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  1. Duas desperately needed

    Assalamalikum Folks My name is Ammarah. My nikah has been done and my final departure from my parent's home is near. My problem is date my husband is jobless and financially dependent on me. This financially dependency is causing alot of trouble between us. I request my readers to pray for my current situation , provision and well-being. JazaakAllah wa khair
  2. I was wondering......you see, I am 19, and when I graduate college I intend on getting married. If I married a Jewish or Christian woman would she go to hell for disbelief if she does not convert? if she would, what is the purpose of getting married? also, according to yasir qadhi, ibn abbas said interfaith marriage is only for within an Islamic country, due to the possibility of divorce and/or children turning away from Islam. What is the scholarly view? (I was born in and live in the West)
  3. Assalamu’Alaikum, I am happy to announce that Half Our Deen Offline is finally coming to the UK! Baba Ali will be in UK and will be hosting an Exclusive Singles Event on Sunday 8th November 2015 in LONDON! The event will take place at a private location that will only be revealed to the confirmed paid attendees. You know how Baba Ali values your privacy. Are you worried about the event being boring, scary, a waste of time, etc? Let Ali give you a sneak peek inside. Click on this image ----------------> and watch Ali's video on what makes Half Our Deen Offline so special. HOD Online also has had over 800 members find their other half on their website www.halfourdeen.com! Check out their testimonials there (and you will find our story too :D). Need more information on our events? Check out the information below: Only 80 seats available so reserve your spot TODAY! What exactly is HOD Offline? Half Our Deen Offline is an exclusive event and the only way to get a seat is by invitation. Once an interested person completes their registration for Half Our Deen Offline, their answers will be reviewed. If approved, they will receive an invitation and instructions to complete their payment to reserve their seat at the event. Approval is based solely on the responses we receive to the survey. The goal is to only invite those who have a real chance at finding a match at the event. For example, if you are looking to marry someone between the ages of 35-40 and the majority of those who fill the survey are under 35 attending would be a waste of your time and money. In order to keep the event organized and balanced, seating is limited and based on a first-come basis. How does one Register for the event? Fill out the survey ( www.hodoffline.com/register) to sign-up for the event. All registrants will go through a filtration process to determine the likelihood of finding a compatible match at the event. Once HOD determines the compatibility ratios for all registrants, they split them into groups based on who they are likely to find compatible . They then send out invites to those who made it to the final list of brothers and sisters who they believe will have a high chance of finding a match at this particular event. If the invited do not pay within the time specified to reserve their seat, the next most compatible registrant is sent the invite. Register early to ensure you get in. What happens at the Event? Instead of just playing musical chairs like other events, Half Our Deen Offline takes a revolutionary approach at Muslim Matchmaking by engaging people in fun and interesting activities. You will experience an innovative and intelligent way of interacting with others in a natural environment. The creative activities make for a comfortable atmosphere where you can be yourself and learn how others interact with you in a relaxed setting. HOD makes it simple, less stressful and most of all FUN! The HOD Offline staff keep you entertained and are readily available to answer any questions you may have. Spots are limited so make sure to grab yours before they are gone. JazakAllah Khair, HOD Offline Events Team, www.hodoffline,com
  4. Assala Mu Alaikum Oa Rahmatullah, I would like to share a global issue named “child marriage”. According to UNCRC (United Nations convention on the rights of the child) it is prohibited to give our children’s marriage under 18 years of age. But regarding the issue what is the position of Islam? Child marriage is a really a pathetic matter to a country, especially for third world. But are there any bindings to arrange a child marriage in Islamic philosophy...?
  5. Assalamualaikum. I wanted some advise from all of you with a personal problem. I'm 32 years old male. I got married 2 months back to a 26 year old. My wife is Stubborn and dominative. She wants to live an extravagant life style regardless of how much I can afford. My take home salary is about 1,50,000 rupees (of which more than 1,00,000 goes for house construction and future investments, another 30,000 for household expenses like grocery, electricity, bills etc.). She is being rude to me lately and fighting with me (with support of their parents) that I need to pay her 25,000 per month for her own expenses. She is back in her home town for more than a month now and says she would come back only if I pay this money on monthly basis and also listen to everything else she says. Please advise what is right for me to do and how should I deal with her
  6. Mutah “Mutah” translates literally to “pleasure” in Arabic. In the Shia context, Mutah refers to a “temporary marriage.” A man pays a woman a sum of money (i.e. a so-called “dowry”) and he can have sexual relations with her for however long they agree for in the Mutah contract. The Mutah time period can be as little as one night, or even one hour–enough time for the man to do the sexual act. For all intents and purposes, Mutah is prostitution: a man pays a sum of money in order to have sexual relations with a woman. Mutah is considered permissible in the Shia faith. It is completely rejected by the mainstream Muslims (i.e. the Ahlus Sunnah wal Jama’ah). The Shia Ayatollahs slander the Prophet by arguing that he encouraged Mutah, whereas the Ahlus Sunnah valiantly rejects such blasphemy and adamantly holds that the Prophet categorically forbade Mutah. Shi’ism not only allows Mutah but actively encourages it. Naturally, many Shia apologetics have a hard time accounting for this; oftentimes, the Shia laity themselves (especially the women) are in denial as to their own beliefs. The fact is that Shi’ism not only allows Mutah, but it actively encourages it and even forbids anyone from saying that Mutah is wrong. According to Shi’ism, the more Mutah a man engages in, the more reward he supposedly gets. Any person who does not believe in Mutah is considered to be a Kaafir (disbeliever) by the Shia Ulema. There is no debate on this amongst the Shia Ulema, and there is Ijma (consensus) amongst them on the Kufr of denying Mutah. Al-Kafi is one of the four Shia books of Hadith; of the four, it is considered the most authoratative and authentic. We read one such Sahih Hadith, in which the Imam says: “One who engages in Mutah once in his lifetime reaches the status of Imam Al-Hussain. One who engages in it twice becomes equal in status to Imam Al-Hasan. The one who performs it three times reaches the position of Imam Ali. And he who practices it four times acquires the level and position of the Prophet Muhammad.” (Furoo al-Kafi) This is pure blasphemy to say that all a man has to do to get to the level and position of the Prophet is to have Mutah with four women. To say that a man who engages in prostitution can in any way, shape, or form be compared to the Prophet is heresy. Here are some more Shia Hadith from Al-Kafi (narrated in al-Kulaini, Furoo al-Kafi, Volume 2, p.196): 1. Abaan Ibn Tulugh related that he said to Imam Jafar as-Sadiq, “Often during my travels I come across a very beautiful woman and I am not sure if she has a husband or if she is an adultress or if she is one of dubious character.” The Imam responded, “Why should you worry about all of these things? Your duty is to believe what she says, and if she says that she has no husband then you should engage in Mutah with her.” (Al-Kafi) 2. Zanaarah said, “I asked the Imam: ‘with how many girls can one do Mutah with?’ He replied, ‘with as many as you like; they are like hired girls.’” (Al-Kafi) 3. “If a man contracts Mutah once in his lifetime, Allah will grant him paradise.” (Al-Kafi) 4. “If a man does Mutah, he is saved from shirk.” (Al-Kafi) Let us examine another Shia Hadith on the matter of Mutah: Imam al-Sadiq (as) said: “The one who does not believe in our return [Al-Raj’ah] and does not consider our Mutah to be Halal is not from us.” (al-Bihar, al-Majlisi, v53, p92, Hadith #101) And another interesting Shia Hadith: Imam as-Sadiq (as) said: “He who believes in seven things is regarded as a believer: the disavowal of idols and tyrants, the declaration of the divine leadership of the Imams, the belief of Rajaa, legality of Mutah, the illegality of the flesh of eel, and the illegality of passing the wet hands over the slippers (during the ritual ablutions).” (Narrated by Ali bin Ahmed bin Abdullah who narrated to us from his father from his grandfather from Ahmed bin Abi Abdullah al-Barqi from his father from Amr bin Shemr from Abdullah) These are very peculiar beliefs indeed. How is it that Mutah is considered commendable in Shi’ism? Mutah is nothing other than prostitution. To believe that Mutah is permissible is to negate all the Islamic exhortations in regards to chastity, sexual modesty, and righteousness. Furthermore, it is complete blasphemy against our Prophet to say that he encouraged prostitution. Mutah is Zinnah (fornication); it is immoral and reprehensible. Al-Shia.com on "Rewards for Doing Mutah" Shia websites in English usually do a good job of Taqiyyah (lying) and Kitman (hiding), especially in regards to Mutah. Shia websites in English usually do a good job of Taqiyyah (lying) and Kitman (hiding), especially in regards to Mutah. The Shia try to downplay Mutah because it gives them a bad image in front of English-speaking Westerners. The Shia try to downplay Mutah because it gives them a bad image in front of English-speaking Westerners. However, the Shia websites in Arabic and Farsi do not have to take the same precautions and can instead be more open and frank about the Shia belief of Mutah. However, the Shia websites in Arabic and Farsi do not have to take the same precautions and can instead be more open and frank about the Shia belief of Mutah. The popular Shia website, Al-Shia.com, has an Arabic section; in it, the site has included an entire book on Mutah, titled “Narrations About the Rewards for Doing Mutah.” This book contains authentic Shia Hadith about Mutah. The popular Shia website, Al-Shia.com, has an Arabic section; in it, the site has included an entire book on Mutah, titled "Narrations About the Rewards for Doing Mutah." This book contains authentic Shia Hadith about Mutah. Here are some Hadith from that book in the original Arabic (also viewable on that website). Here are some Hadith from that book in the original Arabic (also viewable on that website). The Shia website can be found here: http://www.al-shia.com/html/ara/index.php The Shia website can be found here: Http://www.al-shia.com/html/ara/index.php As well as here: http://www.al-shia.com/html/ara/lib/lib.php?id=4&page=5 As well as here: http://www.al-shia.com/html/ara/lib/lib.php?id=4&page=5 1. “A man should at bare minimum contract Mutah at least once during his lifetime. 1. "A man should at bare minimum contract Mutah at least once during his lifetime. ” " عن أبي القاسم جعفر بن محمد بن قولويه عن أبيه عن سعد بن عبد الله عن أحمد بن محمد بن عيسى عن ابن أبي عمير عن هشام بن سالم عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) قال : يستحب للرجل أن يتزوج المتعة و ما أحب للرجل منكم أن يخرج من الدنيا حتى يتزوج المتعة و لو مرة Abu Qasim Ja'far ibn Muhammad ibn Qolouet from his father, from Sa'd bin Abdullah Ahmed bin Mohammed bin Isa Ibn Abi Amir Hisham bin Salim Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) said: is recommended for a man to marry the fun and what I love for a man that you come out of this world until he gets a fun time and if 2. 2. “For every shower you take after doing Mutah, you will be blessed. "For every shower you take after doing Mutah, you will be blessed. For every Mutah you do, you will get a lot of reward.” For every Mutah you do, you will get a lot of reward. " و بهذا الإسناد عن أحمد بن محمد عن موسى بن علي بن محمد الهمداني عن رجل سماه عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) قال : ما من رجل تمتع ثم اغتسل إلا خلق الله من كل قطرة تقطر منه سبعين ملكا يستغفرون له إلى يوم القيامة و يلعنون متجنبها إلى أن تقوم الساعة و هذا قليل من كثير في هذا المعنى And this attribution from Ahmad bin Muhammad Musa bin Ali bin Mohammed Al-Hamdani about a man called Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) said: "What a man, then bathed only enjoy God's creation of every drop of it towing seventy angels ask forgiveness for him until the Day of Resurrection and the curse Mottagnnbha to that time and that few of the many in this sense 3. 3. “It is blame-worthy to avoid doing Mutah because it is part of the Sunnah to engage in Mutah.” "It is blame-worthy to avoid doing Mutah because it is part of the Sunnah to engage in Mutah." و بالإسناد عن ابن عيسى عن ابن الحجاج عن العلاء عن محمد بن مسلم عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) أنه قال لي : تمتعت قلت لا قال لا تخرج من الدنيا حتى تحيي السنة And attribution from Ibn Isa Ibn Ala pilgrims from Muhammad ibn Muslim from Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) that he said to me: I enjoyed not said do not go out of this world until the year marks 4. 4. “A man may have Mutah with one thousand women.” "A man may have Mutah with one thousand women." و عن أبي بصير أنه ذكر للصادق (عليه السلام) : المتعة هل هي من الأربع فقال تزوج منهن ألفا And from Abu Basir said that Sadiq's (peace be upon him): Is it the pleasure of the four of them married, said alpha 5. 5. A woman who lets a man do Mutah with her will have all her sins pardoned. A woman who lets a man do Mutah with her will have all her sins pardoned. It is narrated by Imam Baqir that the Prophet said, “When I was being taken to Heaven during the Miraj (ascension), Jibraeel met me and told me, 'O Muhammad, Allah has promised to forgive all the sins of those women who practise Mutah.'” It is narrated by Imam Baqir that the Prophet said, "When I was being taken to Heaven during the Miraj (ascension), Jibraeel met me and told me, 'O Muhammad, Allah has promised to forgive all the sins of those women who practise Mutah. '" و بهذا الإسناد عن أحمد بن علي كذا عن الباقر (عليه السلام) قال : قال رسول الله (صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم) لما أسري بي إلى السماء لحقني جبرئيل فقال يا محمد إن الله عز و جل يقول إني قد غفرت للمتمتعين من النساء And this attribution of Ahmed Bin Ali, as well as on-Baqir (peace be upon him) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) for my family to heaven to Hakni Gabriel said, O Muhammad, Allah Almighty says, "I have been forgiven for enjoying women 6. 6. “Punishment for Not Performing Mutah: The people who do Mutah are blessed but those who avoid Mutah are cursed until the Day of Judgement.” "Punishment for Not Performing Mutah: The people who do Mutah are blessed but those who avoid Mutah are cursed until the Day of Judgement." و بهذا الإسناد عن أحمد بن محمد عن موسى بن علي بن محمد الهمداني عن رجل سماه عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) قال : ما من رجل تمتع ثم اغتسل إلا خلق الله من كل قطرة تقطر منه سبعين ملكا يستغفرون له إلى يوم القيامة و يلعنون متجنبها إلى أن تقوم الساعة و هذا قليل من كثير في هذا المعنى And this attribution from Ahmad bin Muhammad Musa bin Ali bin Mohammed Al-Hamdani about a man called Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) said: "What a man, then bathed only enjoy God's creation of every drop of it towing seventy angels ask forgiveness for him until the Day of Resurrection and the curse Mottagnnbha to that time and that few of the many in this sense 8. 8. “Allah the Exalted and Majestic forbids intoxicants to the Shia; Mutah is the compensation for this.” "Allah the Exalted and Majestic forbids intoxicants to the Shia; Mutah is the compensation for this." - و بهذا الإسناد عن أحمد بن محمد بن الحسن عن موسى بن سعدان عن عبد الله بن القاسم عن عبد الله بن سنان عن الصادق (عليه السلام) قال : إن الله عز و جل حرم على شيعتنا المسكر من كل شراب و عوضهم عن ذلك المتعة - And this cross from Ahmed bin Mohammed bin Musa bin al-Hasan from monkey Abdullah bin Qasim Abdullah bin Sinan from al-Sadiq (peace be upon him) said: Allah Almighty has forbidden the Ciatna intoxicants of all drink and have fun for Awwadhm 9. 9. The Messenger of Allah said, “When he took me to the skies, Jibraeel (as) said : 'O Muhammad, Allah Almighty said: Amongst the women, I will forgive those who make Mutah twice.'” The Messenger of Allah said, "When he took me to the skies, Jibraeel (as) said: 'O Muhammad, Allah Almighty said: Amongst the women, I will forgive those who make Mutah twice.'" و بهذا الإسناد عن أحمد بن علي كذا عن الباقر (عليه السلام) قال : قال رسول الله (صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم) لما أسري بي إلى السماء لحقني جبرئيل فقال يا محمد إن الله عز و جل يقول إني قد غفرت للمتمتعين من النساء . And this attribution of Ahmed Bin Ali, as well as on-Baqir (peace be upon him) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) for my family to heaven to Hakni Gabriel said, O Muhammad, Allah Almighty says, "I have been forgiven for enjoying women. 15. 15. Imam Abu Abdullah (as) said: “There is no Mutah without two matters defined: time and named wage.” Imam Abu Abdullah (as) said: "There is no Mutah without two matters defined: time and named wage." و بالإسناد عن أحمد بن محمد بن عيسى رواه عن ابن محبوب عن جميل بن دراج عمن رواه عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) : قال لا يكون متعة إلا بأمرين أجل مسمى و أجر مسمى . And attribution from Ahmad bin Muhammad bin Isa narrated from Ibn Mahbub Jamil bin rider who narrated from Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him): "I do not have fun but two things indefinitely and pay indefinitely. . . Below are 43 narrations on the “Narrations About the Rewards for Doing Mutah”…all from the same book available on Al-Shia.com, the popular Shia website. Below are 43 narrations on the "Narrations About the Rewards for Doing Mutah" ... all from the same book available on Al-Shia.com, the popular Shia website. روايات في فضل المتعة 1- بسم اللّه الرحمن الرحيم 1- عن أبي القاسم جعفر بن محمد بن قولويه عن أبيه عن سعد بن عبد الله عن أحمد بن محمد بن عيسى عن ابن أبي عمير عن هشام بن سالم عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) قال : يستحب للرجل أن يتزوج المتعة و ما أحب للرجل منكم أن يخرج من الدنيا حتى يتزوج المتعة و لو مرة . 2- و بهذا الإسناد عن ابن عيسى المذكور عن بكر بن محمد عن الصادق (عليه السلام) حيث سئل عن المتعة فقال : أكره للرجل أن يخرج من الدنيا و قد بقيت خلة من خلال رسول الله (صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم) لم تقض . 3- و بالإسناد عن ابن عيسى عن ابن الحجاج عن العلاء عن محمد بن مسلم عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) أنه قال لي : تمتعت قلت لا قال لا تخرج من الدنيا حتى تحيي السنة . Accounts of the virtue of fun 1 - the name of Allah the Merciful 1 - Abu Qasim Ja'far ibn Muhammad ibn Qolouet from his father, from Sa'd bin Abdullah Ahmed bin Mohammed bin Isa Ibn Abi Amir Hisham bin Salim Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) said : is recommended for a man to marry the fun and what I love for a man of you to come out of this world until he gets a fun, even once. 2 - and this reference from Ibn Isa said that Bakr bin Muhammad al-Sadiq (peace be upon him) when he was asked for fun, he said: I hate for a man to come out of this world and have remained trait through the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) did not spend. 3 - and attribution from Ibn Isa Ibn pilgrims Ala Muhammad ibn Muslim from Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) that he said to me: enjoyed I said no he does not even come out of this world salutes the year. 4 - و بهذا الإسناد عن أحمد بن محمد عن ابن أشيم عن مروان بن مسلم عن إسماعيل بن الفضل الهاشمي قال : قال لي أبو عبد الله (عليه السلام) ، تمتعت منذ خرجت من أهلك ؟ 4 - and this cross from Ahmad ibn Muhammad Ibn Achim Marwan Ismail ibn Muslim ibn al-Fadl al-Hashemi said: "I said Abu Abd Allah (peace be upon him), have enjoyed since I came out of your family? قلت : لكثرة من معي من الطروقة أغناني الله عنها .قال : و إن كنت مستغنيا فإني أحب أن تحيي سنة رسول الله (صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم) . I said: to me from a multitude of Ductile Ognani by God. He said: And if you are able to do without, I would like to revive the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him). 5- و بالإسناد عن أحمد بن محمد بن خالد عن سعد بن سعد عن إسماعيل الجعفي قال قال أبو عبد الله (عليه السلام) : يا إسماعيل تمتعت العام ? 5 - and attribution of Ahmad bin Mohammed bin Khalid bin Saad Al Saad, Ismail Aljafee said: Abu Abd Allah (peace be upon him): "O Ismail enjoyed a year? قلت : نعم . I said: Yes. قال : لا أعني متعة الحج . He said: I do not mean fun pilgrimage. قلت : فما قال متعة النساء ? I said: What fun, said women? قال : قلت في جارية بربرية فارهة . He said: I said at the ongoing barbaric luxury. قال : قد قيل يا إسماعيل تمتع بما وجدت و لو سندية . He said: "O Ismail said the enjoyment of what it found and if Sendip. 6- و بهذا الإسناد أحمد بن محمد بن عيسى عن علي بن أبي حمزة البطائني عن أبي بصير قال : دخلت على أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) فقال : يا أبا محمد تمتعت منذ خرجت من أهلك بشي‏ء من النساء ? 6 - and this attribution Ahmed bin Mohammed bin Issa from Ali bin Abi Hamza Bataini from Abu Basir said: "I entered upon Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) said: O Abu Muhammad, has enjoyed since your family came out of Abeche, patching women? قال : لا . He said: no. قال : و لم ? He said: and why? قلت : ما معي من النفقة يقصر عن ذلك .قال : فأمر لي بدينار و قال أقسمت عليك إن صرت إلى منزلك حتى تفعل .قال : ففعلت . I said: What with me from spending limit for that. Said: "He ordered me a penny and he swore that you become to your home until you do. He said: I did. 7- و بهذا الإسناد عن أحمد بن محمد بن عيسى عن محمد بن الحسن عن محمد بن عبد الله عن صالح بن عقبة عن أبيه عن الباقر (عليه السلام) قال : قلت للتمتع ثواب ? 7 - and this cross from Ahmed bin Mohammed bin Isa from Muhammad ibn al-Hasan Muhammad ibn Abdullah Saleh bin obstacle from his father from al-Baqir (peace be upon him) said: I said to enjoy the reward? قال ، إن كان يريد بذلك الله عز و جل و خلافا لفلان ; لم يكلمها كلمة إلا كتب الله له حسنة و إذا دنا منها غفر الله له بذلك ذنبا فإذا اغتسل غفر الله له بعدد ما مر الماء على شعره قال قلت بعدد الشعر قال نعم بعدد الشعر Said, if he wants to do God Almighty and contrary to the person; did not speak to her word, but Allaah has good and if the DNA of which Allah will forgive him this sin if bathed forgive him as the number over the water on his hair I said, the number of hair said yes, the number of hair 8 - و بهذا الإسناد عن أحمد بن محمد بن الحسن عن موسى بن سعدان عن عبد الله بن القاسم عن عبد الله بن سنان عن الصادق (عليه السلام) قال : إن الله عز و جل حرم على شيعتنا المسكر من كل شراب و عوضهم عن ذلك المتعة 8 - and this cross from Ahmed bin Mohammed bin Musa bin al-Hasan from monkey Abdullah bin Qasim Abdullah bin Sinan from al-Sadiq (peace be upon him) said: Allah Almighty has forbidden the Ciatna intoxicants of all drink and have fun for Awwadhm 9- و بهذا الإسناد عن أحمد بن علي كذا عن الباقر (عليه السلام) قال : قال رسول الله (صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم) لما أسري بي إلى السماء لحقني جبرئيل فقال يا محمد إن الله عز و جل يقول إني قد غفرت للمتمتعين من النساء . 9 - and this attribution of Ahmed Bin Ali, as well as on-Baqir (peace be upon him) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) for my family to heaven to Hakni Gabriel said, O Muhammad, Allah Almighty says, "I have been forgiven for enjoying women . 10- و بهذا الإسناد عن أحمد بن محمد عن موسى بن علي بن محمد الهمداني عن رجل سماه عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) قال : ما من رجل تمتع ثم اغتسل إلا خلق الله من كل قطرة تقطر منه سبعين ملكا يستغفرون له إلى يوم القيامة و يلعنون متجنبها إلى أن تقوم الساعة و هذا قليل من كثير في هذا المعنى . 10 - and this cross from Ahmad bin Muhammad Musa bin Ali bin Mohammed Al Hamdani, a man called Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) said: "What a man, then bathed only enjoy God's creation of every drop of it towing seventy angels ask forgiveness for him until the Day of Resurrection Mottagnnbha and cursing that you and this time few of the many in this sense. 11- و بهذا الإسناد عن ابن قولويه عن محمد بن يعقوب عن محمد بن يحيى عن أحمد بن محمد عن علي بن الحكم عن بشر بن حمزة عن رجل من قريش قال : بعثت إلىّ ابنة عمه لي لها مال كثير : قد عرفت كثرة من يخطبني من الرجال و لم أزوجهم نفسي و ما بعثت إليك رغبة في الرجال غير أنه بلغني أن المتعة أحلها الله في كتابه و سنها رسول الله (صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم) في سنته فحرمها عمر فأحببت أن أطيع الله و رسوله و أعصي عمر فتزوجني متعة فقلت لها حتى أدخل على أبي جعفر (عليه السلام) فأستشيره فدخلت فاستشرته فقال افعل . 11 - and this attribution of'm Qolouet from Muhammad, son of Jacob from Muhammad bin Yahya, from Ahmad ibn Muhammad from Ali ibn al-Hakam ibn Hamza preached for a man from Quraish said: "sent to his cousin have a lot of money to me: I have known many of the men Iktabni and did not Ozojhm myself and what I sent you desire in men is that I have heard that fun Allaah has permitted in his book, and enacted the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) in the year of Vahramha age and I wanted to obey Allah and His Messenger and disobey age Wiczuginy fun I told them even enter the to Abu Jafar (peace be upon him) entered Vostchireh Fastcherth said to do. 12 - و بهذا الإسناد إلى ابن يعقوب عن علي بن إبراهيم عن أبيه عن ابن محبوب عن علي السائي قال : قلت لأبي الحسن (عليه السلام) إني كنت أتزوج المتعة فكرهتها و سئمتها و تشأمت بها فأعطيت الله عز و جل عهدا بين الركن و المقام و جعلت علي كذا نذرا و صياما أن لا أتزوجها ثم إن ذلك شق علي و ندمت على يميني و لم يكن بيدي من القوة ما أتزوج في العلانية . 12 - and this reference to the son of Jacob from Ali ibn Ibrahim from his father from Ibn Mahbub Ali Alsaii said: I said to Abu al-Hasan (peace be upon him) I was married fun Vltha and Simtha and Chomt it was given God the Almighty a covenant between the corner and place and Ali made the vow as well as fasting and not to marry her then that I regretted and the incision on my right and my hand was not strong enough to get married in public. قال فقال لي عاهدت الله أن لا تطيعه و الله لئن لم تطعه لتعصينه . He said to me, a promise to God that does not obey him and God, although not their claim to Tasinh. 13- و روى بإسناده إلى ابن قولويه عن علي بن حاتم عن أحمد بن إدريس عن أحمد بن محمد بن عيسى عن السري عن الحسن بن علي بن يقطين قال قال أبو الحسن موسى بن جعفر (عليه السلام) : أدنى ما يجزي من القول أن يقول أتزوجك متعة على كتاب الله و سنة نبيه (صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم) بكذا و كذا إلى كذا . 13 - and he narrated that al Qolouet to Ibn Ali ibn Hatim Ahmed bin Idris from Ahmad bin Muhammad bin Issa secret for Hasan bin Ali bin Pumpkin said: Abu al-Hasan Musa bin Jafar (peace be upon him): a minimum reward of what to say to say marry fun on the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Prophet (Allah bless him and his family) as well as to such and such and such. 14- و بالإسناد إلى أحمد بن محمد بن عيسى عن رجاله مرفوعا إلى الأئمة (عليه السلام) منهم محمد بن مسلم قال قال أبو عبد الله (عليه السلام) : لا بأس بتزويج البكر إذا رضيت من غير إذن أبيها . 14 - and attribution to Ahmed bin Mohammed bin Issa for his men is attributed to the Imams (peace be upon him) including Muhammad ibn Muslim said: Abu Abd Allah (peace be upon him): There is nothing wrong if she agrees to marry virgin without the permission of her father. و جميل بن دراج حيث سأل الصادق (عليه السلام) عن التمتع بالبكر قال لا بأس أن يتمتع بالبكر ما لم يفض إليها كراهية العيب على أهلها . And Jamil rider he asked al-Sadiq (peace be upon him) said to enjoy the oldest not quite have the oldest what did not lead to hatred of the defect on its people. 15- و بالإسناد عن أحمد بن محمد بن عيسى رواه عن ابن محبوب عن جميل بن دراج عمن رواه عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) : قال لا يكون متعة إلا بأمرين أجل مسمى و أجر مسمى . 15 - and attribution from Ahmad bin Muhammad bin Isa narrated from Ibn Mahbub Jamil bin rider who narrated from Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him): "I do not have fun but two things indefinitely and pay indefinitely. 16 - و عن محمد بن مسلم الثقفي عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) حيث سأله كم المهر في المتعة قال : ما تراضيا عليه إلى ما شاءا من الأجل 16 - and from Muhammad ibn Muslim Thaqafi from Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) where he was asked how much dowry in a fun, said: "What they both agree upon to Haoua of term 17- و عن محمد بن نعمان الأحول قال قلت لأبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) : ما أدنى ما يتزوج به المتمتع قال بكف من بر . 17 - and Muhammad bin Noman Ahwal I said to Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him): What is the minimum to get married he enjoys the palm of righteousness. 18- و عن هشام بن سالم عن الصادق (عليه السلام) عن الأدنى في المتعة قال : سواك يعض عليه . 18 - and from Hisham ibn Salim al-Sadiq (peace be upon him) for the lowest in the fun said: except you bite it. 19- و عن أبي بصير عن الصادق (عليه السلام) : في المتعة يجزيها الدرهم فما فوقه . 19 - and from Abu Basir al-Sadiq (peace be upon him): At the pleasure above are sufficient for DRAM. 20- و عن أبي بصير عنه (عليه السلام) : كف من طعام أو دقيق أو سويق أو تمر . 20 - Abu Basir and for him (peace be upon him): a palm of food or flour or Soiq or pass. 21- و عن ابن بكار عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) : في الرجل يلقى المرأة فيقول لها تزوجيني نفسك شهرا و لا يسمى الشهر بعينه ثم يمضي فبلغها بعد سنين فقال له شهره إن كان سماه فإن لم يكن سماه فلا سبيل له عليها . 21 - And Ibn Bakkar narrated that Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him): Women in a man who meets her says Marry yourself months and is not called a particular month, then goes Vbulgha years later he said to him if he called a month if he is not no way he called him on it. 22- و عن ابن قولويه عن علي بن حاتم عن أحمد بن إدريس عن ابن عيسى عن ابن محبوب عن محمد بن الفضل عن الحارث بن المغيرة أنه سأل أبا عبد الله (عليه السلام) : هل يجزي في المتعة رجل و امرأتان قال نعم و يجزيه رجل واحد و إنما ذاك لمكان البراءة و لئلا تقول في نفسها هو فجور . 22 - and all I'm Qolouet Ali ibn Hatim Ahmad ibn Idris Ibn Isa Ibn Mahbub from Muhammad ibn al-Fadl al-Harith bin invasive for that he asked Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him): Do you reward in a fun, man and two women said yes, and reward him with a man one, but rather that the place of innocence and, lest you say in itself is immoral. 23 - و بهذا الإسناد عن أحمد بن محمد بن عيسى عن علي بن الحكم و محسن عن أبان عن زرارة عن حمران عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) قال : قلت أتزوج المتعة بغير شهود قال لا إلا أن تكون مثلك . 23 - and this cross from Ahmed bin Mohammed bin Issa from Ali ibn al-Hakam and improved from Aban from Zurara for Hamran from Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) said: I said get married without witnesses said fun not only be like you. 24- و عن ابن قولويه عن أبيه عن سعد عن ابن عيسى عن محمد بن خالد عن القاسم بن عروة عن عبد الحميد عن محمد بن مسلم في المتعة قال : ليس من الأربع لأنها لا تطلق و لا ترث . 24 - Ibn Qolouet from his father from Ibn Saad Issa Mohammed bin Khalid al-Qasim ibn loop for Abdul Hamid Muhammad ibn Muslim in a fun, said: It is not the four she is not divorced and does not inherit. 25- و عن حماد بن عيسى قال سئل الصادق (عليه السلام) : عن المتعة هي من الأربعة قال لا و لا من السبعين 25 - and from Hammad bin Isa said he was asked al-Sadiq (peace be upon him): for fun is one of the four said no, and not from the seventy- 26- و عن أبي بصير أنه ذكر للصادق (عليه السلام) : المتعة هل هي من الأربع فقال تزوج منهن ألفا . 26 - and from Abu Basir said that Sadiq's (peace be upon him): Is it the pleasure of the four of them married, said Alpha. 27- و عن عمر بن أذينة قال قلت لأبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) و البزنطي عن أبي الحسن (عليه السلام) : أنها من الأربع 27 - and Umar ibn al-auricula I said to Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) and Albzenti from Abu al-Hasan (peace be upon him): it is one of the four 28- و عن محمد بن فضل عن أبي الحسن (عليه السلام) : في المرأة الحسناء الفاجرة هل يجوز للرجل أن يتمتع بها يوما أو أكثر قال إذا كانت مشهورة بالزناء فلا يتمتع بها و لا ينكحها . 28 - and that Muhammad ibn Fadl Abu al-Hasan (peace be upon him): In the beautiful women, promiscuous Is it permissible for a man to enjoy a day or more if he was famous Balzina not enjoy it and do not marry. 29- و عن الحسن بن جرير قال : سألت أبا عبد الله (عليه السلام) في المرأة تزنى عليها أ يتمتع بها قال أ رأيت ذلك قلت لا و لكنها ترمى به قال نعم يتمتع بها على أنك تغادر و تغلق بابك . 29 - and al-Hasan ibn Jarir said: I asked Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) in adultery by a woman enjoyed a said I saw it I said no, but they are thrown by said yes, enjoyed that you leave and lock the door. 30 - و عن الحسن أيضا عن الصادق (عليه السلام) : في المرأة الفاجرة هل يحل تزويجها قال نعم إذا هو اجتنبها حتى تنقضي عدتها باستبراء رحمها من ماء الفجور فله أن يتزوجها بعد أن يقف على توبتها . 30 - and also from al-Hasan al-Sadiq (peace be upon him): In women, promiscuous Is it permissible to marry her if he said yes Ajtenbha Bastbra until her womb from the water of debauchery, he can marry her after standing on her repentance. 31- و عن محمد بن مسلم عن أبي جعفر محمد بن علي (عليه السلام) : قال من شهر بالزناء أو أقيم عليه حد فلا تزوجه . 31 - Muhammad ibn Muslim from Abu Ja'far Muhammad ibn Ali (peace be upon him): He who Balzina month or held by the extent not marry him. 32- و عن أبان بن تغلب قال قلت لأبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) : الرجل يتزوج متعة إلى شهر فهل يجوز أن يزيدها في أجرها و يزداد في الأيام قبل أن يقضى أيامه فقال لا يجوز شرطان في شرط قلت و كيف يصنع قال يتصدق عليها بما بقي من الأيام ثم يستأنف شرطا جديدا 32 - and from Aban ibn beat I said to Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him): A man marries a fun-to-month is it permissible to increases in wages and increases in the days before he spends his days he may not be conditions in the condition I said and how to make said charity by including Left of days and then resumes a new condition 33- و عن عمر بن حنظلة عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) قال : أتزوج المرأة شهرا فتريد مني المهر كاملا و أتخوف أن تخلفني قال احبس ما قدرت فإن هي أخلفتك فخذ منها بقدر ما تخلفك 33 - and Umar ibn al-cartoonist from Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) said: "Women marry months she wants me to pony full and I fear that he withhold the Tkhalafni What is the estimated Okhalaftk thigh which as far as posterity 34- عن سماعة عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) قال : قلت له رجل إلى أن قال إنك لا تدخل فرجك في فرجي و تلذذ بما شئت قال ليس له منها إلا ما شرط . 34 - headset from Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) said: "I told him that the man said that you do not enter your chastity in vulval and zest not said what you want him to do only what condition. 35- و عن عيسى بن يزيد قال كتبت إلى أبي جعفر (عليه السلام) : في رجل تكون في منزله امرأة تخدمه فيكره النظر إليها فيتمتع بها و الشرط أن لا يفتضها فكتب لا بأس بالشرط إذا كانت متعة . 35 - and for Isa ibn Yazeed said I wrote to my father, Jafar (peace be upon him): In a man to be served by a woman at his home makrooh viewed pleasent and the condition is not Evtdha wrote there is nothing wrong if the condition was fun. 36 - و عن ابن أبي عمير عن بعض أصحابه عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) : قال لا بأس أن يتمتع بالمرأة على حكمه و لكن لا بد أن يعطيها شيئا لأنه إن حدث بها حدث لم يكن له ميراث . 36 - And Ibn Abi Amir for some of his companions Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him): "I do not quite have the women on his rule, but do not have to give something to them that if this happened was not his legacy. 37- و عن أبان بن تغلب عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) : في المرأة الحسناء ترى في الطريق و لا يعرف أن تكون ذات بعل أو عاهرة فقال ليس هذا عليك إنما عليك أن تصدقها في نفسها . 37 - and overcome from Aban ibn Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him): In the beautiful women you see on the road and not known to be a married or a prostitute, said this is not you but you have to believe in themselves. 38- و عن جعفر بن محمد بن عبيد الأشعري عن أبيه قال : سألت أبا الحسن (عليه السلام) عن تزويج المتعة و قلت أتهمها بأن لها زوجا يحل لي الدخول بها قال (عليه السلام) أ رأيتك إن سألتها البينة على أن ليس لها زوج تقدر على ذلك . 38 - and from Ja'far bin Mohammed bin Obaid al-Ash'ari that his father said: I asked Abu al-Hasan (peace be upon him) on the marriage of fun and I said that her husband accused her of not lawful for me to enter the said (peace be upon him) a saw that I asked her evidence that her husband is not estimated on it. 39- و عن سهل بن زياد عن محمد بن الحسن بن شمون قال : كتب أبو الحسن (عليه السلام) إلى بعض مواليه لا تلحوا في المتعة إنما عليكم إقامة السنة و لا تشتغلوا بها عن فرشكم و حلائلكم فيكفرن و يدعين على الآمرين لكم بذلك و يلعنونا . 39 - and from Sahl ibn Ziyad from Muhammad ibn al-Hasan ibn Hmon said: Books Abu al-Hasan (peace be upon him) to some disloyal not importune you in a fun, but a year and not for the _iglua Frckm and Hlailkm Vikvrn and claiming two things you do and Ilanon . 40- و عن علي بن يقطين عن أبي الحسن (عليه السلام) في المتعة قال : و ما أنت و ذاك قد أغنى الله عنها قلت إنما أردت أن أعلمها قال هي في كتاب علي (عليه السلام) . 40 - and Ali ibn Abi al-Hasan for Pumpkin (peace be upon him) in a fun, "said: and what you are and that the richest may Allah be pleased but I said I wanted to teach her is said in the book of Ali (peace be upon him). 41- و عن الفضل أنه سمع أبا عبد الله (عليه السلام) : يقول في المتعة و نحوها أ ما يستحي أحدكم أن يرى في موضع العورة فيدخل بذلك على صالح إخوانه و أصحابه . 41 - and all the credit that he heard Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him): he says in a fun and so embarrassed by what one of you in a position to see the private parts so intrinsic to the benefit of his brothers and his companions. 42 - و عن سهل بن زياد عن عدة من أصحابنا أن أبا عبد الله (عليه السلام) قال لأصحابه : هبوا لي المتعة في الحرمين و ذلك أنكم تكثرون الدخول علي فلا آمن من أن تؤخذوا فيقال هؤلاء من أصحاب جعفر (عليه السلام) .قال جماعة من أصحابنا رضي الله عنهم العلة في نهي أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) عنها في الحرمين : أن أبان بن تغلب كان أحد رجال أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) و المروي عنهم فتزوج امرأة بمكة و كان كثير المال فخدعته المرأة حتى أدخلته صندوقا لها ثم بعثت إلى الحمالين فحملوه إلى باب الصفا ثم قالوا يا أبان هذا باب الصفا و إنا نريد أن ننادي عليك هذا أبان بن تغلب أراد أن يفجر بامرأة فافتدى نفسه بعشرة آلاف درهم فبلغ ذلك أبا عبد الله (عليه السلام) فقال لهم و هبوها لي في الحرمين . 42 - and from Sahl ibn Ziyad from several of our companions said that Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) said to his companions: endowed me comfort in the Holy and that you are Tktheron access to not secure the Twkzu said to those of the owners of Jafar (peace be upon him). Said group of our companions, may Allah be pleased with them reason for the prohibition of Abu Abd Allah (peace be upon him) than in the Holy: The Aban bin overcome was one of the men of Abu Abd Allah (peace be upon him) and irrigated them married a woman in Mecca and had many women Fajdath money until you entered, and then fund written to the porters carried him to the door of Safa and then said, "O Aban this section Safa and surely you want to call this showed bin around a woman who wanted to blow himself Vavcdy ten thousand dirhams, bringing that Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) said to them, and me in the Holy Hboha. 43- و روى أصحابنا عن غير واحد عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) أنه قال لإسماعيل الجعفي و عمار الساباطي : حرمت عليكما المتعة من قبلي ما دمتما تدخلان علي و ذلك لأني أخاف تؤخذا فتضربا و تشهرا فيقال هؤلاء أصحاب جعفر . 43 - Roy and our companions for more than one from Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) that he said to Ammar and Ismail Aljafee Alsabati: both of you denied me the pleasure of what Dmtma coming on and because I am afraid Twkma Vtdharba Tchehra and said to those owners of Jafar.
  7. Asalamualikum brothers and sisters,, I am new to this forum and would like to ask a question which I have been researching but can't find a conclusive answer to, I am hoping someone here can help me understand or clarify my query. I am recently engaged and Insha'Allah will be married soon, I was talking to my fiancé on the telephone and we started discussing the authority of a husband over his wife which includes who can and can not enter the home. I understand the concept and the wisdom behind the authority of the husband. As he is accountable for his household and will have to answer for it, he is given that authority. But my question is, my fiancé doesn't approve of many of my friends. He doesn't approve that they are non-practicing Muslims and is worried that it MAY influence me one day in the future or that it MAY influence our future children. So he is telling me that if my friends do not change by the time we get married, I will have to seize my relationship with them. This upsets me as all of my friends have been with me since childhood, so for over 20 years we have had a strong friendship and I do not understand why he is asking this of me. Is he able to give this verdict? I mean, they may not be practicing Muslims but I am, and in the 20+ years we've been friends, they have done nothing but respect and support my decision to practice..Can he really ask this of me? I mean, he has friends that are very bad influences on him and he has, as a result of his friends, made terrible mistakes which I have forgiven. But when I ask him to at the very least distance himself (as in, not hang out alone with his bad influential friends rather socialise with them in a group) he gets angry and tells me I have no right to ask or expect this of him. Can I ask him to stop associating himself with his friends whom have proven themselves to be a bad influence? What rights do I have in this specific regard over my husband according to Islam and the Hadith of the Prophet (sws) ? Please help. Thank you in advance May Allah bless you All.
  8. Fiqh of Love - Marriage and Family in Islam For the first time in Birmingham (and worldwide live online) .... An amazing seminar on love, marriage, intimacy, family and children in Islam by one of the foremost scholars and thinkers of the Western world today. “And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” - The Qur’an "They are Your Garments and You are Their Garments" - The Qur'an "Marriage is Half of Your Religion..." - Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) “Marriage is my Sunnah. He who shuns my Sunnah is not of me” - Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) FIQH OF LOVE Marriage & Family in Islam Guidance for Healthy Partnership & Happy Family By Shaykh Dr Mohammad Akram Nadwi (Oxford) Venue: Muath Trust, Bordesley Centre, Birmingham Date: Saturday 13th April 2013 Time: 9:30AM - 6:00PM Registration: http://courses.meoc.org.uk Early Bird Discount: 40% Student Discount and 20% General Discount Topics covered include: • Understanding the aims and benefits of marriage • How to find a suitable partner? • How to get married? • The marriage contract • The marriage ceremony • What is love and how to develop it? • Rights and responsibilities of spouses • Resolving differences and disputes • Managing expectations • Relations with extended family • Caring for each other • Caring for children • The best examples to follow • What if things don’t work out? • Question & Answers Testimonials "Jazak'Allah khair for a fabulous seminar. I truly enjoyed it and it was very much worth the trek from London to Cambridge" - Antti Kangaslahti, London "The Fiqh of Love was the most amazing Islamic seminar I have ever attended. I have told all my friends and family about Sheikh Nadwi and his inspiring talk. All in all, I want to say that everything was brilliant. The food arrangements, prayer arrangements, book stall...everything. Thank you so much for making it a possibility" - Anosha Saleem, LLM Student, Cambridge University "The sheikh explained with such elegant simplicity the duties and rights of wife and husband, and even of children. The fact that he stressed the Islamic responsibilities helped cast away many of the cultural shackles that often imprison Muslims in less than pleasant marriages. If everyone took this course before they got married, they would truly appreciate their spouses all the greater, and they would be better Muslims for doing so, raising stronger families. This would then reflect itself in the state of our Ummah. I also enjoyed the wisdom with which he regarded divorce. A solution provided by Allah, so that no one becomes an oppressor....MashaAllah, beautiful!" - Sarah Elgazzar, Cambridge "The course was simply amazing, it was a lot of information to take in but was definitely worthwhile. As for Dr Mohammed Akram Nadwi, words cannot serve justice for explaining how humble yet knowledgeable he is. Alhamdulillah I went with my whole family and intend to attend all of his future courses InshaAllah" - Rahee Ahmed, Law Student, Kent University "The sincerity and piety of sheikh Akram Nadawi was a great source of inspiration for me. His great knowledge was beautifully expressed masha' Allah in a very simple way that touches everyone in the audience regardless of their marital status. I came along with a friend who is a new Muslim not intending to attend all sessions, but we ended up there all day. The emphasis on the importance of the family, how simple are Islamic rules, the distinction between our cultural heritage and the true message of Islam and his openness to answer all audience questions, in my opinion were the reasons behind the great success of the session yesterday. It was a great honour for me to attend yesterday's session and I thank Allah for giving me the unique chance to attend a session by a great a scholar to guide me through out my marriage-life." - Mona ElQazzaz, PhD Student, Cambridge University This is an unmissable seminar for those married and those yet to get married - both old and young (including teenagers). Limited places available. Book your place today. http://courses.meoc.org.uk/ Cambridge Islamic Sciences Seminars - Birmingham Muslim Education & Outreach Cambridge (MEOC)
  9. What Would The Prophet (saw) Do? The home is your place of rest, your rose garden indoors, your glimpse of Jannah, your source of peace – or so, it is supposed to be. Today, behind closed doors it has become everything of the opposite. A war zone, a torture chamber, a place of melancholy and unrest; spouses have become each other’s worst enemies standing against one another, when there may have been a time, where they were standing close by each other, for each other. As did Khadija (ra) and Muhammad (saw). The woman whom he loved like no other, and the man whom she devoted her life to. But what was it about the pair of them that allowed mutual respect, love, and trust to only stay and grow? Come and find out in this educational webinar with Sheikh Yaser Birjas and Sheikh Abdul Nasir Jangda, which endeavours to give a clear insight into the how to maintain a healthy home, the prophet’s (saw) way of life, how he treated his spouses and how he never would. Location: nour-dv.org.uk Date: Thursday 21st March 2013 Time: 7pm Speakers Sheikh Yaser Birjas Sheikh Abdul Nasir Jangda Topics The prophetic ways of treating your spouse How to maintain a healthy home Q&A Session Part of Domestic Violence Awareness Week 2013 http://nour-dv.org.uk/DVAW2013 Register Now http://romancevsviolence.eventbrite.com
  10. UCLU Islamic Society presents Engagement before Encagement Marriage - n. completion of half the Deen, the union of two souls in the sight of Allah SWT, and an amazing journey to lifelong fulfilment in Deen and Dunya. ‘And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves partners that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for those who reflect.’ (Surah Ar-Rum, Ayah 21) In Islam, the married husband and wife complete each other - together they make a single self and this is how they must strive to make their lives together and please Allah SWT. It is often said that "marriages are celebrated on earth but settled in heaven" - but in this day and age, with so many different messages from the media, and movies or from families and friends, the topic of marriage can be confusing. When will I find my spouse? How will I find my husband/wife? For married couples who have already found each other, perhaps all is not as they first expected. Why isn't my life that fairytale romance? Why this...why that? To answer these questions and learn more about finding true happiness in marriage, join UCL ISoc for a two-day weekend course exploring marriage in Islam. Renowned Al-Maghrib instructor, Sheikh Dr. Reda Bedeir will cover the fiqh of marriage, gender relations, how to find a spouse, as well as how to live and work through the challenges marriage may bring. Be enlightened in this invaluable weekend course that will educate, inspire and give you greater understanding of how to approach marriage and how to find the right person, so you can, together, please Allah SWT in this life and the hereafter. Speaker: Shaykh Reda Bedeir Time: 9am to 6pm Date: Saturday & Sunday 23rd and 24th February 2013 Venue: Cruciform LT1, UCL Price: £30 Students (Earlybird 20% discount - £24)- you will need to provide student ID on the day of the event £50 General (Earlybird 20% discount - £40) Tickets can be bought here, early bird discount will be applied till 31st Jan 2013 inshallah http://eventsbot.com...nts/eb184460806 Course materials will be provided Any questions please pm our inbox or email mail[at]uclisoc.com Trailer: Trailer:
  11. As-salamu alaykum, My name is Aisha, and i am a muslim. My mother is a white convert, and my father is a british indian. I have always had a mixed identity, and although both my parents are practicing muslims, having many non-muslim family members (from my mothers side), has always made it very difficult for me to be as practicing as i know i should be. My parents have always encouraged me, especially my father, to practice Islam, but i've always pushed religion to one side- always knowing the importance of religion but not fearing god enough to do anything about it. I am currently at university, and have just started my second year. Towards the end of my first year, I met a lovely muslim boy who studies on the same course as me. Although he is far from perfect, i feel that he is a good person and has Islam in his heart. He suffered a great deal of guilt and regret about the relationship we shared (and although i could fully understand why, i just couldn't bring myself to feel the same way- i was totally blinded by the euphoria of love). over the course of about 4 months we grew very close, and i know perfectly well this should never have happened- but it did. love is a powerful thing and can blind the heart and soul. Recently he told me he could never see a future with me, he's reasons being that he wanted to find a wife who was a practicing muslim, and that he believed we weren't right for each other. (although i have faith in my heart, i am not practicing at all, something i am very ashamed of). After he said this to me, i felt the strong desire to become more practicing, in the hope that he would change he's mind about me. I cant help but feel that this is entirely wrong, and i am changing for the wrong reasons. how can i purify my intentions? i'm in a constant battle with myself and its killing me. I have been praying to god to purify my intentions, to take away the heart ache- which is leading me to want to change myself to win him back, rather than for the sake of Allah. any advice would be much appreciated.
  12. Time For Marriage

    Time for Marrage? Salam Alaykoum, I dont view myself as a great writer. And honestly dont post or chat much. So I suppose i will start by briefly introducing myself. I am ****, a 30 year old single male (emphesis on single). I am a computer technician for a Cyber Cafe in **** Morocco, we have 10 computers and are in process of expanding to 16. I repair, maintain and format computers for a vast quantity of people. I would say I format about 10 to 15 computers a month and repair an equal amount. Do network installations and house calls for computer service and ADSL modem installations. And I provide other services... Is a good job and I am happy to be business partners with the people that I am with. I speak, read and Write english. I read French well. I speak simple arabic, still learning. But on the other side of this coin. I am 30 years old. And single. All my brothers and sisters have married and have there families and children. For me being single has become a problem. I will do my best to say it in a mannor readable to all audiances (male and female) and if at all possible add some humor. I am lonely. My heart yerns for a companion. For a wife to hold, to love and have close to me. To be intimate.... (Pause and Fastforward, skipping the sceenes that are for the husband and wife) ;-) These feelings become overwhelming. It is not just in my head. It is my whole body, Mind, Heart, Soul. It is all of me. Not just parts of me! (wink, wink) So why am I writing this. Simple answer. Hoping and praying and asking Allah for... Well. A Wife. Not someone elses wife. But my very own wife. A wife that is a good muslim. With a good heart and is loving and honest and caring and sometimes a little noty, well maby a little more than sometimes. A wife who loves me for who I am and loves me simply and honestly. In good times and bad. And it is Ramadan. I pray the early morning and night Taraweeh prayers. I pray and ask Allah to help with all things. To bless my parents with good place in Jennah. Allah knows how much I love them and miss them. To forgive me and help me and save me. To bless Mohammed (PBUH) and all the messengers. To help all of us Muslims and save us. And for Allah to bless me with a good wife and children. And much more...
  13. By Samana Siddiqui Muslim conferences and conventions (like the one being held by the Islamic Society of North America & Muslim American Society, Imam W. D. Mohammad) are just one of the many places Muslims in North America often meet potential spouses either to make a final decision or to initiate the marriage communication process. Other places include fundraising dinners, regional seminars, lectures, at the home of a relative or friend, and the local Masjid. Sadly though, Islamic guidelines pertaining to proper conduct between men and women are not always respected at these meetings. It is not uncommon to see or hear about potential candidates meeting in private, brothers and sisters “scoping the territory” for a spouse that looks good at Muslim events like conferences or lectures, or starting up a flirtatious conversation with someone they are interested in. None of these things fall within the guidelines of Islam. Below are some Islamic principles, both general and specific, to consider if you will be meeting or seeking a potential spouse for yourself or someone else at a conference, lecture, the Masjid or another event:
  14. Question Regarding Marital Rape Shazia Ahmad | November 11, 2010 1:02 am Question: Is marital rape allowed in Islam? Answer: As salaamu alaykum, Thank you for asking this important question which has come to the fore in recent times, and which has been the cause of confusion for many people. Here are some important points to take into consideration when learning about this issue: It is absolutely haram (unlawful) for a man to harm his wife. The Prophet ﷺ prohibited harming others in general,1 and intensified that prohibition for harming other believers.2 If one is taught to hold ordinary people – with whom one shares no special relationship – in such sanctity, then what of the person one is linked to in the “weighty, serious bond” of marriage (Qur’an 4:21); who is one’s “garment” (2:187), and who lives under one’s ri’aaya, care and shepherdship, as mentioned in a prophetic tradition?3 Allah has described marriage as a relationship of kindness, mercy and love (30:21), and commands men to deal with their wives in an honorable way (4:19). Rape, abuse, ill treatment, and inflicting harm – be it physical, verbal or psychological – are completely unacceptable in such a relationship. It is true that the contract of marriage grants a husband the right to intimacy with his wife, and vice versa, however, this does not imply that one can seek to obtain this right violently or forcefully. Just as in any situation in which one has been deprived of one’s due rights, one must go through the proper channels to resolve the matter in a just and honorable way. At no time does it become permissible for someone to take it upon themselves to harm the other party in a misguided attempt to ‘take their right’. This would amount to a type of vigilantism or seeking of personal vengeance that has no place in Islamic tradition, in which we are taught to defer such disputes to those with religious and legal authority. This is clearly indicated in the words of the great scholar Taqi al-Din al-Subki, in his commentary on some verses of the Qur’an related to marriage: “At the time when it becomes obligatory for a husband to provide financial support, clothing, (and other such provisions) for his wife, he should exert himself in doing so, and not be negligent in this duty such that his wife would have to file a complaint of his negligence with the judge [haakim], and in so doing spend from her own expenditures. …Similarly, a wife should be responsive to her husband’s request for intimacy, such that he would not need to bring a complaint (against her) to the judge, and in so doing spend from his own expenditures.”4 From these statements we see that a husband’s or wife’s proper recourse, when confronted with a marital issue they are unable to resolve, is to turn to the appropriate authority for guidance and direction. Violence or force of any kind is not an option. People often defend such behavior by citing prophetic traditions that strongly discourage women from refusing their husbands if they approach them for intimacy. While these texts underscore the importance of a wife fulfilling her spouse’s sexual needs (a reminder the Prophet ﷺ gave to men in a number of statements as well,5) they cannot be used to justify force. One such text goes on to describe the husband as one who, after being refused, “goes to bed angry.”6 If it were truly acceptable for a man to force himself on his wife, why wasn’t such an act mentioned here as a viable alternative to his wife’s refusal? Some people also seek to confuse this issue by citing the verses in the Qur’an that outline a disciplinary method of dealing with a wife who is nashiz.7 8 These verses are probably among the most misunderstood, misused and misapplied of the Qur’an in our times, and must be understood in their proper exegetical context. Since an in-depth explanation of these verses is beyond the scope of this article, it will be sufficient to state that darb - which is often translated as ‘to strike lightly or tap’ – has been strictly defined by our scholars and has numerous restrictions and conditions.9 From among them is that it is done in a manner that would not cause humiliation or harm to the person, and that it is only done when it is a means of helping reconcile between the spouses, and is not a cause of resentment, enmity or hatred between them.10 It is impossible for such verses – whether looked at lexically, exegetically, or otherwise – to be used to excuse violent or forced sexual relations with one’s wife. Dr. Jamal Badawi succinctly rejects these types of false claims by stating, “Any excess, cruelty, family violence, or abuse committed by any Muslim can never be traced, honestly, to any revelatory text (Qur’an or hadith). Such excesses and violations are to be blamed on the person(s) himself, as it shows that they are paying lip service to Islamic teachings and injunctions and failing to follow the true Sunnah of the Prophet.”11 Though marital rape would not warrant a hadd punishment12 in accordance to Shari`ah, this in no way means that such an act is acceptable or that it would go unpunished by an Islamic court. Some people mistakenly believe that the hadd punishments are the only ones that exist in Islamic law, but that is not the case. Even if an act does not fall into one of the specified categories for hadd punishment, a qadi [judge] still has the right to punish the person with imprisonment, corporal punishment (lashing), or anything else he deems suitable for the situation, the crime committed and the guilty individual (which is called zajr or ta’zeer).13 Some scholars even state that a wife who has been assaulted in such a manner by her spouse has the right to jirah, or civil redress, for her injuries.14 Some scholars condemn such an assault as sinful and despicable while at the same time deeming it inappropriate to be labeled as ‘rape’. This is because of the presumption of consent implicit in the legal contract of marriage. It is important to note that such statements are not intended to condone the behavior, but are simply an expression of legal exactness. When taking such a case into consideration, scholars would not base a punishment on the sexual act itself, but on the harms, both psychological and physical, that stem from it. Such an assault – however it is labeled – is still considered by scholars to be unacceptable, sinful, and susceptible to punishment. If a man finds his wife unreceptive to his overtures of intimacy, he should put in some effort to be attentive, affectionate, and kind to his wife, and to fulfill the numerous recommendations the Prophet ﷺ made in regards to intimacy. Such problems may also be symptomatic of deeper issues in the relationship that need to be resolved. One should always take an introspective, constructive, and proactive approach to dealing with problems, focusing first on how one can change one’s own behavior to improve the situation, instead of simply blaming the other party or seeking to ‘punish’. It may also be necessary to seek counseling and advice from others who have expertise in these matters. An individual who engages in assault and abuse of any kind, especially towards family members, shows signs of underlying psychological problems that need to be treated. There is no level of frustration, anger, or overwhelming grievances – no matter how legitimate they may seem – that pardons such dehumanizing and callous behavior. I hope these points have shed some light on this issue, and have made it clear that marital rape is not allowed or condoned by our deen, and is in fact a sinful act that a person can be held accountable for in this life, before the hereafter. In the very first verse in the chapter of the Qur’an entitled “Women”, Allah Most High warns us to be fearful of Him in demanding our rights upon each other. He in fact warns us to be fearful of Him twice in this verse, a sign of the seriousness with which we should take such matters: “O mankind, fear your Lord, who created you from a single soul and created from it its mate, and dispersed from both of them countless men and women. And fear Allah, through whom you demand your mutual rights, and (reverence) the wombs that bore you: Indeed Allah is ever, over you, an Observer.” (Qur’an, 4:1) In conclusion, the Prophet ﷺ taught, “Only a noble man treats women in an honorable manner and only an ignoble man of low character treats women disgracefully.”15 May Allah make us people of noble character, who fear God in our dealings with others and who weigh our deeds and words well before they are weighed for us on the Day of Judgment. Allah knows best. “There should be neither harming nor reciprocating harm.” This hadith can be found in An-Nawawi’s Forty Hadith. ↩ “The whole of a Muslim for another Muslim is inviolable: his blood, his property, and his honor.” In Sahih Muslim, narrated by Abu Hurayra. It can also be found in An-Nawawi’s Forty Hadith ↩ “A man is a shepherd in his family and is responsible for those in his care.” Part of a longer hadith in Sahih al-Bukhari, 2419. ↩ Al Majmu’ Sharh al-Muhadhab, Vol. 16, pp. 414-415, Dar al-Fikr Publishers. ↩ For example, when Abdullah ibn ‘Amr ibn al-Aas desired to stand in prayer for the entire night, the Prophet ﷺ reminded him, “Your body has a right over you and your wife has a right over you.” (Sahih al-Bukhari) He ﷺ also encouraged certain etiquettes and manners in intimacy that would bring satisfaction to the woman in a number of texts. ↩ Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim. ↩ Nushuz is commonly translated as rebellion, ill conduct, or arrogance in a way that jeopardizes the well-being of the marriage. Men can also be guilty of nushuz (See (Quran, 4:128). ↩ (Quran, 4:34-35) ↩ These conditions are detailed in many books of tafsir. For example, see Tafsir al-Qurtubi, Vol. 5, pp.172-173, Dar al-Kutub al-Masriyya, 2nd Edition. ↩ Reliance of the Traveler, p.542 ↩ (http://www.jannah.org/sisters/end.html) ↩ Specified punishments outlined in the Quran for certain criminal acts. ↩ See the chapter on Hudud in any book of fiqh for more information on the concept of zajr and ta’zeer. ↩ From an excellent article entitled, “Rape & Incest: An Islamic Perspective”, found (here). ↩ Sunan at-Tirmidhi. ↩ Source: Suhaibwebb
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