness he said O my son, How did you manage to eat all those slices of melon? The bitterness from one bite of the melon had such an effect on me, then how did you manage to eat so many slices?" Luqman replied: "O Friend, from your hands I have received hundreds of gifts. The burden of thanks upon me is so great, that my back has gone crooked. Hence, I felt ashamed that the hand that had granted me so much favours, if one day some distastefulness or bitterness should come, how can I turn away from it? O Friend, the pleasure of knowing that it comes from your hands has changed the bitterness of the melon to sweetness." May Allah azawajal enable us to be amongst those who are never ungrateful to our Lord and that we thank him abundantly. Ameen Mu'adh (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah () took hold of my hand and said, "O Mu'adh! By Allah I love you, so I advise you to never forget to recite after every prayer: "Allahumma a'inni ala dhikrika, wa shukrika, wa husni 'ibadatika (O Allah, help me remember You, to be grateful to You, and to worship You in an excellent manner)." [Abu Dawud].
  17. Friday Naseeha

    Friday Naseeha – Concern for the Ummah "Verily, there has come unto you a Messenger from amongst yourselves. It grieves him that you should receive any injury or difficulty. He is anxious over you; for the believers and is full of pity, kind, and merciful” Surah Tawbah, verse 128. The Messenger of Allah (SAWS) said: 'The example of the Believers in their mutual love and mercy is like the example of a body. If one part feels pain, then all of it is affected by sickness and fever.' While we are all well aware of the above hadith having heard it many times, the truth of the matter is that we have not acted upon it. We (the muslims) live a life now obsessed with only ourselves and immediate family. There is a growing trend amongst the ummah which is frightening to see. There is no desire to do more than the salah (on time), fast during Ramadan, pay zakah and stay away from major sins. Even this unfortunately many fall short in, however what is disturbing is that this is now being seen as the pinnacle, once a person gets to this stage it is as if they have reached the end of their development in terms of deen. If a person is able to do this, has good income and roof over their family, then they have no concern. The reality is that this is the minimum that we should be performing, everything that has been mentioned above is an obligation on us and if we do not do these we are in sin. If we look back at the history of our Ummah, when we were united and our concern was primarily that of the ummah we flourished reaching beyond China and the south of France. When the muslims in that time then divided themselves into kingdoms and disunited, focusing on themselves rather than the Ummah as whole, we became disgraced and suffered defeats. This has been repeated many times in our history the moment the concern for the Ummah goes and we split into kingdoms we are defeated. We lost Spain because of this, when they appealed for help from the Muslim lands, it was refused because previously they had operated as a separate kingdom, one of many examples in history. Today we are in an even worse state, every family has their own kingdom and we do not have any desire except to build and beautify these kingdoms. So all our time and money is spent on trying to live a more comfortable life. Neglecting the concerns of the Ummah, because we do not want to sacrifice the comfort that we are in, so we ignore our surroundings. While the Ummah suffers all over the globe and even on our doorstep, our concern lies elsewhere, we need to become proactive and work towards a united Ummah. It is not enough for us to leave it for others to do, we must all shoulder this burden, we all have a part to play and we must realise it in whatever capacity we can give. "Indeed, if a person does not have concern for the affairs of the Muslims then this, in reality, is a deficiency in ones Islam. Since how is it possible for the one in whose heart iman has taken root, and whose allegiance is to and for the Muslims, not to feel anguish and pain for them and their present state of affairs - their trials, tribulations and tortures” May Allah make us a people who have concern for the ummah and are those who act upon it.
  18. Eye Make Up And Wudu

    Wa alaykum Salaam In the main the scholars have said that if something (be it make up or whatever) blocks the path of water to part of the body when performing Wudhu it should be removed. As water must touch the areas of the body which are necessary to be washed. I know that if the mascara is waterproof and so it does not let the water touch the eyelash hair that mascara needs to be removed. With regard to eye liner i would imagine this is same as Kohl??? The ruling I know of is that it is to be removed when perfoming Wudhu, since this is the matter related to prayer and its requisites, all precautions should be undertaken.
  19. Friday Naseeha

    Friday Naseeha Asalaamu Alaykum We live in a very difficult time, where Islam is in the spotlight all over the globe and for all the wrong reasons. Unfortunately this has impacted the way in which the muslims practice their religion, even more unfortunate is that many imams have also diluted what they teach. To the extent that some distance themselves from aspects of the religion. Coupled with this is that we also have widespread ignorance, in that people do not know why they are doing things, they saw so and so do it and that is the reason they do it. There is a growing phenomena where Islam is being pushed out from being at the forefront of our lives, to the sidelines away from our work and social circles, so that it appears merely as something which we only engage in alone, completely separate from every other aspect of life. We must understand that no matter what we do, our deen always comes first. This world is nothing but a test and its purpose is to test your faith. Allah says in the Quran in surah ankaboot verses 2-3. “Does mankind think that they will be left alone on saying "We believe" and that they will not be tested? We did test those before them, and Allah will certainly know those who are true from those who are false.” We must stick to the words of the Qur’an and teachings of the prophet saws closely, regardless of what people around us say. Allah says in the Quran in Surah Al Anaam 153 "And verily this is My Straight Path, so follow it, and follow not (other) paths, for they will separate you away from His Path. This he has ordained so that you may attain piety. " We need to wake up to the true reality that what people think about us really does not matter, are you willing to live a life that pleases the people for 20-30-40 years and in doing so angers Allah, or will you rather seek the pleasure of Allah and by doing so earn Jannah for eternity? Become strangers to this world, go away and verify every act of worship you do. It is not enough that so and so did it, it must be from the Quran and the Sunnah. May Allah enable us to follow the Quran and sunnah as it should be followed. To be misunderstood or mocked for your belief can be the highest compliment paid to you. Were not the prophets of the past mocked and misunderstood. Were not the most influential people of the past mocked and misunderstood for ideals that seemed alien? The world is in crisis because too many people follow a life with no mind of their own. Influenced by a selfish ideal. Be patient, persistent and strong. It will not be easy you may find you begin to doubt yourself but strive and you shall achieve! Liberate yourself from this mindless life, let your light shine bright as a beacon of hope for those need. Know always your liberation liberates others. The Prophet (saw) said "Islam began as something strange and it will revert to how it began as something strange. So glad tidings of Paradise to the strangers" [Ahmad]
  20. Starting All Over And Depression

    Wa Alaykum Salaam There is always going to be doubts when getting married as you never know how the person actually is until you marry them. I would advise that you have a meeting with the guy and talk about your doubts. Also speak to him about what you expect from him and make sure his level of Emaan is at suitable level for you. Living in certain environments do affect us and for sure an anti-islamic environment is not a good one, if you ever get confused go back and read the Quran and pray to Allah that he removes the confusion from your mind and your heart. If you are able to wake up 10-15mins before the fajr (morning) prayer starts and make dua to Allah, make stronger the connection that you have with Allah. In terms of isolation, it is good thing if done in small short doses for the purpose of reflection and building ones faith. Maybe an idea is to turn everything off around you and sit and reflect in your room. Total isolation is not advised. One of the things about being an introvert or extrovert is that no one person is 100% of one sided. We all have traits of intro and extro inside of us. What you need to work out is how to create an environment around yourself that makes you feel comfortable. The mind is very powerful you must believe you can be more confident. Below are some Dua you may find useful اللِّهُمَّ إنِّي عَبْدُكَ ، ابْنُ عَبْدِكَ ، ابْنُ أَمَتِكَ ، نَاصِيَتِي بِيَدِكَ ، مَاضِ فِيَّ حُكْمُكَ ، عَدْلٌ فِيَّ قَضَاؤُكَ ، أَسْأَلُكَ بِكُلِّ اسْمٍ هُوَ لَكَ ، سَمَّيْتَ بِهِ نَفْسَكَ ، أَوْ أنْزَلْتَهُ فِي كِتَاَبِكَ ، أَوْ عَلَّمْتَهُ أَحَدًا مِنْ خَلْقِكَ ، أَوِ اسْتَأْثَرْتَ بِهِ فِي عِلْمِ الْغَيْبِ عِنْدَكَ ، أنْ تَجْعَلَ الْقُرْآنَ رَبِيعَ قَلْبِي ، وَ نُورَ صَدْرِي ، وَ جَلاءَ حُزْنِي ، وَ ذَهَابَ هَمِّي Allahumma inni ‘abduka, ibnu ‘abdika, ibnu amatika, naasiyati biyadika, maadhin fiyya hukumuka, ‘adhlun fiyya qadha’uka asaluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka, sammaita bihi nafsaka, aw an-zaltahu fi kitabika, aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika, awista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilmil-ghaibi ‘indaka, an taj’alal-Qur’ana Rabbi’a qalbi, wa nura sadri, wa jalaa’a huzni, wa dhahaba hammi ‘O Allaah, I am Your servant, son of Your servant, son of Your maidservant, my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every name belonging to You which You name Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the unseen with You, that You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety.’ [Musnad Imam Ahmad 1/391. Shaikh al-Albaani graded it authentic (Saheeh) in al-Kalimtul-Tayyib] اللَّهُمَّ إنِّي أعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَ الْحَزَنِ ، وَ الْعَجْزِ وَ الْكَسَلِ ، وَ الْبُخْلِ وَ الْجُبْنِ ، وَ ضَلَعِ الدِّيْنِ وَ غَلَبَةِ الرِّجَالِ Allahumma inni ‘a’udhubika minal hammi walhuzni Wal’ajzi walkasali walbukhli waljubni, Wa dal’id-daiyni wa ghalabatir-rajal Oh Allah, I seek refuge in You from anxiety and sorrow, weakness and laziness, miserliness and cowardice, the burden of debts and from being over powered by men. [sahih al-Bukhari 7:158, Al-Asqalani - Fath al-Bari 11:173]
  21. Virtues Of Reciting Surahs

    Imagine you had an exam coming up, it’s a big exam that will decide your future. You know you cannot retake the exam and this test it’s not easy. What you do have however is the guide to not only the questions in your test but also the answers. What would say about a person who ignores this exam guide/answer book during the exam itself? Such a person without a doubt is ignorant and is making a costly mistake. The likeness of this exam/test is our life, one chance as the saying goes YOLO (you only live once), and the Qur’an is our guide/answer book. Allah azawajal says in surah Baqarah as we all know : ذَلِكَ الْكِتَابُ لاَ رَيْبَ فِيهِ هُدًى لِّلْمُتَّقِينَ “Therein this book (Quran) there is no doubt, guidance for those who have taqwa” In another place in the Quran Allah Azawajal states (surah nahl verse 89) وَنَزَّلْنَا عَلَيْكَ الْكِتَـبَ تِبْيَانًا لِّكُلِّ شَىْءٍ وَهُدًى وَرَحْمَةً وَبُشْرَى لِلْمُسْلِمِينَ “And we have revealed this book onto you as an explanation of everything, a guidance, a mercy and good news for the muslims” The reality however is that many of us neglect the Quran, it stays on a high shelf untouched collecting dust. The Quran needs to be the light of our heart directing how we go about living in this world, it is a light which cannot be extinguished when hardship or difficulties face us nor is it corrupted when wealth and success lands upon us. These are the words of Allah the most high, glory be to he above all that which they associate with him. However these words cannot resonate in our hearts if we continue to ignore the Quran. The first instruction given to the prophet (saws) was ‘Read!’ and this is the same instruction that is given to us. In reality there is no excuse for us, not a single day should go by where the Quran is neglected by us. Set aside some time, even if at the start it is very little for something is better than nothing. "Will not any of you go to the masjid and learn or read two verses from the Book of Allah `azza wa jall? (For) that is better for him than two she -camels, and three (verses) are better for him than three (she-camels), and four (verses) are better for him than four (she-camels). And the number (of verses read in total) are better than the same number of camels [Muslim] [Muslim] After then keeping the Quran moist on our tongue we must then remember to act upon that what we read, what good is a guide if it is read and not followed? As the famous quote by Fudayl Ibn ‘Iyad “The Quran was reaveled to be acted upon, but the people have treated the recitation as the only action” May Allah swt make the Quran beloved to us and may we be amongst those who it intercedes for on the Day of Judgment. Ameen
  22. Virtues Of Reciting Surahs

    it might be difficult keeping it in numerical order, might be better to leave it open to any addition. That way it encourages more to write as it may exclude many who might need to wait before writing. I will do an the virtues tomorow inshA on reading the Quran.
  23. Virtues Of Reciting Surahs

    Wa alaykum salaam, Do you want virtues alone with evidences from the hadith, because i would not mind sharing some relfections from passages of the Quran. if you want to keep it seperate we could start a new thread.
  24. Gender Roles In Islam Vs Other Cultures

    The Quran states the Jesus spoke in the cradle and declared he was a messenger of god, With regards to what you claim as a mistake in the Quran, because you do not understand the arabic you have failed to understand the meaning. When the word Ukht is used it is often translated as sister into English, but the word itself means more than that. It also used when there is a strong affiliation. In this case amongst the people there was a righteous individual called harun who was known for his piety amongst the men, just as Mary was known for piety amongst the women. So this is just merely the people using the affiliation of piety to question Mary on what she has come with. If the Quran was talking about Aaron, Moses’s brother then it would have mentioned Mary sister of Moses somewhere as well. You were talking about the birth of Jesus and now you bring up ideological differences, completely different argument. Also the bibles version on the birth differs depending on what version you read. You simply do not understand the tradition of the time you are talking about, the quran was written down on parchments during the time of the prophet as well as people memorizing it. So you need to actually learn what you talk about. I see no point continuing this with you, you deny the prophets existence and so this whole discussion is pointless. Is that not how rules are generally decided by the views of the people in that area? Whats the point of having rules in an area if they don’t agree with them? would the laws of saudi be a good idea for the US. Whether you wife can summon help or not, the fact of the matter is in immediate danger it makes no difference. At a local level, you know the area well, what times to avoid, streets to avoid and the general know of what and what not to do. In a strange place you have no idea They are only ludicrous according to you because it goes against what you have been saying. The same could be said about the figures you claim to be true. If you have no issue with pornography then that is your prerogative, I am sure however many fathers would have no issue with their daughters being movie stars, however the vast majority would object to their daughters becoming stars of pornography. But just as you said they shouldn’t really its just a sub genera of movies. As with all things, people have the freedom to choose what they do and how they live their life. We muslims believe that living according to the law of Allah established by the Quran and the teachings of the prophet Muhammed (PBUH) will give us a life of happiness and contentment in a society which establishes high levels of morality and justice. I will not be responding to anymore posts on this discussion as I stated earlier. Regards, Ala'adin
  25. Gender Roles In Islam Vs Other Cultures

    Firstly the birth of Jesus, in both the bible and the Quran is in fact the same. Both do not go into a great detail, but say it was a virgin birth, decreed by God almighty. Again you show a lack of understanding,” it is clearly based on the words of the bible”. Go away read about the Quran because statements like such show how much you know. I have presented evidence to you before and you have just ignored it, put it simply I do not have the time to fish out articles and extracts for you, so I suggested that you go in search for them. Of the few times I have sent articles you have thrown them out and disregarded them, so research for yourself (being unbiased) and you will see that its not hand waving I am doing, but just directing what you can look at if you choose to do it. If such is the case then where were you going with your point about the majority?? Though I agree Majority does not mean a great deal. What you state about the prophet Muhammed (pbuh) is utter nonsense. Leading historians who have dedicated their lives to studying history and religion in the Middle East as their speciality agree fully that Muhammed Ibn Abdullah lived and was the prophet of the religion of Islam. That the words of the Quran came from him, which we believe was a revelation from God to him. Your statements show complete ignorance on this matter. Its not outdated, a message on twitter is the same as a message from a bloke speaking verbally. A message is a message, so it can be dealt in the same way. Regardless of who it reaches the laws do not change if its 100 or 1 million who listen or read your message. Again how Islam defines travel is different, the strongest opinion is that a person becomes a traveller when the local people consider the distance to be travelled a journey. So it does take into account changes in transport and the duration it may take a person to reach a location. You make it sound that like having children is the bad side of sex… Leaving aside STD’s, immorality and the like… Yes I did not disagree that a woman could call for help, but as I said and you have also agreed on this does not give her any safety from immediate danger. Again what good is GPS, by the time it has been tracked and someone is sent to investigate the crime could have been committed and the criminal long gone. In cases of immediate danger, it’s not going to help much. Women carry mace or guns, well in those days im sure some women carried knives and weapons and for sure the women back could also defend themselves. So nothings really changed there. Your claim that nothing to suggest the government knew of them is again nonsense, go look at the website is funded by the government and information is provided from the department of health. Please actually look the websites and evidence I provide before decide that it’s not real. The difference between movies and pornography is like trying to compare coffee and cocaine. I am selective about what films I do watch as some lack any morals and ultimately teach profanity. While certain things might be entertaining, that should not make it okay. Staging animal fights might be entertaining but that does not mean that it is right. I know I used an extreme example but still you will find many that will argue for it.
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