Brother I understand how you feel because I also suffer from the same problem. Thanks to Allah, the high pitched whistling noise does not bother me anymore.
I started the other Tinnitus threat that you refer to and my fellow Muslim brothers and sisters and the Islamic knowledge attained from this forum helped me greatly.
This is my first post in probably two years. I tend to visit the forum once in a blue moon and never participate on any discussion because I was too busy chasing worldly wealth. I almost forgot about Allahâ€™s mercy about how he granted me a peaceful life even with Tinnitus. Your post was a wakeup call for me from Allah.
If Allah is willing, I wish to be an inspiration to you just like your post has been an inspiration to me reminding me of how Allah granted me a peaceful future when I lost all hope.
Out of the things I learned while my regular visit to the forum few years ago are:
1. Allah does not burden someone with suffering beyond their tolerance. We are plighted with this disease because Allah knows we can cope with it.
2. This is a test for us. Allah tests different people in different way. Some with too much wealth, some with hunger and poverty, and some with sickness.
3. Sun will always shine end of the night. We just donâ€™t know how long the night is. So try to be patient (I understand it is easier said than done; especially not easy for us to be patient but Allah is aware of our suffering)
4. A true believerâ€™s suffering will not go in vain. Inshallah, Allah will wipe some of your sins in exchange for the suffering we go through every single second.
5. Finally, ignore the world around you. Do not plan on winning gold medal in Olympic if you have no legs. Know your limit. Be happy with what you have. This is where I went wrong. I wanted bigger job title, more success and money. Thanks to Allah and you for my wake up call. How quickly we forget Allah! (So you are not alone. Make sure you repent at the earliest opportunity. Do not ignore Allahâ€™s call and the subtle warnings ).
Let me end by giving you few practical tips:
1. Protect your hearing at all costs
2. Wear hidden ear protection everyday when you are outside (I found cotton to be very effective in blocking / muffling high pitched sounds)
3. You have greater chance of recovery because your one seems to be re-active tinnitus. There is a physiological reason for your problem. You just have to wait till they have more developed medical equipments (compared to mine which is in the brain. How do you re-wire brain cells? If Allah will, maybe I will have to wait another 20-25 years for a cure if I am being optimistic)
4. Stress aggravates your problems. Follow Allahâ€™s rule (Salah can make you calm). Reduce your commitments / attachments with worldly things. Live a structured life (I found the more unexpected things happened in my daily life = more stress. E.g. better to be at home doing something boring than going out in nice restaurant and wishing I had the same expensive car as my friend or feeling left out on all the worldly fun because of my tinnitus. Stick with your family members and 2-3 close friends as they can understand you and wonâ€™t make you feel less successful or stressful.
You control your life for your comfort and Allah's mercy. Don't bother about other people's opinion or approval as long as you are following Allah's rule and not doing something very embrassaing e.g. neglecting social visits and minimum etiquettes or somthing stupid e.g. self harm)
5. Our problem is little compared to someone starving to death in African countries. Donâ€™t pay attention to your body moaning about how uncomfortable life it is living. Remind it of other people in greater suffering. Remind it of hell awaiting in after life if we do not pass Allahâ€™s test and cheat (i.e. commit suicide). Is hellfire better than ringing noise in ear?
We may have to live 40-60 more years with or without tinnitus depending on what Allah has planned for us. Hellfire is a long distance flight with no respite. So do not ever think of suicide. One life = one chance to avoid hell fire. Suicide = waste of that chance and living in hell for a long time.
6. Getting married can be useful as someone will company and comfort you (provided that your bride knows all about this and she is a kind person). My life has become easier because Allah has found me a very supportive wife.
7. Eventually your brain will learn to adapt to the noise (proof: With the will of Allah, I have done it despite what doctors and other tinnitus sufferer told me. Allah knows if it will get worse in future but I am ok today. My secret: forget how tinnitus affects your life by living a simple stress free life initially. Donâ€™t think of future. What you do today matters. Thinking about tomorrow wonâ€™t change a thing. Doing something now will make difference. So donâ€™t think, just do whatever you need to do and get on with your day job and Allah's worshipping. No long term planning for people like us with uncertain future =happier life)
Don't forget about 5-10% of the poplation has it and they live with it fine!
When you recover, donâ€™t forget Allah. Keep in touch with me if you wish by PM. I will also benefit because I wish to be reminded what Allah has done for me from time to time.
May Allah accept both our repentance.