I know exactly what you mean as many times when making duaa I face the same dilemma. I personally feel that Allah should be the one we can say anything to. He is the one who knows what is in our hearts, our deepest thoughts and secrets. Allah loves us more than a mother can love her child; surely we can plead with Him as we would with our mothers then?
Ultimately it is Allah Ta'aalah who knows what is best for us, but to ask of Him is what is wanted from us. Perhaps there are times that a certain duaa is not accepted as that is not what is best for us. Still, we shall get the reward for that dua. Allah answers all the duas of his sincere servants, whether the result is seen to us or not.
The following ahadeeth are :sl: a reminder to us all :no:
"There is nothing more dear to Allah Ta’ala than a servant making dua to him."
"The person who does not ask from Allah Ta’ala, Allah Ta’ala becomes angry with him."
[at Tirmidhi, Ahmad]
"The dua of a Muslim for his brother (in Islam) in his absence is readily accepted, an angel is appointed to his side, whenever he makes a beneficial dua for his brother the appointed angel says "aameen and may you also be blessed with the same".
"Dua is the essence of Ibadah (worship)."
[at Tirmdhi, Ahmad]
"If you ask, ask Allah and if you seek help, seek help from Allah."
[at Tirmdhi, Ahmad]
"O my servants, were the first of you and last of you, the human of you and jinn of you to rise up in one place and make a request from me, and were I to give everyone what they requested, that would not decrease what I have anymore than a needle decreases the sea if put into it."
"The invocation of any one of you is granted [by Allah] as long as he does not show impatience by saying "I have invoked Allah but my request has not been answered."
[sahih al-Bukhari, Muslim]
"Any muslim who supplicates to Allah in a Du'a which contains no sin breaking of kinship, Allah will give him one of three things: either his Du`a will be immediately answered or, it will be saved for him in the hereafter, or it will turn away an equivalent amount of evil (from him)" The companions said "so we will ask for more" he replied, "Allah is more [generous]."
"Ask and you will be given, ask you will be given"
"For any one among you, if the door of acceptance of du`a is opened, then the doors of His Mercy are also opened. The best du`a Allah likes is the one in which the caller asks for the goodness of this world and the goodness of the next world."
"Du'a is a weapon of a believer, a pillar of religion, and a light of the heavens and the earth."
"Nothing prevents predestination except Du'a, and nothing stretches the age except righteousness."
"Do not feel hopeless with Du'a, since nobody is to be annihilated with Du'a."
"Abu Darda' (radiAllahu anhu) reported:
I heard the Messenger of Allah, salAllahu alayhi wasalam, saying, "Whenever a Muslim supplicates for his (Muslim) brother in his absence, the angels say: `May the same be for you too."
"Abu Darda' (RadiAllahu anhu) reported:
The Messenger of Allah, SalAllahu alayhi wasalam, said,
"The supplication of a Muslim for his (Muslim) brother in his absence will certainly be answered. Everytime he makes a supplication for good for his brother, the angel appointed for this particular task says: `A meen! May it be for you, too."
An-Numan bin Bashir (radiAllahu anhum) narrated that the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) said:
"Verily, Supplication is worship."
[al-Arba'a (the four), at-Tirmidhi]
Abu Hurairah(radiAllahu anhum) narrated that the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) said:
"Nothing is more honorable (most liked) before Allah (Ta'ala) than Supplication."
[at-Tirmidhi, ibn Hibban and al-Hakim]