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Assalamu' Alaykum Muslim brothers and sisters.

 

My sister and I live with my mother in Kuwait, I started university 2 years ago and when I came home this year during summer break in July I found that my sister had been talking to a boy on Instagram who was sending her heart shapes and inappropriate material via her private chat. I confronted my sister about it and she told me that he was just a friend from school and that I didn't need to worry about him, she begged me not to tell our mother and I said I'll think about it. I, of course, had to tell my mother about it, later on in the day, but made her promise beforehand not to do anything irrational before I got to the bottom of it and she left the matter in my hands. I told my sister the day after to stop talking to the boy at once and to un-follow and block him, she agreed to the former part not talking to him but she didn't want to un-follow him because he was her friend and he would probably be sad if she did, and so out of compassion I let her. Two months later in September, she started her university education in Canada, when I went to her university once I asked for her password so I can have access to the internet and so she sent it to me. Today (December) I was scrolling through Facebook and found that she'd made an account even though she always said she despised Facebook, I went through her friends list and found that the boy whom I told her to stop talking to had become friends with her, I scrolled through her page even further and found that it's only been 2 months since she made her Facebook. The thought occurred to me that she didn't hold her end of the bargain and so I decided to try her e-mail and password combination on Facebook and it worked. I went through her messages and found that she was still talking to the boy, not only that, but she once texted one of her boy friends that she met in college: "If you meet my brother please don't tell him that I drink and hug boys because he's gonna kill me if he finds out." Please I need help, I want to tell my mother but I don't want to ruin her education or our relationship. Me and my sister are practically best friends so if I do this she will probably detest me for the rest of her life.

 

Thank you for reading,,,

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Wa alaikum assalam

Islam instilled family values and gave security to the people. Thus, with Islam, there is no longer a "need" to drink in order to relieve unhappiness and stress by slipping into a fantasy world. Give here advice/nasiha privately.

The fear of God helps Muslims keep away from not only alcohol, but all other evils prohibited by the Qur'an, such as adultery, abuse and gambling. Peer pressure (sistererhood) also helps Muslims abstain from these sins.

Islam is very clear on the topic of extra-marital affairs, and considers it as one of the major sins. It is important to note in this instance that Islamic teachings are often preventive in nature so “chances” that a person may become vulnerable to the temptation of one sin or another are excluded.

In The Qur’an in (Surah 17, al Isra,, verse 32), Allah says: Do not go near adultery, .surely it is an indecency, and an evil way [of fulfilling sexual urge]. (17:32) Please note that extra-marital affairs may not involve any sex.  It could be an emotional affair via the internet, and that may itself be equally problematic and dangerous.

Have a look here: https://www.quranandscience.com/featured-articles/341-alcohol-in-islam

http://aboutislam.net/shariah/shariah-and-humanity/shariah-and-life/premarital-relationships-why-not-2/

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