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Allah Has Written Some Unchangeable Things For Us

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:D Assalam Alaikum

 

 

 

Please, clarify my doubts.. I received one email saying like this (Below):

 

 

 

"...Allah has written some unchangeable things for us ( Day of Birth, Day of Death and the person to whom he/she will get married to). Its of no use to curse anyone or yourself about taking the decision of marrying..."

 

 

 

Please, specify any comments or answers based on Quran & Sunnah.. Especially Married part here... So I can reply back to this person with proofs!!

 

 

 

Jazaak Allah Khair

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Alsalamu Alaikom,

I posted several aspects to your question as follows:

 

Praise be to Allaah.

 

Belief in al-qadar (the divine will and decree) is one of the pillars of faith, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, when he answered Jibreel’s question about faith: “(It means) believing in Allaah, His angels, His Books, His Messengers and the Last Day, and to believe in al-qadar (the divine decree) both good and bad.â€

 

What is meant by al-qadar is that Allaah has decreed all things from eternity and knows that they will happen at times that are known to Him, and in specific ways, and that He has written that and willed it, and they happen according to what He has decreed. [al-Qada’ wa’l-Qadar by Dr ‘Abd al-Rahmaan al-Mahmoud, p. 39].

 

Belief in al-qadar is based on four things:

 

1 – Knowledge, i.e., that Allaah knows what His creation will do, by virtue of His eternal knowledge.

 

2 – Writing, i.e., that Allaah has written the destiny of all creatures in al-Lawh al-Mahfooz.

 

3 – Will, i.e., that what Allaah wills happens and what He does not will does not happen. There is no movement in the heavens or on earth but it happens by His will.

 

4 – Creation and formation, i.e., that Allaah is the Creator of all things, including the actions of His slaves. They do their actions in a real sense, and He is the Creator of them and of their actions.

 

Whoever believes in these four believes in al-qadar.

 

The Qur’aan affirms these things in numerous verses, such as the verses in which He says (interpretation of the meaning):

 

“And with Him are the keys of the Ghayb (all that is hidden), none knows them but He. And He knows whatever there is in the land and in the sea; not a leaf falls, but He knows it. There is not a grain in the darkness of the earth nor anything fresh or dry, but is written in a Clear Recordâ€

 

[al-An’aam 6:59]

 

“No calamity befalls on the earth or in yourselves but it is inscribed in the Book of Decrees (Al‑Lawh Al‑Mahfooz) before We bring it into existence. Verily, that is easy for Allaahâ€

 

[al-Hadeed 57:22]

 

“And you cannot will unless (it be) that Allaah wills the Lord of the ‘Aalameen (mankind, jinn and all that exists)â€

 

[al-Takweer 81:29]

 

“Verily, We have created all things with Qadar (Divine Preordainments of all things before their creation as written in the Book of Decrees Al‑Lawh Al‑Mahfooz)â€

 

[al-Qamar 54:49]

 

Muslim (2653) narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Allaah wrote down the decrees of creation fifty thousand years before He created the heavens and the earth.†He said: “And His Throne was upon the water.â€

 

Hence it should be clear to you that the view that al-qadar was invented by al-Jahm ibn Safwaan is a view that has no sound basis. Al-qadar was not created, rather creation comes under the heading of belief in al-qadar. Al-Jahm went to extremes in affirming the divine will and decree, and claimed that people are compelled to do what they do and have no choice. This is a false view.

 

The belief of Ahl al-Sunnah wa'l-Jamaa'ah is that a person has freedom of will, and hence he will be rewarded or punished. But his will is subject to the will of Allaah, and nothing can take place in the universe that is not willed by Allaah.

 

What some people say, that we have the choice to follow whatever path we want but at the end of this path you will find what Allaah has decreed for you, is a correct view. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

 

“Verily, We showed him the way, whether he be grateful or ungratefulâ€

[al-Insaan 76:3]

 

“And shown him the two ways (good and evil)?â€

 

[al-Balad 90:10]

 

“And say: “The truth is from your Lord.†Then whosoever wills, let him believe; and whosoever wills, let him disbelieveâ€

 

[al-Kahf 18:29]

 

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said, explaining the view of Ahl al-Sunnah with regard to man’s deeds:

 

People act in a real sense, and Allaah is the Creator of their actions. A person may be a believer or a kaafir, righteous or immoral, he may pray and fast. People have control over their actions, and they have their own will, and Allaah is the Creator of their control and will, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

 

“To whomsoever among you who wills to walk straight.

 

And you cannot will unless (it be) that Allaah wills the Lord of the ‘Aalameen (mankind, jinn and all that exists)â€

 

[al-Takweer 81:28-29]

 

al-Waasitiyyah ma’a Sharh Harraas, p. 65.

 

Marriage is one of the things that Allaah has decreed. The person whom you will marry is known to Allaah: He knows who he is, when he was born, where and when he will die, how he will be towards you, and other details. All of that is known to Allaah and He has written it in al-Lawh al-Mahfooz (the Book of Decrees), and it will inevitably come to pass as Allaah has decreed.

 

If Allaah has decreed that you will marry one person, but you choose someone else, then no matter how long it takes, you will marry that person. But your marriage to someone else is also decreed, because there is nothing that is not decreed by Allaah. It may be decreed for a woman to marry So and so the son of So and so, and he comes to propose marriage but she refuses him, and marries someone else, then he (the second man) dies or divorces her, then she accepts the first one. All of that is decreed, and it is decreed for her to marry So and so the son of So and so after initially refusing him and after some experience or trials etc.

 

It may be decreed for a woman that a righteous man will propose marriage to her, but she will refuse him and he will never come back to her, and she will marry and live with someone else who is more or less righteous, according what Allaah has decreed.

 

Because man does not know what is decreed for him, what he must do is to adhere to sharee’ah and abide by its commands and prohibitions, and to seek the help of Allaah and pray to Him for guidance (istikhaarah) concerning all his affairs, whilst implementing the means, one of the most important of which is consulting sincere people who have relevant experience.

 

If a righteous man proposes marriage to a woman, she should pray to Allaah for guidance (istikhaarah) and agree to marry him. If things then go smoothly, this is an indication that what is good for her is to marry him.

 

In conclusion, man should study the sharee’ah of Allaah and follow the commands of Allaah even if he feels reluctant, and avoid what Allaah has forbidden even if he is attached to it. All goodness is to be found in obeying sharee’ah. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

 

“Jihaad (holy fighting in Allaah’s Cause) is ordained for you (Muslims) though you dislike it, and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allaah knows but you do not knowâ€

 

[al-Baqarah 2:216]

 

He should not look at al-qadar as an excuse to ignore commands and do forbidden things, rather he should look at it in a way that will make him content with whatever painful experiences happen to him.

 

And Allaah knows best.

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Everything is written and decreed, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

 

“We have neglected nothing in the Book†(al-An’aam 6:38)

 

“And everything they have done is noted in (their) Records (of deeds).†(al-Qamar 54:52)

 

And in the Saheeh Hadeeth:

 

“The first thing which Allaah created was the Pen. He said to it: ‘Write!’ It said, ‘O Lord, what should I write?’ He said: ‘Write what is to happen until the Day of Resurrection.’â€

 

According to another hadeeth:

 

“Allaah decreed everything for His creation fifty thousand years before He created the heavens and the earth.â€

 

These decrees are hidden from us and we do not know them. It is not permissible for us to rely on this and neglect to strive and take all necessary means. There is no contradiction between the two ideas. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

 

“O slaves of Allaah, seek treatment but do not seek treatment in haraam things, for Allaah has not sent down any disease without also sending down the cure.â€

 

And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) also said:

 

“Strive, and that for which each person was created will be made easy for him.â€

 

We do not know what has been decreed until after the fact. Allaah has given us free will and freedom of choice, but we do not move beyond the framework of the will and decree of Allaah. To sum up, there is no contradiction between trying to save a person from death and the idea that Allaah decrees all things, which we do not know until after they happen. And Allaah knows best.

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Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

 

“Who has created death and life that He may test you which of you is best in deedâ€

 

[al-Mulk 67:2]

 

“Laa ilaaha illa Huwa (none has the right to be worshipped but He). It is He Who gives life and causes deathâ€

 

[al-A’raaf 7:158]

 

No one has the power to benefit or harm another except by Allaah’s leave. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The Holy Spirit inspired to me that no soul will ever depart this world until it has completed its allotted time and used up its allotted provision, so do not be too desperate when seeking provision. If you feel that provision is slow in coming, do not try to hasten it by disobeying Allaah, for that which is with Allaah can only be attained by obeying Him.†Narrated by al-Tabaraani, 8/166; classed as hasan by al-Albaani).

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As salamualikum

 

"And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly, in these are signs for those who reflect."

(Quran 30:21)

 

So yes to answer your question it does apper that marriage is destiny and pre ordained.

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:D / Peace to all

 

:D for the posts. I totally agree with the answers given. In addition to the already complete answers given by sisters above, i would like to add a little bit.

 

Sometimes we want someone so much in our lives, but, Allaah has decreed that at that moment, we will not get what we desired.

 

We should accept what He has decreed and trust that He only gives us what is best for us, even though at that moment, we might face difficulty in accepting that fact. But, trusting Allaah is critical for everything in our lives. Allaah knows us more than we know ourselves. Thus, His knowledge and planning is perfect, no flaws.

 

Ah! Ye are those who fell to disputing (even) in matters of which ye had some knowledge! But why dispute ye in matters of which ye have no knowledge? It is Allah Who knows, and ye who know not! Surah Al-Imran : Verse 66

 

But Allah hath full knowledge of your enemies: Allah is enough for a protector, and Allah is enough for a Helper. Surah An-Nisa : Verse 45

 

A Grace and Favor from Allah; and Allah is full of Knowledge and Wisdom. The Chambers : Verse 8

 

However, still, we can and must keep our faith and prayer to Allaah that, Insya'Allaah, one day, if the timing, moment and circumstances is right for us, our prayer might be answered, Insya'Allaah.

 

We should always remember that :D . Trust Him and His planning. That shall make the trials in our lives so much more bearable. Tawakkal and leave your fate to Him.

 

Sis Zabrina

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Assalaamu Alaikum,

 

 

Alhamdullilah, sister has give good explanation,

but this does not mean that a person has no will in this world, or that a person should not strive to apply the means of attaining happiness and soundness. Allaah has created a means to reach every objective. Whoever wants to have a child has to get married. Whoever wants to be happy in the Hereafter has to strive hard for it, and follow the path of guidance. Whoever wants wealth has to work hard.

 

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Know that everyone will be guided to do that for which he was created. Whoever is meant to be one of the people of happiness will be guided to do the deeds of the people of happiness, and whoever is meant to be one of the people of doom will be guided to do the deeds of the people of doom.†Agreed upon.

 

Allaah does not tell anyone the details of what will happen to him, good or bad. Hence everyone has to strive to bring goodness to himself and ward off harm from himself. It is not wise to travel a path that leads to the opposite of what he wants and then say, “I will never get anything but that which has been decreed for me.†No one should sit in his house and then say: “I will never get any provision but that which has been decreed for me.†No one should eat rotten food and then say: “Nothing will happen to me but that which Allaah has decreed for me.†These are things which if anyone does them or says them, he would be regarded as insane and he is indeed insane.

 

With regard to marriage in particular, the Muslim knows that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) encouraged marriage to one who is religiously committed. This means that he should look for and seek out one who is religiously committed. No wise man would say “I will never try to do that†because if he is offered a woman who is insane or ugly or old or of bad character, he would never accept her as a wife. He will never say that he will marry the first woman he sees or the first woman who is offered to him. This supports what we have said, that he will turn away from some women and will think about others and will hesitate about some of them, and so on. If, after looking, thinking, consulting others and praying istikhaarah, he chooses a woman who is suitable for him, he will know that what Allaah decrees happens and what He does not decree does not happen, so he should hope that his Lord will guide him and decree for him that which is best for him and dearest to Allaah. Then if it happens, and his Lord decrees that he be given it or it be withheld, and whether it is in accordance with his desires or not, he has to think positively of his Lord and realize that Allaah does not decree anything for His grateful, patient, believing slave but that which is good. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “How wonderful is the affair of the believer, for all his affairs are good and this does not apply to anyone except the believer. If something good happens to him he is grateful, and that is good for him, and if something bad happens to him he is patient, and that is good for him.†Narrated by Muslim (2999).

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Assalaamu Alaikum,

 

With regard to the effect of obedience and sin on changing the divine decree, you know that that which is in al-Lawh al-Mahfooz can never be changed. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried.†Narrated and classed as saheeh by al-Tirmidhi (2516), from the hadeeth of Ibn ‘Abbaas. As for the pages which are in the hands of the angels, Allaah may command His angels to change it because of an act of worship that a Muslim does or because of a sin that he commits, but in the end it will not be anything other than that which was decreed from eternity. This is indicated by the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

 

“Allaah blots out what He wills and confirms (what He wills). And with Him is the Mother of the Book (AlLawh AlMahfooz)â€

 

[al-Ra’d 13:39]

 

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) urged us to do some acts of worship which have an effect of increasing a person’s lifespan, such as upholding ties of kinship, and he said that du’aa’ can repel the divine decree. What this means is that Allaah knew from the beginning that His slave So and so would do this act of worship, so He decreed for him a long life or a blessed provision, and au contraire a person may commit a sin because of which he is deprived of provision, and Allaah knew that and decreed it from eternity and decreed it according to His knowledge. Allaah does not compel anyone to obey Him or disobey Him.

 

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) summed this up in one hadeeth:

 

It was narrated that Thawbaan said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Nothing increases one’s lifespan except righteousness and nothing repels the divine decree except du’aa’, and a man may be deprived of provision by a sin that he commits.â€

 

Al-Busayri said in Misbaah al-Zujaajah (no. 33)

 

I asked our Shaykh Abu’l-Fadl al-‘Iraaqi (may Allaah have mercy on him) about this hadeeth and he said: This is a hasan hadeeth. End quote.

 

It was also classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah.

 

It was narrated from Anas ibn Maalik that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever would like his rizq (provision) to be increased and his life to be extended, should uphold the ties of kinship.†Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5640) and Muslim (2557).

 

Al-Tabaraani narrated with his isnaad from Abu ‘Uthmaan al-Nahdi, that ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab said when he was circumambulating the Ka’bah and weeping: “O Allaah, if You have decreed that I should be doomed or commit sin, then erase it, for You erase whatever You will, and You confirm (whatever You will), and with You is the Mother of the Book, so make it happiness and forgiveness.â€

 

The Taabi’i Abu Waa’il Shaqeeq ibn Salamah often used to supplicate with these words: “O Allaah, if You have decreed that we be doomed, then erase it and decree that we be blessed. If You have decreed that we be blessed, then confirm it for us, for You erase whatever You will and You You confirm (whatever You will), and with You is the Mother of the Book.†(Tafseer al-Tabari, 7/398).

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Assalam Alaikum

 

Jazaak Allah Khair... Its truly very satisfaction answrs to me...

 

May Allah reward all of you for this :D

 

God Bless Us All

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