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Would You Marry Someone You Met Online?

would you marry someone you met online?  

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  1. 1. would you marry someone you met online?

    • yes
      60
    • no
      39
    • maybe
      58
    • i already did and it turned out good
      12
    • i already did but it turned out bad
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For me, definetly not
Why not? it's not that you'll have an online marriage...you meet him online but then you'll meet him in your everyday life...and you could fall in love...

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:)

 

you'll have an online marriage

 

LOL!!

 

Get the witness,parents etc,and have one on messenger. :sl:

 

:sl:

 

 

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alsalamu 'alaikom,

 

If marrying someone I found out about online is what Allah has for me then I obide with acceptance and gratitude.

 

But there are many conditions to the "meeting":

 

1- That we never contact eachother online. This only in the most brings about fitnah. If for some people it worked then those incedents are exceptions, and in the deen you cant build rules on exceptions.

 

2- That my mahram is aware in the first place that I am looking, and he has the way to check on me when ever he wants.

 

3- That no photos, or personal contact is exchanged. If the brother wants to see me then he comes for a lawful sighting with my muhram present.

 

4- That no promises are made until we see eachother.

 

5- As for all the matrimonial sites, well i have only come across one that is actually IslamIC, smatch(contact admin if its a beneficial link). you cant get intouch with the person directly, the brother contacts you wali, and they arrange everything. yopu cant pm, or e-mail or anything. and for seriousness's measure, they only take contact requests on tuesdays. This is a good thing because atleast from the way I see it, when yo find someone you like, sending a contact request instantly might be out of desire, and not real thought and after istikhara. So the tuesday measure controls somewhat emotions. I wish more sites can be with the same sincerity and uncompromising as smatch(contact admin if its a beneficial link). Although theu could benefit from many improvements.

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I'd GO FOR IT !!

what's gonna happen it's gonna happen

and everything happens for the best...

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alsalamu 'alaikom,

 

If marrying someone I found out about online is what Allah has for me then I obide with acceptance and gratitude.

 

But there are many conditions to the "meeting":

 

1- That we never contact eachother online. This only in the most brings about fitnah. If for some people it worked then those incedents are exceptions, and in the deen you cant build rules on exceptions.

 

2- That my mahram is aware in the first place that I am looking, and he has the way to check on me when ever he wants.

 

3- That no photos, or personal contact is exchanged. If the brother wants to see me then he comes for a lawful sighting with my muhram present.

 

4- That no promises are made until we see eachother.

 

 

:sl:

 

but unfortunately very few people follow these conditions.....

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Salam

Seems to me muslim men will marry online more than other men because some relations like gf and so on restricted too much and they search such relation online.

But some people wanted to say that who use net to meet other is not good muslim. that is interesting idea :sl:

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Be careful if you meet someone online because you don't know who he or she really is. She or he may be a criminal or paranoid person etc who may terrorize, torture or kill you when you meet him or her! He may sell you to a pimp who will enslave you as his or her whore! Or you will be gone without a trace when you meet him or her in your first dating! Or he may rape you with his friends and murder you and dump your body in the forest!

BE CAREFUL !

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:j: brothers and sisters

 

my vote was for maybe

 

even if i met the person who i am about to marry online, it is not my first choice on how to find a good husband

of course i would have liked to have the help of my parents to find someone suitable, but don't live in muslim community and my parents aren't muslims eather :sl:

 

so i found him, he is nice and religious, he knows my familly and i know his family, inshallah things will work out well

i'm always asking for Allah's blessing and guidance for both of us

 

wouldn't have ever thought this will happen, but whatever Allah wills cannot be undone

 

...and Allah indeed knows best

 

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:j:

 

May Allah give you a great future sis,ameen.

 

I highly suggest you do Istikara Prayer and seek the guidance of Allah(swt).Or get a pious person to do it for you. :sl:

 

With important decisions it is best if we do this.

 

If you want to know how to do the prayer,let me know? :no:

 

:sl:

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:sl:

 

Let's see what Allah :sl: have planned for me...

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:sl:

would you marry someone you met online?

if you already did, please share your experiences

I think people who develop relationships on websites that are designated for relationships could have a succesful relationship.

However it is always better to see someone face to face, so that you can tell their body language and other habits rather than what you have seen of them from a controlled environment, where they can manipulate their picture and what they say.

 

Have fun!

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There was a programme on the BBC not so long ago where an imam said that it was permissable to find someone on the internet, however he did have some complex things to say about it

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yes how does a muslim go about getting married.

 

everything is haram.

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Precisely.

There are many success stories and as long as the other person has no intolerable traits, i.e their American then there should be no problem.

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absolutely, the internet is full of weirdos and unsavoury characaters.

On facebook people apparently still believe that Saddam is still alive.

One needs only to look at the hundreds of cases of people having met someone who was not what they said they were and were led into pits of depravity.

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not all people are as fortunate as you

masha Allah

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love the rigidity of your beliefs.

wouldnt a mahram kill the mood?

 

'three is a crowd'

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Be careful if you meet someone online because you don't know who he or she really is. She or he may be a criminal or paranoid person etc who may terrorize, torture or kill you when you meet him or her! He may sell you to a pimp who will enslave you as his or her whore! Or you will be gone without a trace when you meet him or her in your first dating! Or he may rape you with his friends and murder you and dump your body in the forest!

BE CAREFUL !

 

Wherever i look that good old ###### crops up. From politics to internet creeps your views I share.

Rape and murder with friends present? shed have to be very foolish to be with someone like that.

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Rape and murder with friends present?

 

gang rape (n.) Rape of a victim by several attackers in rapid succession.

 

shed have to be very foolish to be with someone like that.

 

March 29, 2007

 

Attorney General Corbett announces arrest of West Virginia youth basketball coach in Internet "child sex sting;" 67th arrest by Child Predator Unit

 

HARRISBURG - Attorney General Tom Corbett today announced that agents from the Attorney General's Child Predator Unit have filed criminal charges against a youth basketball coach from West Virginia who is accused of using an Internet chat room to sexually proposition what he believed was a 13-year old girl, as well as sending nude photographs to the girl.

 

Corbett identified the defendant as Kurt D. Elias, 35, of Wellsburg, West Virginia.

 

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Murdered student example of Internet danger

 

By Erin Guzik

 

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Taylor Behl would have turned 18 on Oct. 13. Instead of blowing out candles and opening birthday presents with friends, they mourned her at a visitation. She was laid to rest on Friday, Oct. 14.

 

Behl, 17, had just begun her freshman year at Virginia Commonwealth University. She was a business major.

 

Just like many other college students, Behl had a MySpace(contact admin if its a beneficial link) site as well as an online journal. MySpace(contact admin if its a beneficial link) is a website on which people can create unique profiles. These profiles can contain such items as pictures, music, icons, and surveys that one has completed. It can be used to send messages to people and get to know people throughout the world.

 

Although Behl’s MySpace(contact admin if its a beneficial link) site was named B I T T E R, that seemed to hardly be the case. Friends of Behl left her many comments, including songs, pomes and artwork to mourn her death. One friend left a comment saying, "Happy Birthday Taylor, 18’s a good one and think of all the cool people you get to share it with up in heaven. Maggie."

 

Since the teen went missing about a month ago, even people who did not know her have been leaving comments to mourn Behl’s death.

 

Police are considering Ben Fawley, a 38-year-old amateur photographer, a suspect in the Behl case. It has been said through both Court Television Network, as well as NBC 4 (Richmond, Va. local news channel), that Behl first came across Fawley through MySpace(contact admin if its a beneficial link) and another online journal site.

 

Although the first autopsy of the body did not allow coroners to find a cause of death, Fawley was the last person to see Behl before her disappearance. It had been said that the two had a few romantic encounters.

 

According to crimelibrary(contact admin if its a beneficial link), Fawley made a confession.

 

"…Fawley told police that he and Taylor went in her car to an area near a beach in Mathews County the night she disappeared," according to the website. "He then told police that while they were in her car, she died accidentally during ‘rough sex, when he restricted her breathing.’ Fawley explained that he panicked when he realized she was dead and placed her body in the ravine in which she was later found. The ravine was adjacent to property owned by a former girlfriend. Police are now trying to verify Fawley’s account, but do not accept it at face value."

 

Fawley has a criminal record in Pennsylvania and Virginia. He has a bi-polar disorder and has a history of violent assaults tied to women who try to end relationships with him. He also has several convictions for larceny and theft. On top of being a suspect in Behl’s murder, he is also facing 16 counts of possession of child pornography and possession of a firearm in violation of Virginia laws regarding convicted felons.

 

Fawley had a MySpace(contact admin if its a beneficial link) site, as well as multiple sites for journals and his photography.

 

In this generation, online networking sources like MySpace(contact admin if its a beneficial link) and facebook(contact admin if its a beneficial link), as well as online journals, like Xangas (you are not allowed to post links yetxanga(contact admin if its a beneficial link)) or LiveJournals (you are not allowed to post links yetlivejournal(contact admin if its a beneficial link)) are extremely common among college students. These resources are seen as a way to keep in touch and meet new people. As the MySpace(contact admin if its a beneficial link) tour says, "Creating a profile in MySpace is fast, fun, and easy. You can disclose as much or as little information about yourself as you want. MySpace will always keep your personal information private and confidential. We will only show what you choose to share. You can even post pictures of yourself to add to the fun - ALL FREE!"

 

Although these sites are free, they do sometimes come with the cost of privacy.

 

As stated, one can share as much or as little as they would like to, but when does one cross the line of sharing too much?

 

According to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, one in five children are sexually exploited online. The center, in efforts with the National Ad Council, has created HDOP: Help Delete On-Line Predators. Within this organization, people can find lists of acronyms that have been created for chatting. HDOP states that sometimes people chat online but don’t even really know what they are chatting about. Acronyms like MUSM (miss you so much), POS (parent over shoulder), SYT (sweet young thing) or OLL (online love) can fly over people’s heads if they are not watching out for them, and although sometimes these acronyms can be harmless, it all depends on who is typing.

 

Most online sites allow students to have profiles that share information. MySpace has a column for people to share their interests in general, music, movies, television, books and heroes categories. It also allows you to disclose your ‘status’ in a relationship, what you chose to use MySpace for, your sexual orientation, hometown, if you have kids or not and many other personal details. Also, you can include ‘blurbs’ about yourself.

 

According to safetyinfo(contact admin if its a beneficial link), the blurbs are what sometimes get people in trouble. Many blurbs share small details, like the activities one likes to participate in at school or favorite things, but others share too much, such as screen names and phone numbers and can sometimes become very provocative.

 

Blurbs and blogs, which are online journal entries, can also show vulnerability, which can make some easy targets for predators. Behl’s online LiveJournal was titled "tiabliaj" which is "jailbait" spelled backwards. In her journal, she talks about her life and the situations she faced. Fawley had said in questioning that she seemed like a "sad girl," and according to Court TV, predators thrive on so-called "sad girls."

 

JJC Police Chief Pete Comanda said that JJC hasn’t had major issues with internet-related relationships, but he did say that he is alarmed with the information that people are sharing with each other on online forums. "It’s no different than dating, and if the information is something that you would not share with someone sitting next to you at a bar, then you shouldn’t be sharing it with millions of people online," said Comanda.

 

"I’m amazed at what people will put on these things and how they feel that nothing will ever happen to them."

 

Another one of Comanda’s concerns with sharing information on the Internet is identity theft. Most people on these sites state their names, birthdates, and even addresses and phone numbers.

 

"Identity theft is something that ruins people’s lives, and it’s something that people, especially students, need to be aware of," Comanda said.

 

Fawley will appear in court for a Preliminary Hearing on Monday, Oct. 31. According to Court TV, the prosecution is considering dropping the weapons charge against Fawley in exchange for a confession and a plea in the case.

 

 

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