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as salam u alaykum

from the topic name i'm sure you can guess what i am going to ask you, how do you make a man happy..... 'win their happiness back?' please people do not post that old joke up

thanks in advance :D

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How to Make your Husband Happy

To help strengthening the Muslim families and spread the teachings of Islam in building families, the Muslim Students' Association at the University of Alberta prepared a extremely summarized translation for two books. The books are Arabic by Sheikh Mohammad Abdelhaleem Hamed. An Egyptian scholar, who graduated from the Islamic University of AlMadinah Al-Munawwarah in Saudi Arabia. The two books are:

1- How to make your wife happy

2- How to make your husband happy

 

These books exceed the traditional presentation of stating rights and duties to the 'Adab (good manners) and extend into application of these rights in daily life. The following summary highlights mainly the responsibilities or examples of what could or should be done. Every single item mentioned by the author is supported by evidences from Qur'an, Sunnah or the actions of the companions, but evidences are omitted in this translation. The following is the translation of the SECOND book.

 

This translation is copyrighted to MSA at University of Alberta. Feel free to repost it or reprint it by all means, provided that you do not make any changes, additions, or omissions without permission.

 

1. Beautiful Reception. After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you, begin with a good greeting

 

 

 

Meet him with a cheerful face.

Beautify and perfume yourself

Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested

Receive him with loving and yearning sentences

Make hard efforts for excellence of the food & having it ready on time.

 

2. Beautify and Soften the Voice

 

 

For your husband only, it shouldn't be used in front of non-mahram men (men who can marry you if you were unmarried)

 

3. Smelling Good and Physical Beautification

 

 

Taking good care of your body and fitness

Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes

Bath regularly and, after the monthly period, remove any blood traces or bad smells

Avoid that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape

Avoid prohibited types of ornamentation, e.g. tatoo

Use the types of perfumes, colors, and clothes that the husband likes

Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time

However with these things you should avoid excessiveness and, of course, only act as such in front of mahrem men and women.

 

4. Intercourse

 

 

Hasten for intercourse when your husband feels compulsion for it.

Keep your body clean and smelling good as possible including cleaning yourself of released fluids during intercourse.

Exchange loving phrases with your husband.

Leave your husband to fully satisfy his desire.

Choose suitable times and good occasions for exciting your husband, and encouraging him to do intercourse, e.g. after returning from a travel, weekends, etc.

 

5. Satisfaction With What Allah (SWT) Has Allotted

 

 

You shouldn't be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job.

You should look at poor, sick, and handicapped people and remember Allah (SWT) for all that was given to you

You should remember that real wealth lays in Iman and piety.

 

6. Indifference to Worldly Things

 

 

You should not consider this world as your hope and interest

You should not ask your husband for many unnecessary things

Asceticism does not mean not to enjoy what is good and permissible (Halal), but it means that one should look forward to the hereafter and utilize whatever Allah SWT gave them to achieve paradise (Jannah).

Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to give charity and feed poor and needy people.

 

7. Appreciation

 

 

By the saying of the prophet, the majority of people in hell were women because they were ungrateful and deny the good done to them.

The result of being grateful is that your husband will love you more and will do his best to please you in more ways

The result of being ungrateful is that your husband will be dissappointed and will start asking himself: Why should I do good to her, if she never appreciates?

 

8. Devotion and Loyalty

 

 

In particular in times of calamities in your husband's body or business, e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy

Supporting him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.

 

9. Compliance to Him

 

 

In all what he commands you, unless it is prohibited (Haram).

In Islam, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his support and consultant

 

10. Pleasing Him If He Is Angry

 

 

First off, try to avoid what will guarantee his anger.

But if it happens that you can't, then try to appease him as follows:

1- If you mistaken, then apologize

2- If he mistaken then:

# Keep still instead of arguing or

# Yield you were right or

# Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.

3- If he was angry because of external reasons then:

# Keeping silent untill his anger goes

# Find execuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, some one insulted him

# Do not ask many questions and insist on knowing what happened, e.g.

1) You should tell me what happened?

2) I must know what made you so angry.

3) You are hidding something, and I have the right to know

11. Guardianship While He is Absent

 

 

Protecting yourself from any prohibited relations

Keep the secrets of the family, particularly intercourse and things that the husbands don't like other people to know

Take care of the house and children

Take care of his money and properties

Do not go out of your house without his permission and put on full hijab

Refuse people whom he does not like to come over

Do not allow any non-mahram man to be alone with you in any place

Be good with his parents and relatives in his absence

 

12. Showing Respect for his Family and Friends

 

 

You should welcome his guests and try to please them, especially his parents

You should avoid problems as much as you can with his relatives

You should avoid putting him is a position where he had to choose between his mother and his wife

Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in, perfection of food, welcoming their wives, etc.

Encourage him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home.

Phone his parents and sisters, send letters to them, buy gifts for them, support them in calamities, etc.

 

13. Admirable Jealousy

 

 

Jealousy is a sign for wife's love for her husband but it should be kept within the limits of Islam, e.g. not insulating or backbiting others, disrespecting them, etc.

You should not follow or create unfounded doubts.

 

14. Patience and Emotional Support

 

 

Be patient when you face poverty and strained circumstances.

When you face calamities and disasters that may happen to you, your husband, your children, relatives or properties, e.g. diseases, accidents, death, etc.

When facing hardships in Da'wah (imprisonment, getting fired, arrested, etc.), be patient and encourage him to keep on the path of Allah and remind him of paradise.

When he mistreats you, counteract his ill-treatment by good treatment

 

15. Support in Obedience to Allah, Da'wah and Jihad

 

 

Cooperate with your husband and remind him of different obligatory and voluntary worships.* Encourage him to pray at night.

Listen and reciting the Qur'an individually and with your husband.

Listen to Islamic tapes and songs individually and with your husband.

Remember Allah SWT much, particularly after Fajr and before Maghrib.

Share in arranging Da'wah activities for women and children.

Learn Islamic rules (ahkam) and good manners ('adab) for women.

Support your husband's activities by encouraging him, offering wise opinions, soothing his pains, etc.

Yielding some of your rights and a part of your time with your husband for Da'wah.

Encourage him to go for Jihad when needed and remind him that you and children will be in the preservation of Allah SWT.

 

15. Good Housekeeping

 

 

Keep it clean, decorated and well arranged.

Change house arrangements from time to time to avoid boredom.

Perfect of food and prepare healthy foods.

Learn all the necessary skills for managing the house, e.g. sewing.

Learn how to raise children properly and in an Islamic way.

 

17. Preservation of Finances and the Family

 

 

Do not spend from his money, even for charity without his permission unless you are sure that he agrees on this.

Protect his house, car, etc. while he is absent.

Keep the children in good shape, clean clothes, etc. Take care of their nutrition, health, education, manners, etc. Teach them Islam and tell them the stories of the Prophets and companions.

 

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jazakallah khair for that brother. anybody got ideas like actual things you can do. if you understand :D thanls again

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Assalamualaikum

 

Have his food ready and waiting at the table when he gets back home from work!!!

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:D make him feel like a king, have a clean home, food, be nicely dressed, make sure you are clean, tell him how thankful you are to have him,..............

 

 

treat him the way you want to be treated!!!!!

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Asalaamo aleykum,

 

When he comes home tired, you can massage his legs, back or feet.

(it will even earn you sawaab I've been told when you act before he asks :D

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I accidently posted the reply intended for this thread in the other one.

 

This is giving me a headache now, ugh.

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Believe it or not, every man is different... :D

 

Assalaamu Alaikum,

 

Whoa...that has to be the first time I have heard that from a female. Usually its always "Guys are all the same!"

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salam

 

how to please a man?

 

the easiest explanation, look, talk all innocent, im telling you know you will have the man on his knees :D, only kidding, but i was serious about the innocent bit. Some men want to talk more, some want to talk less, some want more attention, etc, i suppose the best thing would be to directly ask him. But the first solution i gave is quite universal.

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as salamu alaikum

 

i think after you get married, you will learn what exactly makes your husband happy, and like someone already said, each man is different. they all like different things, and want different thigns from their wife. i think the basics were in brother ahm's post, and then u have little details, for instance, if you know he needs soemthing or wants soemthing, get it for him as a gift without there having to be a celebration and suprise him with it. sometimes just simple words of love and kindness are all that u need to make your husband happy, not everything takes a lot of effort. and when u make that effort he will inshallah make the same effort with you :D

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Salaam,

 

There is a 'How to make your wife happy' thread here: "you can't post links until you reach 50 posts_forums.gawaher(contact admin if its a beneficial link)/index.php?showtopic=4941"]you can't post links until you reach 50 posts_forums.gawaher(contact admin if its a beneficial link)/index.php?showtopic=4941[/url]

 

Wassalaam.

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as salam u alaykum

from the topic name i'm sure you can guess what i am going to ask you, how do you make a man happy..... 'win their happiness back?' please people do not post that old joke up

thanks in advance  :D

 

 

assalaamu alaykum,

 

well if it was me you were married to...

 

make sure you do your minimum Islamic duties, occassionally wake me for tahajjud if i sleep in, pleasent conversation and make sure i get plenty of hugs and kisses to as i am quite a physically emotional person.

 

that is it really, then again i am probably easier to please than most men as i think this will be different for each brother on here.

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salaam wa alaikum

some very good advice there by AHM, jazakallh for providing it. although i am not in that sitution my self i can advise others.

very good advice.

jazakallh once again

and i would also like to say that you yourself only know what is best for him/her so do what you think is best.

 

Allahfiz

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:D :D

assalamu alaikom

 

make him feel that u cant live a moment without him...and that ur life and soul and everything is just and only for him,,,and make it a reality for ur self too...just love him very very much

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:D

 

This post is giving m3 goosebumps ... Make him feel as if hez worth a million bucks ... the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach ... and treat him with tender ... Us Guys Got feelings too and love to be pampered (0_o) !!!! ... Hey we all are equal ...

YOu scratch my back ... i scratch yours ... get the drift :D

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Salam,

 

Sister only you know what your husband likes. Maybe you can list a few here and brothers and sisters can give you ideas :D ...what food he likes, sports, does like being surprised? ...you know things like that..can email me or any other sisters if you like... :D

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salam to all

thanx for all the fab advice :D

insha Allah you will all be rewarded both in this life and the hereafter - ameen!

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salaam wa alaikum

the advice in this post is really good mashallah and judging by the facts given i think anyone muslim wife/husband knws what to do.

 

jazakallh for proving the info and i can now relate it to someone.

 

may Allah swt guide us to the right path. ameen.

 

wa alaikum salaam

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salaam wa alaikum

 

ok, um, dont you mean..

 

MAY Allah THE ALMIGHTY GUIDE HIS SLAVES TO THE RIGHT PATH (SIRATUL MUSTAQEEM). ameen thumma ameen.

 

wa alaikum salaam

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Asalam Alaykum One thing you could do would be to just plan a surprise romantic day or something. Change things up. Rent a room at a bed and breakfast place or even a hotel for a day. Dress up for him...maybe even buy him a small gift (guys like gifts too). Decrate the room with candles or flowers or something.Take a walk by the lake, cook for him his favorite meal...the main thing is that you plan it out. Do some things that remind of you guys of when you first got married. Find out things he likes to do even playing videogames.

 

One thing I noticed that brings me and my husband closer is prayer together.....Pray together stay together! I hope I was some help.

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