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  1. I just punish myself for not saying "hang on a minute if you don’t agree with me then let me a least tell my mother about you" , instead I asked him to call his imam. Which he really thought i do stuff.


  2. I think I have been misunderstood in here which is partly my fault. I just wanted a lawful conversation so I can freely express my self. Never had an issue with my family knowing it and hence why I told them so early which isn’t the normally done, as far as I know. Obviously I am not getting married to him as he proved disrespectful. I wanted my father the waali to know but only after my mother checks of him and finally me and my mom agree on him together.


  3. Wa alaikumu salaam wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh,

     

    As far as I am aware there is no marriage without a guardian -- did you have a wali (guardian)?

     

     

    Wa alaikumu salaam wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh,

     

    Could you clarify what your question is sister? Do you want to marry this individual or not? An engagement is not the same as marriage, they are two different things; and if you have done something with this individual which is only permissible through marriage then you have to repent for that.

     

    If you want to get to know someone for the purpose of marriage then you should do so with the help of your parents.

    Also is the norm in my community not to let your parents know when you’re chatting to someone. It may not even be about marriage. Notice as long as you reach the age of chatting that’s fine with the parents it’s a time you’re suppose to go through.

    And seriously NO I have not done anything with him apart from chatting to him on my phone. I forgive you for thinking that you’re not from my community so your not use to it. Such questions are wrong to ask too.


  4. Assalamu alaykum wa rahmtuallahi wa barakatu.

     

     

    You’re properly right there is no marriage before marriage

    but what about engagements would that has been the

    right aspect to use in such matter. I am really confused

    so I was allowed to chat with him on subjects freely,

    don’t you think that sort of chatting include lot’s deep

    considerations and attention as well as emotions been

    exchanged. But to me engagements are almost like marriage.

    PEACE


  5. Wa alaikumu salaam wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh,

     

    Where did you read that it is permissible to marry someone for the sake of talking?

     

    And as far as I am aware there is no marriage without a guardian.

    Assalamu alaykum wa rahmtuallahi wa barakatu.

     

    I really can’t find where I read it from remember my main source been

    the Egyptian Islamonline which have changed now.

    I am missing the website greatly.

    PEACE


  6. wa alaykum a ssalam wa rahmautallhi wa barakatu,

    Yes brother, I asked him to marry me for the conversation period according to what I read that was correct.

    Then I would decide whether I want to marry the person. Obviously I wanted my parents to know both ways.


  7. Welcome sister and congratulations and Alhamdulillah. :sl:

    May Allah bless you and may your wishes become true. May Allah guide your husband. May Allah also give you all the strength to stay and become the course of his guide to Islam.

    peace

    jeneen


  8. Assalamu alaykum wa rahmtuallahi wa barakatu.

    I don’t really know how to phrase this but I have been contacted by a brother who found your number from a relative (assuming) I just couldn’t ask him. And so I asked him to marry me to make the conversation lawful. Although he said it wasn’t necessary because he was going to be straight forward I demanded. He asked how, I told him to ask his imam how to marry a girl for talking only. I was expecting a hassle out of it but he phoned again and I assumed he had done it as he told me so and then we continued chatting which I hope Allah forgives me for it. In a very short time e.g. 4th day I asked him to talk and meet my mom he agreed but then appeared at my house with his bike and showed really disrespectful.

    Did I need a muhram ?

    peace

    jeneen


  9. PEACE aj4u,

    Sorry I just can’t agree with you. From what I have read in your posts you love Jesus (ra) and you are obviously practising his teachings (ra) by trying to spread the trust in Christianity. In order to achieve that love in Christianity that the fellows are promised to. Wouldn’t mean to defend him (ra)?

    Peace.

    I am ever so sorry I made a mistake it should be (pbuh) instead of (ra).


  10. Wa 'alaikum salam wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuh

     

     

     

    Yes, I understand your point. And that’s really what I need rather than what I wanted to read. I just wanted to get a closer eye on what others do, when their own selves urge then to change for a better person. Alhamdulillah I pray up to the fard (compulsory) ones on time, and that’s it sorry it just feels too tight to pray the night ones I mean I pray duha salat. May Allah guide me.


  11. People are free to choose, but they are not free from the consequences of their choices. Why do Mulsims feel offended if Allah and his prophet are attacked; don't they believe that Allah can defend himself? I don't feel the need to defend God or Jesus from someone who attacks them. My God can defend Himself. I just relax, the battle is the Lord's not mine! It is written in the Bible: "Great peace have they which love thy law and nothing shall offend them." If people are offended they should try loving God's law! :sl:

    PEACE aj4u,

    Sorry I just can’t agree with you. From what I have read in your posts you love Jesus (ra) and you are obviously practising his teachings (ra) by trying to spread the trust in Christianity. In order to achieve that love in Christianity that the fellows are promised to. Wouldn’t mean to defend him (ra)?

    Peace.


  12. How would you change to attain yourself a better Muslim or a better being?

     

    Firstly, I would try a warmer house and a gentler mood.

    Secondly, read more a hadiths inshallah.

    Finally broaden my mind and a much more relaxed opinion.

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