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Female vs Woman, Male vs Man A Female vs. A Woman In the early days, kings, princes and men of status, when they used to choose a wife or even buy a slave girl, beauty was not the only factor. Her knowledge, ability to communicate and convince, her awareness of the history and the surroundings, her skills in medicine, were all taken into account, not just her beauty and femininity. When you study in the history of mankind, some of the best leaders used to seek support and consultation from their own women. Everyone knows the saying; behind every great man is a great woman. Today, we find out that the opposite is true. Where does this come from? Historians in the early days used to say, if you want to know the power and strength and the future of any nation, see the condition of their own women. There is a big difference between a female, a girl and a woman. A female is the biological terminology for the female of the species. A girl is a young female, who does not know what she wants in life. What then, is a woman or a lady? She is a female with a good character, a serious goal and responsibility, and who lives her life to fulfil her goal. According to the Qur'an, the title of a woman denotes someone who carries the message of Allah, with full responsibility, with the willingness to devote and sacrifice her life for the message. The example in chapter 66, verses 10- 12 speaks for itself: Allah presents an example of those who disbelieved: the wife of Noah and the wife of Lot. They were under two of Our righteous servants but betrayed them, so those prophets did not avail them from Allah at all, and it was said, "Enter the Fire with those who enter." And Allah presents an example of those who believed: the wife of Pharaoh, when she said, "My Lord, build for me near You a house in Paradise and save me from Pharaoh and his deeds and save me from the wrongdoing people." And [the example of] Maryam [Mary], the daughter of 'Imran, who guarded her chastity, so We blew into [her garment] through Our angel, and she believed in the words of her Lord and His scriptures and was of the devoutly obedient. The Qur’an gives us a spectrum of examples, starting with women who married the greatest of men but still had the highest level of disobedience, such as the wives of Nuh AS and Lut AS. On the other hand, Allah honours the wife of the Pharaoh by calling her a woman, for standing up against her husband, one of the worst tyrants in mankind, and standing firm for sabeelillah, the message and the belief, even when it led to her brutal torture and death. Further, the Qur’an shows that the ultimate journey in life, to obtain Allah’s pleasure, can be done without a husband, as was demonstrated by Maryam AS. The Qur’an shows us the example of what being a true woman means. Today, we are at the end of time. The ummah and mankind have developed a lot of diseases from colonialism, media brainwashing and propaganda, which promotes the female to be an airhead, competing in material status and chasing flashy lifestyles - but losing herself, her principles, belief and integrity in the process. The woman has been conditioned to become weak, vulnerable and easily manipulated, for a bigger goal, which is to weaken the nation. In the early days, people used to say that teaching one woman is like teaching a nation. This is because of the role of women as the role models and educators of their children and the next generation. If we do the opposite and ignore the potential and role of the woman, we can destroy a nation, because any nation, and the future of any nation, is measured by the strength and the character of its own women. A Male vs. A Man Similar to women, when a man is not a man (as in he does not have the values, goals and aim in this life), he is just a biological male: hollow, vulnerable, weak, insecure, egotistical and empty. What drives him? He would want to play the role of a man, but he does not have the qualities of one. The only way to give him assurance and to make him feel satisfied with his own character and superiority, is if he finds an equally hollow person to reinforce his own fantasy of manhood and being the one in control. The man is supposed to be the developer and the maker of his own woman, not the breaker of his own woman. If he is empty inside and has nothing to give – in terms of values, character, guidance – it is easier for him to look for someone who is even more hollow than he is as his life partner. If he finds someone who possesses greater strength of character than he does, he will end up breaking her. However, the woman is also partly responsible. It is a vicious cycle: she wants a material life, wealth and companionship, regardless of his manner, character and soul. If she does not develop her own qualities and character, and is content remaining airheaded and superficial, this is the kind of man who will be drawn to her. Continue reading here: http://muslimfootsteps.com/?q=a-woman-of-substance-or-a-bimbo/page/0/1
Salaam alaikum to the Muslim members of Gawaher.com I have a few question: Why do some people seem more shy and aloof than others? What makes them shy and uncofident? SubhanAllah. I have a sister-in-law who I believe wasn't supposed to be my sis in law because my brother was supposed to marry another Muslim girl whose mom promised when we were kids that she (the Muslim girl) and my bro get married to each other in the future... but some things changed, so my bro had to marry our first cousin. This cousin of mine I think has to be the most shyest person I've ever met in my life. Even to say yes, she just says 'mm' and when saying 'no' she just shakes her head. And the funny thing is, she's one year older than me and seems to be a bit immature. She's a sister in law whom I can never do any activities with or even start a communication with. If you ask her a question, most of the time she'll give a brief answer and not bother asking back. She seems very very unfriendly, and because of that I've decided that she is a sis in law whom I can never be friends with. There is a Hadith that goes something like "There is no good in a person who is unfriendly and whom others treat in an unfriendly way" or "There is no good in a person who has no kindness" something like that. A Muslim is supposed to be friendly, approachable and cheerful. This sister in law and cousin of mine has no qualities of friendliness in my opinion. Yes I've been told many times that she is by nature very shy. But what I can't understand is why she is that way. What makes people shy? Maybe it's because I'm a 'niqaabi' and she feels intimidated by my being more 'righteous' than her? Maybe it's because she's jealous of me for some reasons that only Allah knows? May Allah reward whoever tries to answer the above questions. Ameen :) Wasalaam
iMusliMariam posted a topic in All-in-one ForumADVICE: The Best Of The Believers Are Those With The Best Personality 'Abdullah ibn 'Amr, may Allah be pleased with him, heard the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam say: "Shall I tell you who is dearest to me and nearest to me on the Day of Judgment?" He repeated this twice or thrice, and they replied: "yes, tell us, o' Messenger of Allah." And the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied: "the best of character amongst you." (Narrated by Ahmad) 'Aishah, May Allah be pleased with her, narrated that she heard the Messenger of Allah (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) say: "The one who has the most perfect faith (among the believers) is one with the highest character and is kindest to his/her family." (Narrated by Tirmidhi) To (God) Allah, the best of all Muslims are those who, not only try their best in performing all acts of worship for the sake of Allah but also, maintain the best (manners) character. Abu Hurairah, May Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Messenger of Allah (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said: "you cannot encompass the people with your money, but you can encompass them with a friendly face and high character." (Narrated by Bazzar) As long as I'm a Muslim while these are disbelievers I know that to God -than them I will always be better Even if you have this, have that, or did this and did that As long as you're rude and insecure, while I'm kind and nice, To God and His Angels, than you I know I am better Abi Sa'id Al-Khudry, May Allah be pleased with him,has quoted a saying by the Prophet (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) as follows: "Two attributes cannot be found in a man of faith: miserliness and a a bad character."(Narrated by Bukhari) A man or woman, girl or boy, whose character is bad and seldom likes to share even the simplest things he/she has so much of, may not be a true Muslim until he/she, for Allah's sake, develops good Islamic character. Abu Ad-Darraa, May Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Messenger of Allah (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said: "There is nothing of greater weight in the scales of the believer (Muslim) on the Day of Judgment than high character. God (Allah) hates the profligate and the insolent/bad mannered." (Narrated by Tirmidhi) Some examples of good character: ~ Being friendly and approachable ~ Having a sincere smile on one's face ~ Shaking hands when first meeting a fellow Muslim ~ Frequently saying salaam to Muslims and always responding to their salaams ~ Asking questions in a nice way and always thanking someone for their favors ~ Always willing to help out in only what is good and give honest advice ~ Always willing to share what can be shared ~ Always fair and just, making sure that every one of your friends have what they need/deserve ~ Apologizing to those whom you have intentionally or unintentionally wronged or at least praying for them ~ Enjoining good deeds and forbidding evil deeds, and practicing what you yourself preach ~ Being respectful and obedient, as much as possible, to your parents. etc. God (Allah) said in the Glorious Qur'an: "Bad statements are for bad people (or bad women for bad men) and bad people for bad statements (or bad men for bad women). Good statements are for good people (or good women for good men) and good people for good statements (or good men for good women), such (good people) are innocent of (each and every) bad statement which they say, for them is Forgiveness, and Rizqun Karim (i.e.Paradise)." (Surat An-Noor/The Light) Allah knows best. People of good morals/good character cannot get along with people of bad character Bad Character: * Telling someone to do something bad to someone, * Encouraging evil deeds, * Not willing to share, * Taking something from someone without its owner's permission, * Spying or being nosy about that which does not concern you (e.g. reading someone's diary* or listening to a conversation that you have no right to interfere), * Laughing at someone who makes a mistake or name-calling someone in a childish immature way etc. Wasalaam